Woman A: Dates one man at a time. Is loyal to the “talking” stage. Emotionally invests in that one man even without a relationship title.
Woman B: Dates multiple men. Understands that there is nothing wrong with getting to know people in order to see who is the best fit. Doesn’t over-invest in any man until he proves himself.
Are you Woman A or Woman B? Most of you pretend to be Woman B, but the reality is you date one man at a time because you’re desperate to hit a home run, get wifed, and leave this crazy world of dating alone. You meet a dude, he’s nice, handsome, good career path, and he talks just the right amount of cocky shit to make you spring a leak by the end of date one. In your mind, “that’s my boyfriend, he just doesn’t know it yet.” All the other guys you swiped on those apps— cut. All the weird thirst buckets in your DMs who you entertain out of boredom— cut. That ex who you’re thinking about giving another chance—cut! You met the man who you want to be yours and you’re using a combination of prayer, law of attraction, and good old fashion “wishing” to mentally affirm that he will be yours. This new guy is the exception to all your rules about moving too fast and you know in your soul that he’s the one. When potential meets lust, smart women make dumb choices. You bought into “what could be” and that’s why you cut everyone off and put your eggs in his basket before you’ve fully vetted him.
4-6 months later… he wasn’t the one. He wasted your time. Now here you are bitter, angry, and lonely because you allowed yourself to be that basic ass woman that dated one at a time. A Spartan would have had another guy or two on the roster. A Spartan would have read enough of my work to know that the honeymoon stage is always a false high. A Spartan would have never put her eggs in one fucking basket because a Spartan lives by the rule that she’s single and free to do what the fuck she wants until someone earns her loyalty! You’re not a Spartan, you are still a little girl in a grown ass woman’s body that gets her hopes up because you’re afraid to risk the dick.
Women are the prize. “Not these days with the way guys act–” zip that shit up Basica, no one wants to hear your hot ass breath spewing excuses. I don’t care if you don’t go many places to meet guys or if you only get a few quality options that want to date you, the only thing you need to hit reset on your sad ass weak ass Basica ass life is to be proactive and stop waiting for these men to pick you up and put you down! Over committing is something 9 out of 10 of you do out of pure laziness. Yes, men are guilty of doing it as well, but the average male always has a backup plan, women rarely do. Ladies, I’m a happily married man that used to play this game when I was younger. A lot of guys don’t like me because I help women in need. Stop being hard headed and use this wisdom I’m about to share as we go deep into the mindset of how this game is played so you can either break free of this way of life or avoid it all together…
How Men Play The Game
If a man is not engaged, married, or in a long time serious relationship, his eggs are in other baskets, meaning that he is actively in the process of dating other women, fucking other women, or open to talking to other women while he’s dealing with you. Why do men do this? Because even the dumb ones are smart enough to cover their bases. If you start acting funny, get in your feelings, turn out to be a false alarm, or if he finds someone he likes more, a man can freely move on to the next bitch basket, without heartbreak or depression. For example, when you break up with your “exclusive, but not official” friend of six months; you cry and stress to the point of being physically sick because you were 100% invested in that man who suckered you into a half-ass relationship. That same man you’re broken up about will be a sad, but he will be fine in a week or two. It’s not because that man is cold hearted, it’s because he didn’t invest 100% in your stock. He was 40% into you, 20% into his ex who he was still fucking, 15% into the new crush he’s been trying to pull off Instagram, and he kept the last 25% reserved in case he meets a new chick off Tinder. Relationships end every day, and men can’t afford to be left emotionally bankrupt over a girl he was only half-sure about in the first place.
It’s romantic suicide to invest in a person that you’re not blown away with or sure about, and that goes for men and women. However, women are generally more willing to take that risk and put all their eggs in one basket much more frequently than men because their desire for romance and love blinds them from the warning signs that the dude she’s crushing on has serious issues and isn’t worth going all in with. The reality of your romantic life is that you HATE dating, you meet a guy who seems better than most, you stop looking and focus on getting to know him exclusively. Earth to Basica! Learn to fucking multitask and stop being so lazy! You can not give guys you just “talk to” husband benefits just because you want to play house! Cock your head, roll your eyes, and tell the world how special you are, but if your relationship status remains, “it’s complicated” that means the person you’re dealing with thinks he can do better.
