We shouldn’t have to remind men that rape or harassment is wrong, it should be so self-evident, so crystal fucking clear that “no” means “no,” but that’s what it’s come down to given the revelations women have shared over the past several months. Sexual assault isn’t just a weirdo Hollywood problem, it's a world wide problem. There are men and women who stick up for their favorite actors and then there are the same bunch that stick up for their friend or family members because they refuse to believe women.

Every week I give private advice where the past problem is currently affeciting a woman's ability to date or hold down a relationship. Because no one believed in them or protected them, they're fumbling forward trying to become empowered, trying to become Spartans, but for my advice to take we have to go into the dark past that should have never happened.

“Listen, when I was young, there were so many men in the neighborhood that would give you money if they could touch you. Going over to a friend’s house for a birthday party at the age of seven, there was always someone there who touched you.”

- Viola Davis

It's hard to talk about this, and it's hard to empower yourself. I'm going to give you the real, not tell you what you want to hear but what you need to hear in a way your Therapist or some AI chat bot would simply tell you bullshit. The truth is, there will be men who use what you been through to further abuse you and there will be fake friends who you trust that will use it to stab you in the back.