You create the reality you live in. You can cry, wish, or pray. But everything that's happening is the direct result of your thoughts: fear or abundance.
In order to win at dating, you have to change the way you look at dating.
Why do you meet men who seem great, and then change up or ghost you?
Why do you have to pretend to be happy alone when you really want someone?
Why do you give exes or guys who you know aren't good for you a shot?
Because mentally your mind is confused. "I don't need a man, so long as I have a bathtub and vibrator" and "Guys today don't realize how good of a woman I am" are contradictary. You say you don't want love, but you get mad when love doesn't come your way.
Use your Brain: You can't manifest a positive experience when you're telling the universe that you don't want that positive experience and you're okay with what you're doing...
My books, my coaching, and so many of my private conversations are aimed at the TRUTH. What's real has to be spoken, and the defensive shell has to be broken in order for women to win. This "I don't care" attitude is a result of past pain. Fuck that. Shake it off. Or that pain will continue to consume your future relationships.
Sit and wait = you settle for whatever you can get.
Level up and attack = go get whoever you have a taste for because you KNOW you are that bitch.
What life do you want to live?
Know That You Win
Napoleon Hill interviewed the wealthiest men of his time because he wanted to know their secret. It became obvious within a short period of time: each of these men remained positive, committed, and moved with a winner's delusion that it was already a done deal and they would prevail.
Words like "I hope" "I don't know" or asking friends "what do you think" prove that you don't belive in your ability to inspire a man to fall in love.
"I know he wants me, I just had to be sure that I wanted him," is one of my favorite quotes from a married woman because it proves that dating from a place of power is far different from having weak thoughts about some random guy on Hinge messaging you back or not.
All these men whom you can snatch up and make do what you want, yet you obsess over the weirdos??? This internal want to prove yourself is verification that you're hiding more insecurities than you want to admit. Napoleon Hill would have laughed at that kind of thought pattern because it's weak as fuck and counterproductive to ever becoming a master manifestor.
Results are always gurrantteed when you do two things:
- Exude the confidence of the future self that's already finished the race.
- Have thin skin if something doesn't work out the first few times.
How does a woman talk when they have five million in the bank, flawless skin, and a banging body? She talks with cockiness because she isn't held back by fear of being accepted or liked.
How would a scientist move if someone from the future told him that he's going to get his invention right in exactly one year? He would be motivated that the failures he expeirences are lessons not proof that he should give up.
Read that over, because you don't get it: The power to win is mental. How long have I been trying to teach you that? The women who can embrace this fact win. The women who still think "the outside world" is real and that other people control their fate continue to lose.