21st century men invented exclusive, but not committed relationships aka Situationships because unlike dudes in the 70’s, they realized that you don’t have to say, “be my girlfriend” or “You know I love you” in order to get a girl to give up pussy, mouth, or money. A man who isn’t sold on you will hold back emotionally, because he is looking for something better. This deliberate withholding of his feelings allows men to get over you easier or scout for new pussy to replace you with, without feeling guilty. Emotionally detaching yourself during the dating stage is mandatory because it’s all an audition where you have to test consistency and worthiness. How can you do that if you’re blinded by potential? You would have to be a fool to lower your guard and date with your heart on your sleeve knowing how lame 75% of the dating population is after you expose their true agenda.
You think you know everything, but you don’t…
-How do you know he really likes you?
-If he likes you as much as he says why aren’t you official?
-Are you sure you’re the only one he talks to?
-Can you give some real examples to justify why he’s the only guy you’re currently talking to? …I’ll wait.
Those questions are triggering because you know what you have is built on a bunch of nothing. You diagnosed a crush as a soul tie and now you’re trying to overcompensate by giving him all kinds of benefits hoping he picks you for real. Why would he at this point? Because you’re pretty? Because you’re smart? Because you have a good job? Because you’re funny? Because you have a big heart? None of those things make you rare!
Most women overvalue their role in a man’s life based on what they assume they bring to the table and the simple shit men do when showing affection. He texts you throughout the day. He tells you how different you are. He does what he has to do to stroke your ego and lower your guard, and you eat it up. What is he doing to solidify this top spot in your life? Are you two really together? Did you two define what you are? Has he spent any real money or taken you anywhere that a teenager with a summer job couldn’t take a bitch? Bare minimum feels like royal treatment when you have a history of being undervalued! You’re open off of basic shit because you desperately want the fairy tale. That’s why you brainwash yourself into believing you matter to this man despite him treating you average and never defining his role in your life. Call yourself his “Friend,” “Bae,” or whatever else makes you feel less guilty about giving up pussy to a man that won’t commit, but at the end of the day, you are not his girlfriend, you’re just a girl he sees. Every male over 21 knows that if you give a typical girl attention and affection, she will assume love and a relationship are on the way. By the time she figures out she’s been played, it’s too late and he’s off to the next chick. You can’t be mad at that because he was always single, you were the one assuming that you were in a relationship.
Why Men See You As Easy Prey
How many of the ladies reading this see themselves as a “he could do better, but hopefully he’ll settle for me,” type of woman? Hopefully none, but in reality some man will see you as good enough to fuck, cuddle with, and date, but not good enough to go all in and commit. “What are we?” has never been asked by a Boss Bitch. Ultimatums aren’t used by Alpha Females. By the time you get to date three if a man isn’t on your clit, then that isn’t the man for you. I talk a lot about ego, but the positive side of it is that it dictates that you don’t wait around for someone to treat you like you deserve. A man who has had multiple conversations with you should not be too cool to act like you’re the shit. Yet, there you are, unsure if a guy likes you because you failed the first stage of Spartanhood 101: Knowing yourself well enough to seal your insecurities.
Girls stress over not being good enough for men more than the internet would like to admit. Women beat their face, fry their hair, starve themselves, dumb down their personality, and give up sex way too fast because male approval is everything. So many ladies think these dudes want Ms. Perfect. Wrong, they want Ms. Worth it. It’s not about the model looks, it’s not about the phat ass, it’s not even about holding him down financially or emotionally. Men are looking for that clear sign that you are different form the other women he’s been with throughout the years that annoyed him, hurt him, or bored him.
A man saying, “You’re different” doesn’t count, the proof is in his actions, and 10 out of 10 times being impressively different gets a commitment in less than a month. So where’s your commitment? Why is he still telling you how busy he is? Why isn’t he doing romantic shit weekly? You’re not different, beloved, you’re plain as fuck. Many girls don’t want to hear that they aren’t that different form the next chick, they want to blame men for being confused about what they want or too immature to spot a real woman. Yes, some men are blind to good women, but if you are meeting multiple men who don’t see you as more than Pussy, then you have to reexamine how truly different you are. Your ego is telling you that you’re an A-, but the guy you like sees you as a C+, and that’s why you’re a grown woman still stuck in a placeholder relationship. So why would a man waste his time dealing with Ms. Average? Why would a man tell Ms. Average how much he loves her? Why would he eat Ms. Average’s ass? Why would he blow up Ms. Average’s phone when she tries to cut him off? Because even at average, you’re something to do.
