Picture this: After all the ups and downs of dating, you find someone who immediately gets you, puts their energy into winning you over, bombards you with the kind of attention you’ve always craved, then just as sudden as a car crash, they turn on you. Their mood shifts. Everything is about what you’re not doing right, every comment is meant to guilt or trigger you, communication is like pulling teeth, and just when you find the power to walk away, they shame you into staying. You don’t want to give up on them like everyone else; you want to fix them, prove yourself, and get back to the good times. What you don’t know is that these hot and cold characteristics are the new normal. Narcissists hate you, but they won't let go because they love the strength they draw from your weakness.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): A personality disorder characterized by a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy toward other people.
Many of you have dated, are dating, or are in full-blown relationships with a narcissist. The fucked-up thing is that 90% of these people don’t get diagnosed. To them, it’s just how they are, and it’s a gift, not a curse. They’re smarter than everyone, are going to make more money than everyone, and if you can’t accept that, then you’re just too dumb to recognize greatness. Some of you have never heard the clinical term, so what you think is just a moody and entitled boyfriend or an egotistical girlfriend, is a person who needs to be in therapy, not a relationship. Ignorance is never bliss.
Everyone goes through relationship problems at some point, but when you chase someone who has a mental disorder, the typical dating gimmicks don’t apply. You think it’s about you, and what you’re not doing, as opposed to their damage, and try to work it out in all the ways you were taught. You set boundaries, threaten them with ultimatums, and attempt to prove that you're not like the rest, blind to the fact that they will continue to break your heart because you can’t cure narcissism with love. My books have helped over a million women--there's a reason they trend on social media and have led to so many marriages but today I want to share a topic I haven't touched on in my books, turning the tables on these narcissists. I'm going to walk you through the tell-tale signs that you’re dating a narcissist and show you a way to come out on top.
Those who read this site or have studied my books know that I call out your flaws in a very loud manner to shake you out of your basic mindset. The internal work everyone must do is to stop living on autopilot, sit still, and cut to the heart of their problems. Narcissistic men sniff out certain type of women, that's not victim blaming that's reality. So here's a quiz you need to take. Question 1: Think back to your...