The only thing that doesn’t lie are numbers. So what have the numbers told us in today’s world? Men are having more sex without commitment now than they ever have in history.
"I'm about to be celebate... Men today want to be the woman... I don't trust anything a guy says..." yet there you go, the next week texting, smiling, and fucking some dude who cut through all the "I'm over love" bullshit because at the end of the day, regardless of what you dislike about men, you still want LOVE.
Women have become more hardened in terms of trusting men. I can't deny that a lot more women understand the game. However, if women are being more dismissive of ain’t shit men, then why are things such as situationships and be ghosted after sex increasing instead of decreasing? Even when you know what to do why don't you do it?
Because the guy has potential. Because the guy speaks your language. Because the first 4-8 weeks of meeting someone new melts the ice, and warms your heart, and in that moment you don't want to be Date Like A Spartan, you dont' want to use Ho Tactics, you just want to be stop thinking about strategy and remembering what I write, and just relax and live in the moment.
Living in the moment will get you fucked over, beloved.
I talked to a girl who had this high school sweetheart who she wanted to be with in terms of taking it to the next level. She told him her rules for moving forward, he nodded along, she had sex with him that weekend. …she never got what she wanted.
I once coached a girl who met an R&B dude whose picture was once on her wall as a teenager. I gave her all kinds of strategy so she wouldn't come off like a groupie... she ignored all of that because he was famous and had sex with him the next time he came to her town. …she never got what she wanted.
I’ve known a girl for years who finally got in a stable relationship, assumed that she got what she wanted, had months of sex, then found out he didn’t consider what they were doing official, citing that “exclusivity” was never mentioned by either side. They stopped talking and you know the rest …she never got what she wanted.
The hard truth is that the standards that many girls swear they have are total fabrications when put face to face with men who they don’t want to lose out on.
Men lie to acquire, Women lie to protect.
What do guys want from women—Pussy. Women know this, even when they try to make a man they like out to be different. What do women want—to not get used solely for pussy and to be seen as more than just an object of lust. So the most common lie becomes that men will lie to acquire sex, sometimes money, or other favors from women by acting as if she isn’t just an objectification to him. Most women don’t know if a man is using her so they have created their own set of lies. I’m not looking for anything out of this… Whatever happens, happens… I’m not tripping over any man… It’s whatever… I’m unbothered. Those lies protect a woman from opening herself up to heartbreak by a man who is most likely in it for a nut.
If you pretend or even convince yourself that you don’t expect anything, then when that man uses you for sex and dips a month later, your feelings won’t be hurt because YOU didn’t care about love or any of that stuff-- it was whatever.
Maybe these women are being truthful, there are liberated women who just want sex or to chill and aren’t about romance, perhaps more and more girls are following that mindset. Nope! The proof I’ve seen comes in the form of the reaction. After these men leave or fall back, frustration and bitterness follows, proving for a fact that it was never whatever and that your attempt to play tough failed. You can lie to keep from getting your feelings caught up, but in the end, just like the three examples above, women still give in to dick pressure, which causes them to emotionally invest even when they didn’t want to, thus still ending up hurt.
Ma'am you can make 9 out of 10 men eat your pussy by just offering. You can make at least 1 out of those 10 men fight the rest of those guys just because he wants to be first in line. The point is, you are highly desired even if you don't know it, show it, or exercise your sexual power.
To be a woman in a man's world comes with the pressure to be one of two things: Be smart enough to learn how men think and beat them at their own game... or be pretty enough that you can make even the brightest men dumb enough to give you everything you've ever wanted.
Are you playing the game or is the game playing you? Are you making men chase you or are you chasing them? If the last two guys you dated didn't get you shit, improve your lifestyle, teach you more than you knew before you met him, or anything that raised your stock then you're getting fucked by the patriarchy.
You're not Wonder Woman, you're "I wonder what the fuck you're doing, woman". And yes, I'm hoping to trigger you because you need to be upset about your lack of success in dating with power.
"I don't care, G.L. I'm not thinking about these men. I'm focused on building my own empire," you don't even believe that. Listen up Tina Typical, you can say all the "I'm choosing me," bullshit cliches you hear online, doesn't change the fact that you're not living up to your potential. But go ahead, be defensive. The popular slogan is “Unbothered,” as in you aren’t stressing anything, no fucks given, and no more drama. You're not unbothered, you're just tired of not getting what you want, so you're crossing your arms and giving up like a child who loses at dodgeball. Brats don't fucking win. Spartans do!
