Men don’t fear commitment… they fear committing to the wrong woman.
There are men who want marriage, and they move genuinely. Then there are men who want pussy, and they move wearing a loose mask. Most of you can spot the pussy hunter, but you're not prepared for the guy who was a good dude, who did want a family, who was respectful... but who still fucks you over because his feelings changed 4-12 months later. The liar is the guy who makes you smarter when it comes to dating, but Mr. Not The One. Is the reason most of you need therapy.
The Game: Men test you, to see if you're like the rest. The irony is that I've talked to thousands of women since I started this site, I've heard all the stories, and the one thing women need to understand is that there are more of you who ARE "just like the rest" than there are Unicorns. My job is to change that. I don't care if it's Ho Tactics or Date Like A Spartan; the agenda is to hold a mirror up to your face and say, "Stop being basic before it's too late!"
What do men really want when it comes to dating, and how do you bottle that up, become what they need and fast tract that to a serious committed relationship? The answer is much simpler than you think.
- Men want peace.
- Men want to be heard.
- Men want to be respected.
- Men want to have fun... this last one will be the key.
Most relationships never get off the ground or crash hard because it's all fun in the beginning. You go on dates, you listen to his ideas, philosophies, and general life story. You flirt, tease, and it's all a good time. He likes you because dating you is EASY. Then... the pressure comes into play. If he's not moving in the way you want or are used to, you get annoyed, attitude comes in, small arguments lead to passive-aggressive behavior, or full-blown arguments.
A woman once told me, "If men want peace, then they should stop doing dumb shit." And that's the catch-22, is he doing dumb shit or is he just not doing things YOUR WAY? In a man's mind, "a good woman" isn't the same as having a new mother. The moment a man feels you're trying to boss him around or change him, no matter if it's during the dating stage or in the relationship stage, he's going to find a way OUT.
You're not respecting him; you're telling him what to do. You're not his peace; you're annoying. You don't listen to him anymore, you hear what you want to hear, and jump to conclusions. And you're not fun, you're mean, boring, and not even good pussy is worth the headache you've become... 80% of you reading this fit into this category.
There are weak Beta men who need motherly women to fix them, lead them, and wipe their ass. Then there are Alpha men who will fall back the moment you pull that shit. Alphas have become successful by being dominant, not submissive. They negotiate, but unlike a Beta, they can't be led. The problem is, the men most of you are attracted to have Alpha energy, and you don't understand why they don't want you. Allow me to break it down.
How We Think As Men: Don't pressure me to do more, I want to do more on my own to show you how I feel. Don't rush me for a relationship, don't correct my mistakes, don't talk negative about my friends or family. Don't smother me with your attention or affection, too much makes me uncomfortable. Don't expect me to read your mind, and don't get mad because I'm not telling you everything that's on my mind. Don't see my silence as a problme. Don't see my distance as proof that I'm after another woman. Don't put words in my mouth, don't fight my battles, and never accuse without a conversation.
Too many of you ladies have been raised to "chase love" instead of allowing love to find you. Those Disney movies, bullshit romance novels, and basic bitch reality competitions have brainwashed you, where you think in order to be truly loved, you need to earn a man's heart by going above and beyond. This miseducation has a generation of women out here trying to Girl Boss themselves into marriage, tap dancing for dick, only to end up alone because we as men know that's the opposite of what we need.
Relationships don't need constant stimulation or course correction to work. Trying to overcompensate by mothering a man, nagging him, or being clingy isn't "love," it's an insecurity inside of you that reveals a scary secret: I'm not good enough, so I have to make sure to bring something to the table for him to keep from leaving.
Unemployed men need fixing. Alcoholics need fixing. That guy who isn't using his degree and playing Call of Duty all day needs fixing. Guys who are actually winning, the dudes you could build an empire with, don't need you to save them. But you can't help yourself from, you STILL do too much, and that's why they pass you up in favor of the next woman.
Understand that genuine love doesn't require work. It blooms without being extra. That's the true meaning of unconditional. But you continue to overwater the garden because you have this imposter syndrome, which makes you feel undeserving. It's time to recognize that you don't have to do the most to receive the bare minimum.
Modern dating has become about fixing each other, reassuring each other, learning love languages, holding space, and all this new-age bullshit that only serves to confuse the nervous system. It's time to learn how to receive love without pushing people away. You are enough, you've just forgotten how to live in that kind of power... Let's get you back on track.
Why Men Play Games With You
A man marries a 24 year old woman... "he just wants to control her because she's young and dumb"
A man marries a 34-year-old casino waitress... "he just wants to control her because she's pretty and dumb."
"This Baddie culture needs to end, and real women need to make a comeback..." shut up, Basica. These ratchet baddies are fun, you, your degree, and your elitist attitude are boring as fuck.
The reality is, men choose women who are fun, sexy, no pressure, and chill as fuck. Women who look out by being considerate, not those who think they're helping by being bossy. Most of you aren't a good time unless you're naked. A few months into dating, you stop being fun and exciting because your emotions come into play. Anxiety, overthinking, trying to solve problems that aren't there, or shutting down the moment you feel like you won't get what you want: These are signs that you're mentally stunted and emotionally damaged.
Healing isn't going to therapy. Healing isn't reading a book. Healing isn't being celibate. Healing is looking at your past or current relationship and recognizing the patterns. So you can become the kind of woman who exudes the energy and attitude that men chase...
Here's a portion of an email someone sent in to my podcast...
“I was with a man for 8 months, and after he didn’t get me anything for my birthday or see me my birthday weekend, I confronted him. Why did this clown text me that he had met someone new and didn’t want to ruin my week by breaking the news. I went to his house, cursed him out, but ended up having sex with him. For the past three weeks I’ve seen him twice to talk, but we ended up fucking each time. After reading your book, I now know it’s not about him or this new girlfriend. It’s about me. I’m sick to my stomach that a guy could date me for so long, not give me a title and commit to another woman under my nose. I’ve sunken so low G. My only flex is being able to fuck another girl’s so-called man, a man that told me in actions and in words that I was never good enough for him…”
The reality of modern dating is that a man will be everything you want for 8 months and choose another girl. Sure he'll still fuck you, because the flesh is weak, but what is his rejection saying?
The guy you're with will one day do this to you. The next guy you swipe on a dating app will one day do this to you. This woman's story isn't out of the ordinary, she's no different than most of you reading these words. And like her, I'm going to show you how to truly heal and find love, not a time waster.
PART 1: AVOIDING THE MALE MIND FUCK
Dick Tactics, the male version of Ho Tactics, are easy to spot if you...
