On Today's Podcast, I'm going to break down beauty from the male perspective.

-Why doesn't he shoot his shot if he's interested?

-Why did he lose interest so fast?

-Why do men go for your friends and not you?

-Will surgery fix my love life?

I don't care what body shape you do or don't have. What your face looks like before or after makeup is applied. There will always be guys who objectify you as: FUCKABLE, WIFEABLE, or I'LL PASS.

But But But... he thinks I'm funny. We talked on the phone all night. Our goals align.

Beloved. Most men only say you're funny because they want to fuck. Damn near any man with a hard dick will sit on the phone for hours to secure your pussy. Your goals don't align: you want love and to be SEEN. That man you're hard up for just wants fast sex, and you're the flavor of the month. You two aren't soul ties, you're just another lover girl open off of lies!

I'm not trying to hurt your feelings; I'm trying to smack the common sense into you that your father should have. Boys lie. By the time they're grown, they're very good at it. Know this, instead of thinking you're too good to be played. Learn how to defend it, instead of giving up or waiting for a miracle. Mr. Right and Mr. Wrong both exist in your Universe. What skills do you have to tell one from the other?

The worst mistake you could make is assuming that you're bringing something to the table physically, that's a cheat code to love. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder, but there are levels to attraction: Surface lust Vs. Deep Soulties. As you can see from this email:

"Hey G.L. I'm a huge fan of your books and wanted to write in to your show because I had a basica moment that has shredded my self-esteem after I worked so hard to heal. I recently met a muscian in my city, in plays in a very popular orchestra and owns three recording studios as well. Very successful man and he's only 34. After being hooked up on a blind date we hit it off. Went on two and a half dates (one date was to a jazz club then the next date was dinner that turned into me visiting his house and staying over). Yes we had sex.