Modern Dating Is Broken… This Is How You Fix It

Women have more access to men than ever before.

Dating apps. DMs. Instagram. “Good morning, beautiful,” texts from men you barely remember matching with. “Hey. What’s up?” pickup lines from cornballs online. …and even, weirdos asking to buy pictures of your feet online.

But it’s not all bad because, every now and then, you’ll come across a guy you may actually like: Handsome, smart, and can actually hold a conversation.

Finally met someone decent… and he lets you down.

Dope conversations while texting… then he stops responding or never esclates to a date.

Great first date… then he ghosts.

Weeks of building, bonding, and feeling like he could be THE ONE… then his dark side comes out.

Why is dating for some people easy, but for others it’s trash as fuck?

It’s not hard for women to get attention, good or bad. The problem isn’t “where are the men“. The problem is, “WHERE ARE THE QUALITY MEN WHO CAN STAY CONSISTENT?”

Yes, the internet has made it easier to date, but more women than ever feel:

emotionally exhausted
stuck in situationships
overlooked
confused
ready to give up on dating all together

The cliche is “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”

Fuck that! You don’t want a fish, you want a husband.

You want a man, not a boy.

You want someone to call your own, not a guy hiding a girlfriend (or boyfriend) at home.

Most of the “fish” in the sea of modern dating are emotionally unavailable, addicted to attention, allergic to accountability, or manchilds looking for easy pussy or ego-stroking entertainment.

Modern dating didn’t create more options. It created more opportunities for these clowns to waste your TIME!

The solution? Date Like A Spartan. Selfish. Dominant. Seductive. Strategic.

What does it mean to be a Spartan? Over 10 years ago, I created this website to help women navigate dating, expose how we as men think, and build an army of confident, no-nonsense warriors who would always date from a position of power.

The women who have read this site, who have studied my books, and put it to the test in order to change not only their romantic life, but their careers, and overall quality of living… they are my Spartans!

I’ve seen women use my tactics to win. They decenter men, make guys chase, and get the ring, not the run around… but I want more of you to embrace this Spartan mindset!

The average woman isn’t struggling because she’s ugly, unworthy, or “too much.”

She’s struggling because nobody taught her how to:

vet properly like a Spartan
identify love bombing patterns early on that sniff out Narcissists and Fuck Boys.
stop bonding through potential like some hopless romantic
recognize low investment before becoming attached.

This website and my books. Teach women how to become Spartans: Women who are self-centered, strategic, and date like they are the prize.

Not “manifestation.”
Not delusion.
Not pretending every man who takes you to Cheesecake Factory or calls you “different from other women” is your future husband.

When you live life without needing a man, men will flock. That’s not magic. That’s how positive vibrations work. By becoming a Spartan, by putting yourself first, knowing that you don’t have to be nice to these men for them to PICK YOU, then you will instantly separate yourself from average Basica Alba who’s out here tap dancing for dick.

Ask SheraSeven, Alex Cooper, Krista Allen, Keke Palmer, and the list goes on of all the women who have embraced my work… when you take time to not only read, but live in the power of what I’ve been teaching, success boils down to one thing:

Strategy and the confidence to apply it.

I have years of emails, thank you DMs, and wedding invitations that PROVE that dating like a Spartan WORKS.

Why You Keep Attracting The Wrong Men

Most women think attraction is random. It’s NOT.

Sabrina Carpenter said, “They choose me, I’m not choosing them,” and that’s bullshit!

You attract based on:

your standards
your boundaries
your self-perception
your tolerance for inconsistency

A woman with weak boundaries doesn’t attract “bad luck.”
She attracts opportunists.

A woman who confuses attention with effort will constantly mistake attraction for intention.

“That sounds like victim shaming,” …and calling yourself a victim sounds like a lack of accountability!

You can call your friends out when they choose the wrong guy… “I don’t know about him, girl… be careful.” But the moment you get attention from a good-looking dude, all of your “relationship expertise” melts away, and you become just another Basica who cries, “I can’t believe I fell for a liar… again.”

You aren’t a victim. You’re a participant. Here are the reasons why the cycle keeps repeating:

intense beginning (he’s into you more than you’re into him and that feels good)
emotional attachment (you opened up, now it feels deep, not just lust based)
inconsistency (oh shit… now he starts to show his true colors)
confusion (he’s now acting hot and cold… you don’t know what’s real)
disappointment (he breaks up with you, or you are forced to end it)
“why does this keep happening to me?” (You’re getting too old to be starting over every several months)

Guess what? No matter how hurt you feel in that moment, you’re going to meet a new guy, give him a chance, and try again, only to fall for similar tactics… the common denominator in your failed relationships is YOU. Vibes… passion… sexual tension. You love those things… But chemistry without common fucking sense will always lead to self-sabotage.

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The First 72 Hours Tell You Almost Everything

Women waste months collecting information they could’ve learned in three days.

We as men don’t lie as good as you all pretend that we do. Our masks aren’t on that tight! Men usually reveal themselves early through:

consistency
effort
communication patterns
intentionality
emotional availability

The problem is women ignore data because they’re attached to potential. I get 15-20 emails per week, about a woman trying to fix what’s broken. I often ask these women to give me a breakdown of the first week of the relationship.

The problems are always there in the beginning, but because your emotions are high, you miss them like a blind man trying to hit a homerun.