What makes you special? What makes you different? You say you’re the shit, but give me some receipts? You talk about the same shit, take the same pictures with the same angles and the same filters, you have the same shallow opinions, and you even fuck like the last two girls he hit. These guys treat you like you’re whatever because you see yourself as whatever. You need to start believing in yourself, but you can’t do that if you secretly hate how you act or see yourself as typical. Spartanhood is about ripping down the old you in order to get to know the True you. This isn’t to land a date, it’s to land true confidence so you will always be the most interesting woman in the room.
You Don’t Chase Men, But You Wait For Men
Men, even the ugly and broke ones, rarely put their eggs in one basket because love parched girls have made it easy to test drive without ever buying. One of the phrases I hear weekly is, “I don’t chase men.” Oh. My. God! You don’t chase!?! Girl, you’re so rare and special!?! Here’s a cookie, now go share it with your other friends who are just as single as you are. That chase stuff doesn’t mean shit, because most of you do something much worse—you wait. Waiting for a man to decide what he wants from you is more of a crime than chasing after a man. Men do not mind chasing women because we are hunters by nature. There is no ego when it comes to going after what we want because given the choice of chasing a dime or settling for a six, men will risk the possible rejection.
Women aren’t raised that way; to chase a man is to be thirsty in the female rule book. Approaching a man or shooting your shot makes you look easy or reeks of “masculine energy” or whatever you Basicas call it. Going after the men you want is out of the question, therefore the common way a woman lives life is to wait for men to pursue her then wait for a man to lock her down. Fuck that rule book, because the most weak bitch thing you could ever do is let a man use you up for months while waiting on him to decide if you are good enough to truly be with. The men that approach you are most likely clowns. The one clown that wins you over, is most likely not going to commit. And there you are, just as much of a clown because you allowed these fuckboi’s to lead you around the block.
If a man that’s sampled your pussy countless times, has had 100s of hours of conversations with you, and has made you comfortable enough where you can shit in his bathroom and not be embarrassed, STILL doesn’t know if he wants to be with you—then that is him telling you that you’re a C+! Stop waiting for men to spell it out for you because, niggas can’t spell!
You’re not stupid, you know what “I’m not ready for something serious,” “I’m too busy with my career,” or “I’m still getting over my ex,” really means… You ain’t my top draft pick, so I’m going to keep trading up until I land what I really want… maybe if I never get who I want I may circle back and settle for you, but even then I’m still going to be on the lookout for a better partner.
So many women ask, “How can I get him to see me as a game changer.” You can’t while you’re still thinking like a Basica. Why are you chasing him, when he should be chasing you? Why are you waiting for his decision of if you are wifey material, when he should be trying to prove his hubby worth? The most powerful weapon you can use in dating is, “what you won’t do, the next man will.” Spartans don’t get chosen, they choose.
Stop Asking Questions You Know The Answer To
So where is this going? So what are we building towards? So what do you see as far as our future?
You know what the answer will be, “Let’s keep doing what we’re doing.” Translation: Leave me alone you placeholder, and enjoy this ride before I bump into the girl I really want.
Why are you playing mind games with yourself? You know that man isn’t going to change his answer. His first answer, second answer, and last answer told you repeatedly, “I’m not ready for something serious (with you).” Get the hint! Love is explosive, it’s passionate, it’s absolute, and never does it include wearing a person down until they see you as special.
The longer you wait for a man to tell you you’re good enough to be his girl, the more comfortable you get playing that role. You’re not an official couple, but his actions will blind you into thinking that a commitment is coming. Commitment is not coming, you are in a dress rehearsal playing the role of wifey, and you’re so caught up in your character that you forget the most important thing, the role has never been yours, and this man is still auditioning other women. I don’t care how in love you are with him or the potential of what could be, the truth will set you free, and the truth is you’re giving your all to a man that’s still focused on casting someone better than you.
Stop Being Understanding
Men are masters of making you understand their struggle. He’s going through a tough time at work, at school, with his family, or has to focus on his Fantasy Football league, so he can’t give you what you want. You understand… you accept it and you make it a positive by saying “at least he’s honest.” Dafuq? Dude just told you that you’re sub-par and not worth the effort of rearranging his life to see you, and that makes you love him more? A man is never too busy for what he wants, yet here you are allowing him to convince you that his life is so hectic that he only has time to come by at night and put his dick in. Are you dense? You come first! You compromise—with your boyfriend or husband, you don’t compromise with some nigga who has time to sext but never time to take you out on real dates. Stop being gullible! Your situation isn’t different. His story isn’t the exception. You’re being gamed just like the countless others!