You know who’s really unbothered? People who don’t need to tell the internet how unbothered they are. Once again, we see basic bitches finding yet another false layer of confidence to grab onto to make themselves feel better about life. You check your phone every two minutes because “He” hasn’t texted back—bitch you’re bothered. You stalk social media to see if the girl you don’t like has subbed you—bitch you’re bothered. You rush to call your bff about what someone had the nerve to say to you at work—bitch you’re bothered! Offline and online, your life is full of people irking your soul, but instead of breaking it down mentally and truly figuring out why you let people get under your skin so you can stop being affected in the future, you avoid the work and front as if none of that stuff is on your mind. You don’t solve your problems by pretending you don’t have them. Not checking your bank account doesn’t change the fact that you’re broke. Ignoring red flags doesn't turn them green. Refusing to admit your frustration doesn’t end the frustration.
Repression is a hell of a drug. Repression gets you high on avoidance, but it also creates slow building stress that will eventually erupt. How many of you have played this “I don’t care” game only to find yourself crying at night because you’re depressed? Exploded on people you love because you can’t talk about the real issues going on beneath the surface. Pushed away people that actually cared because you didn’t want to seem weak. Men lie way more than women do, but women lie much deeper. It’s time to stop lying to yourself about how you feel because you aren’t protecting your heart from men; you’re actually doing more damage to yourself than a man could ever do.
Lie: I Like Being Single
Truth: I’m Sad As Fuck
You put up with male lies because you don’t want to rock the boat.
You play dumb because you don’t have enough receipts to win an argument. You are falling for a man who is a known liar, you have to put on a false smile to keep the peace, and at the end of the day you’re sucking on a dick of a guy who thinks you’re dumb… Beloved he isn’t insulting your intelligence, you’re doing it for him. “I got something for his ass,” cries the basica as she fucks this piece of shit man every weekend. Rewarding bad behavior by giving him everything he wants does what, genius???
You know that man doesn’t really like you and your GUT is telling you that he's playing in your face and this situation needs to be ended immediately… yet you keep going because of your need for external validation: If I can keep showing him how great of a woman I am, the lies won’t matter because he will change and be the man who I need him to be.
The thirst to be loved above your own emotional and mental health is nasty business.
You've never felt like you've been good enough... but the way you fix this insecurity isn't to keep pouring your heart into people who are incapable of loving you. There is no such thing as magic, there is no white knight coming to save you, and happy endings aren't guaranteed because you're a "nice girl". You're still a mess mentally, and you will keep attracting negative experiences until you finally destroy your inner weak bitch and start walking in the kind of power I'm about to lay out.
I once received an email where a woman started off talking about how she works this type of job, makes this much a year, doesn’t need a man, but wanted some pointers on first date convo. I wrote her back and said, “Start back over, this time be honest and tell me what you really want.” I’ve had enough experience with this that I know when a woman is lying. Talking about your job, your money, and how you are above needing a man is a deflection. She was trying to make herself seem big with her career and seem in control by lying about “first date pointers” being her only problem, when the real problem was later revealed to be, “I can’t keep the attention of the men I like for more than a few weeks.”
She wasn’t happy being single; she was sad and felt as if she was failing at life. So why would this college educated, successful career woman, need to lie about her relationship goals? Because we live in a world where women are judged by what’s on their ring finger… Oh, wait, what year is it? That’s right, most of those women judging have dry ring fingers too, thus other women are now being judged on if they have a man, not a husband, just a man. You got a Benz but where is your boyfriend? You got a PHD but where’s BAE? You got that new condo, but what good is Egyptian cotton on a king bed without a king? It’s not that these women are trying to be deceitful; they’re trying to protect their self-worth in a world where not having a man is like being a pariah. It infuriates me to see some little ratchet bitch whose only ambition in life is to take selfies while smoking hookah, shame another woman because she doesn’t have a boyfriend.
It’s not about men at all; it’s about comparing yourself to the next woman in terms of relationship status. No matter what it says on your business card, what number is in your bank account, if you can’t get and keep a relationship, then you are not equal to other women. This competitive and vicious foundation causes so many women to formulate lies about loving the single life.
I talk about Spartanhood, pussy power, mental toughness, being worshipped, but in the real world how many of you live that life? How many of you can stand up to a man you desperately want to PICK YOU? Love is hard because you're still weak. The only way to truly break free is to recognize that it’s okay to be alone, single isn’t a death sentence, it’s where you can heal, learn, and put everything I write into practice!
If you're reading this, then you can get a boyfriend before the end of the year. Come January 2026, you can be in a loving and deep relationship with a great man (and yes great men exist) but there's one thing holding you back and this is going to blow your mind: Step one is...