Red flags don’t look dangerous when you’re lonely. He has an excuse… or maybe you make up an excuse for him because you WANT IT TO WORK.

A man who:

avoids planning dates
disappears for days
only texts late at night
keeps things vague
mirrors your energy without leading

…is not “confused.” He’s playing the game. He’s testing to see if you are just as weak and easy as his exes. And sadly, you prove him right because you don’t call out this behavior, you go with the flow.

🚨 SIGNS YOU’RE DEALING WITH A TIME-WASTER

strong sexual energy, weak consistency
future talk without action
inconsistent communication
avoids defining the relationship
emotionally intense but structurally unavailable

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Dating Apps Have Trained Women To Chase Validation

You can’t talk about modern dating without talking about the apps. Being a Spartan means that you can adjust your outside, indoors at an event, or even online. There is no excuse not to know how to see through male bullshit, how to avoid tests, and how to make quality men chase you.

Dating apps were supposed to save time. Cut through the nonsense. “I like your looks. Your profile sounds interesting. Let’s go out…”

Instead, it created an entirely new battlefield of game playing. “Is he trying to hook up or does he want something serious?” These are the basic questions women ask when on apps because they haven’t learned to become Spartans who can see through the fog of Fuck boys.

Women on apps confuse:

matches with compatibility
attention with effort
attraction with intention

A profile shouldn’t attract the most men. It should quickly push away the wrong ones.

That’s why most women fail online: They optimize for attention instead of filtering. They try to be superwoman instead of being a bitch.

Men Love Bitches… isn’t just a funny book title. It’s real life. Being a Spartan means that you aren’t afraid to show a man that you are a hell raiser, that you’re different, that you’re weird, and that you’re aggressive when it comes to dismantling lies and dismissing time wasters.

“Why did he match and not message back?”

“Why did he message but not ask me out on a date?”

“What’s the point of getting on these apps if guys don’t want to set up dates?”

You are a joke. Your profile is a joke. To become stronger at dating, you have to understand men, understand attraction, and understand power dynamics. Ho Tactics. Date Like A Spartan. And the new Solving Single book, all have breakdowns on online dating seduction skills, because the average woman is VANILLA.

I’ll post a picture… hope he likes me. I’ll message dry ass things about work and hobbies… hope he likes me. I’ll mention things I like to do for fun… hope he likes me enough to ask me out on a date.

You’re doing it all WRONG!

🔥 YOUR PROFILE SHOULD:

communicate standards in a funny way
create curiosity, never overshare
Come off as high maintenace to push losers away
Only show pictures of you, not your homegirls
avoid thirsty and desperate wording making you seem like a ring chaser

🔥 YOUR MESSAGES SHOULD:

Show wit, not basic ass “hey.”
Flex your humor
Be random, not sarcastic
Leave him wanting more
Always put the ball in his court to call and take it off the app

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Why Men Avoid Commitment

Most women think men fear commitment.

Nope! We are afraid of committing to the wrong woman and missing out on our wife. Nearly every man has a freind who got the WRONG WOMAN pregnant… got married too young to the WRONG WOMAN… or is currently stuck in a relationship of convience with the WRONG WOMAN.

Older men warn younger men… be careful because committing to the wrong chick is easy when you’re young and filled with lust. Today’s men aren’t afraid to settle down; they’re just HYPER AWARE that some women who look good, talk good, and are cool at first could actually be Placeholders, looking to fill a seat, not the Game Changer they want.

Men avoid commitment when:

access comes too easy (If she’s this open from the start, it’s not you, she’s thristy for love)
emotional chemistry is unstable (Past truama spilling out is a clear sign that she’s not the one)
they’re uncertain about long-term compatibility (She’s good for now, but not forever)
they enjoy the benefits without responsibility (Why buy the cow when she gave the milk for free?)

Look through the archives, I was one of the first people to write about “Situationships” even before it became a mainstream topic. I’ve seen it all! Ladies, know that a situationship survives on ambiguity.

A man can’t say “I like you but not for the long-term” because then he’d never have casual sex and fun with the higher caliber women. So in order to keep his cup full, he has to be mysterious, speak in riddles, and feed a woman that line about “I’m not ready yet…” so he can continue to milk her ass for free.

Commitment is only built through:

consistency
emotional safety
standards
scarcity
structure

Not begging.
Not over-performing.
Not auditioning to be chosen.

A man knows within 14 days if you are “THE ONE”.

If he’s saying he’s not ready or unsure, he’s gaslighting you.

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Stop Dating On Hope. Start Dating On Pattern Recognition.

The wrong man can waste:

years of your life
your confidence
your peace
your ability to trust yourself

Being a Spartan isn’t about manipulating men.

It’s about:

recognizing patterns faster
protecting your emotional investment
increasing your standards
understanding modern dating for what it really is

Most women date emotionally first and strategically later.

That’s why they keep ending up confused.

You don’t need more attention.
You need better discernment.

And once you develop that?

Dating gets quieter.
Cleaner.
More intentional.

It doesn’t matter if you’re new to my work… I can help you win.

It doesn’t matter if you’re coming back to my work after a breakup… I can help you win.

It doesn’t matter if you tried to be a Spartan and messed up the steps… come home and I can help you win.

Stop being basic, and learn to become a Spartan!