Last month, I did two Zoom sessions with a girl whose Hinge profile was in shambles and whose social media was being used to stalk Kiara Sky deals instead of making a connection with quality men. She spent twenty minutes making excuses until I finally told her she was lying to me and lying to herself about why she was still single. Either your phone’s dry or it’s filled with bums, which means you don’t know how to get chosen, and you don’t know how to choose.
There was no sugarcoating with me. I’m not your therapist here to hold space and protect your feelings. Don’t cry about “there’s no one out here” when you’re not making it easy for people to meet you. A fear of rejection manifests MORE rejection. "My city's boring, men are cheap, everyone knows everyone..." Are you done, Basica? It's time to stop complaining and start conquering!
Girl X: Good morning, G.L. Here’s the top four men on my roster, which include (insert athlete, musician, and two business owners)
Girl Z: Men today don’t date. They just keep it on the app or just want to text you to death.
Girl X isn’t magical; she moved with confidence and strategy while Girl Z was mentally defeated!
When I see positive results with my own eyes, I can’t have sympathy for single women who think simply having a dating profile or posting a selfie on IG should be enough to get taken to Nobu. Men are easy to seduce and simple to hypnotize, but how can you use anything I wrote in Ho Tactics or Date Like a Spartan if you’re not going hard and shying away from your power?
A lot of you are on these apps and don’t know how to come across as interesting. You don’t know how to lead with the right pictures. And even when you do message these men, you don’t know how to engage in a way that will make guys thirsty enough to set up a creative date.
The name of the game is to build a roster, not have a pen pal.
If someone can text you all day, then they can use those same fingers to put in a dinner reservation. Attention through a screen is lazy and cheap, so why are they still giving responses instead of blocking them? You’re a fucking Queen, not the homie! The energy should be “spoil me,” not “meme me.”
Are you so bored and unwanted that you don’t recognize the “keep her on the phone” hustle? A man will bond with you using low-effort attention, and then finally ask to see you when he feels he’s done enough work that you’ll be an easy fuck. Beloved, you’ve been “talking” for two months, and the first date you go on will be over to his house to fuck him. That’s not a coincidence; that’s the tactics that modern men use.
"Men are so confusing." No, they aren't! You're dealing with boys, not men. And those boys lie straight to your face, and you still fall for them. Beloved, you don't need the "Tea App" to figure out who to date, and which men in your city are good or bad. You need common fucking sense.
Some men lie to get what's between your legs. Other men trick money to get what's between your legs. But the most common type of predator is a man who hangs around doing just enough to stay in your phone. He doesn't want to take you out yet, but constantly flirts, checks in, and flatters you. Consistent texts feel like affection after a while. Knowing that someone is there every day to ask how your day went comforts you when you're feeling low. Men know that being your friend from a distance is a shortcut to your heart, a shortcut where they don't have to get dressed up, go anywhere, or spend a dime to impress you. You want to be heard and seen to the point where you don't stop to think, 'what's his agenda?' What's his agenda? '
Your “friend” knows you don’t have any options. You rarely go outside to meet new men. When you are around attractive men, you're too shy to shoot. And online, your dating profile is mediocre at best, which is why you only match with weirdos. This tells your friend that he doesn’t have to work hard to make you fall for him; he just has to stick around long enough for you to catch feelings. A man doesn’t play with a trophy, but he plays with you because he’s labeled you as low-hanging fruit.
Waiting for someone to fall in your lap is childish and proves that you’re a passive character in your own story. You should know how to turn heads when you go outside, even if it’s only to CVS, and you should know how to come off as a fucking trophy, no matter if it’s messages on the screen or words in person!
It's time to stop coming off as awkward, weird, and flaky, and understand what men are looking for and how to showcase traits that instantly win them over! You should know how to use dating apps to get real dates, not spend weeks chatting back and forth about a bunch of bullshit. If you don’t know how to do these things, then this is a must-listen show.
On today’s episode, I’m going to break down the top things I did last month to transform that girl’s pathic Hinge app into a winner and how she went from having zero dates to having multiple dates in just a few weeks.