Stop Being A Band-Aid
You can always tell when a man has New Pussy on his radar, communication become less frequent, his temper becomes short, and the arguments are random and petty. From my side of the fence, I see that your “Him” is trying to get a new “her,” but your naïve ass just sees it as a test. You’ve been brainwashed to believe that you fix things no matter what. Now you’re trying to guess what’s wrong and adjust your actions to make him happy because you think that’s what “good girls” do– roll over. Over-stand the male hustle, beloved. You’re not having a rough patch, he’s trying to sabotage your relationship and force you out in a way where he doesn’t have to be the bad guy. This form of Gaslighting is one of the most effective tactics because it allows him to keep the door cracked in case that new girl doesn’t work.
Why should it be up to a woman to fix a relationship with a man that won’t even claim her as his official girlfriend? That’s like paying to put new brakes on a rental car. You’re maintaining a man that’s not yours and has no intention of being yours because you are desperate for love and affection. You fix marriages, not Situationships! What happened during your life to make you this fucking weak when it comes to dick? You don’t even respect yourself so how can you ever get respect from a man?
Stop Feeling Guilty
How can a man tell his friend how important she is, and then go pull another chick in the mall a few hours later and not feel guilty. Because he’s single. A lot of you don’t know what single means. Look at your ring finger—if you don’t have a band, then you are single. It’s normal for a man to date multiple women. It’s rare for a woman to date multiple men. It has nothing to do with right or wrong, it’s guilt that keeps the sexes unequal. Guilty Woman logic dictates that if you are talking to a cute guy on the phone and going on dates for two weeks, you can’t go get the number of another cute guy and date him too. Even though you aren’t in a serious relationship, that behavior makes you a disloyal hoe who will be forced to raise her hand every time that Chris Brown song comes on. To avoid this you settle for one guy at a time, 100% investment, hoping that he turns out to be boyfriend material. Count up the months you’ve wasted dating ONE man that turned out to be a piece of shit, when you could have been spreading the wealth, and tell me how smart you feel. A man can tell his homies that he went out with four girls this past weekend and get props. On the other side of the gender fence, a girl can go out with four boys, not fuck any, and her friends will turn their noses up. The moment she opens her mouth to say that she’s popular enough to get four different men to court her, she becomes fast, a hoe, or nasty.
Rival women talk shit about women who date multiple men because they don’t understand how to use pussy power without actually giving out pussy. They assume sex has to be exchanged to get something from a man, including love. They haven’t evolved so they judge and ridicule out of jealousy and ignorance. I would bet that most women reading this, even those who have read this site regularly, have read Ho Tactics, and know their power, are still afraid to use it. Guilt, holds you back because the moment you think about flirting with a stranger, taking his number, and getting him to take you out an hour after the last dude dropped you off, you feel bad. Where does this guilt come from? Men don’t feel guilty, because they are savvy enough not to go all in when they aren’t sure of a woman. After a man is happily married, he won’t sit back and feel bad about talking to Tanya at the same time as Tina. The ends justified the means! Women should operate on this same level. That guilt is your old programming trying to keep you basic. You feel wrong because people have told you to feel wrong, but wait ten years and then add up all of the time you wasted dealing with one guy at a time because it felt “right” and you’ll experience true guilt, the guilt of not living life to the fullest.
Start Getting More Baskets
Stop looking at each new man as “the one” and start looking at them as baskets. You find one basket, place an egg, find another basket, place an egg, and then you let them earn more. No matter how much you like one man more than the other, you only reward based off his actions! Competition for your heart is the best way to keep a your feelings honest, and your emotions in check. But GL, men don’t like it when girls talk to more than one guy at a time. So what! The only time Man comes before Woman is in the dictionary, so fuck what men think and do you! Every man you date should know that you are wanted by other men, and if he doesn’t date properly, show real attention, and treat you with respect, he loses his spot!
How a person has treated you in the past is not a reflection of your current worth! Raise your bar, go for what you want, be demanding, and don’t want anyone so bad that you won’t mind cutting them off if they step out of line. Date with that kind of mentality for the rest of your life and see how fast these men will try to commit to you within the first month. This guilt about men finding out you are talking to other guys or girls gossiping about how loose your morals are; those are weak bitch brain waves that hold you back. You kill weak bitch brain waves by thinking like a Spartan and not giving a fuck about anyone whose name isn’t on your driver’s license. No more excuses, no more finger pointing, get out there and Spartan Up! Audition multiple men instead of just handing out the role of boyfriend to the first guy that shows you attention!
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