The best thing in the world is to be on a date with a chick and you know that’s it’s about to go down. You race to finish up dinner, give the waiter a bigger than usual tip, and speed to her place, dick harder than Captain America’s shield. Clothes are coming off as you walk through that door; you push her on the couch, step back and– bust your ass on a toy fire truck. Why the fuck is a toy fire truck on the floor? “Oh that’s my sons”. When the hell did she have a kid? You’ve been out with this chick four times in a row and not once did the she say the word “son”. Suddenly your dick isn’t as hard…

It’s not that men don’t like messing with women who have kids, It’s that they don’t like being in a relationship with one. Girls know this from jump street, that’s why some of them lie withhold the fact that they have children because they know it could be a deal breaker when getting to know a dude. There are two types of females. Ones that are honest with guys, “I do have a son, he’s 3 years old, me and the father don’t talk, take it or leave it”. Then there are those who try to hook guys with pussy and bomb personality before surprising that ass with Nemo DVDs, “Oh we can’t go to Vegas that weekend boo, that’s my son’s birthday party… oh by the way, I think it’s time you met your new stepson”. Some men may not think it’s that big of a deal, but they should understand the responsibility of dating a woman with a child. If you think she may be the one, you need to know if it’s a two way relationship or a three way relationship. I’ve only messed with two chicks with kids; one I knew had one, the other I didn’t find out until after I smashed. The thing I respected about both women was the fact that they didn’t make me meet the kid. Meeting a girl’s kid is serious; it’s saying “I’m going to be around”. I had no intention of going over, bringing toys, and pretending to like those kids just so I could keep running up in their mother, and those girls knew it. As a single mom, you have to be a mother first and a romantic second. Your child growing up in a stable environment where guys aren’t walking in and out of their life is more important than you getting dick, going on dates, or auditioning Mr. Rights. 

Why He Doesn’t Want Your Family


Kids Are Great When They Are NOT Yours: I’ve combed some Barbie doll hair in my life, and I’ll sit and talk about Iron Man for hours. But when that shit becomes a part of your daily life, it’s not as fun. My homie was in a relationship with a girl who had a daughter. At first he would tell me how cool the little girl was. A month later, he was complaining about how spoiled the little girl was and how smart her mouth was. What happened is that the little girl got comfortable and let her true colors show. A kid is usually on best behavior when Mommy tells her “I’m going to have my friend come over, I don’t want any shit!” but when that friend is over all the time, all of that goes out the window. It was the kid’s house before you, and they have a right to be territorial. My boy didn’t break up with the girl because of the kid, but I’m sure it was a roadblock that he would have never gotten over.

Men Are Attention Whores: When a guy tells you come out and you say no, it’s always a problem. You would think something like; “I don’t have a babysitter” or “I’m spending time with my kid” would calm him down. Nope. He may be on the phone telling you “cool, tell little man I said hi and I miss him”. But he’s thinking “That’s why I don’t fuck with bitches who got kids, they can’t do shit”. Men are babies and babies hate on other babies, especially when they want that titty in their mouth.

Bitch Ass Baby Daddy: I’ve heard the term “Her bitch ass baby daddy” more times than I can count. I was even asked to go “over west” to a girl’s house because my boy thought his girlfriend’s “bitch ass baby daddy” was going to come over to pick up the kid and they may fight. I’m not fighting anyone’s baby daddy or helping to jump anyone’s baby daddy. What did that man do to you? Girls tend to paint the father of their children in a negative light, they don’t like how their relationship ended so everything he does is evil. In reality that man could be good people. But when you’re dating a girl with a kid, you can’t say “Tim’s a cool dude bay, maybe you should give him more custody”. That’s a quick way to get your invite revoked. On the other hand, the Baby Daddy could indeed be a bitch, and do things like tell their kid “don’t talk to that nigga, he ain’t your father”. And once again your relationship with the kid becomes strained. Bitch ass nigga. I feel it’s best to mind your business, you only know her side of the story about how he tried to force her to get an abortion or how he made her get a paternity test and told everyone she was a hoe. His story could be that she trapped him into having the kid, she was sleeping with her ex-boyfriend as well when she got pregnant. It’s a hot azz mess, of He Said She Said so keep your head down and don’t get in the middle of Baby Daddy Drama. 

Moms Are Easy: For some reason when niggas find out that a girl has a child, he automatically thinks her vagina is a 7-11. In Nigga Logic the fact that she gave birth to another man’s child means that she’s given up all self respect, and will smash whoever brings her some Lemon Pepper wings and buys her child a new Barbie Doll. I was on a call with my homie listening to him complain that a girl with a kid didn’t give up the pussy the first night. THE FIRST NIGHT. Niggas feel that if you have a kid and are single, then you are a hoe. LIES ALL LIES. How does having a kid out of wedlock make her a hoe? Accidents happen, people turn out not to be who they said they were, or maybe the father passed. You don’t know that woman’s story. I admit that a lot of single moms do tend to get lonely and open themselves up to assholes, but any woman who’s feeling alone and unloved can fall for those tricks just as easy. 
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I’m Not Ready To Be A Father: With all the dead beat biological dads out there, it’s no wonder that a guy runs at the thought of raising one that’s not theirs. Guys fear commitment to a woman, but they are petrified of committing to a child. I understand it, you didn’t create lil shorty, so you’re not obligated to raise him, but if that’s how you feel be honest with the chick before she gets attached. Just like some mothers lie about their baby, dudes will lie about wanting to be in the kid’s life. “I love little man like he was mine, even if we break up; I’m going to be there for him.” BULLSHIT. After you break up, little man may get a Christmas present, but after that—it’s over. Don’t break a child’s heart just because you didn’t have to heart to tell their mom you just wanted to be a Fuck buddy.

GIRLS TALK SHIT: This is something that no one talks about. Girls talk shit about girls who have kids… a lot of shit. “Oh you playing daddy to that hoe’s kid, you know she only got pregnant to get on welfare, watch your pockets”. I’ve seen it with my own eyes; a girl will smile and play with the baby, then talk shit about the kid and mother as soon as she walks away. To chicks who don’t have kids it’s not “a miracle of life” or a “blessing” a kid is like a scarlet letter. “Girl, guess who’s pregnant!? Yup, her old freak ass letting niggas run up in her raw”. That’s all they see is a mistake, they don’t know the circumstances of why she got pregnant, they just want to judge. If a girl finds out that a guy friend is messing with a chick with a kid, she’s quick to break that up, god forbid a girl with a child finds a man before she does! Their is a mentality of “she has a baby and I don’t, so I’m better than she is” that takes hold of a lot of females. They look down on these women and throw it in their face how they’re going to be married  or have a career before they have kids. Good for you, but her life didn’t work out that way. She should have gotten an abortion, she should have kept her legs closed, she should have had birth control… blah blah blah. What’s done is done, she has to live in the present not the past. Her baby doesn’t mean she still can’t end up on top. If anything her child can spark ambition and drive her to become more than another statistic. 

I wrote this blog to say ladies with children hold your head and don’t let finding a man interfere with what’s most important– your child. There are good men out there who will love both of you equally, just be honest and upfront with the men you meet. My mother had me when she was 19 years old and got divorced from my father when I was barely two. She spent her twenties with only a few relationships and didn’t get remarried until I was 20. I always wondered if her having a kid scared guys away, then I realized, nah, she scared them away because she’s cranky as fuck. Ladies, watch who you bring around your children, because kids remember everything. Especially that drunk nigga who came over and tripped on his fire truck and left that gold wrapper on the couch.

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