There are no life hacks… There are no cheat codes… But there are secrets that people keep to themselves in order to win at life. You work harder— other people work smarter. “How did they do that… how did they end up with that person?” There is no luck, no coincidence, they manifest real results because they understand how this world actually works.
A Life of Pick Me Hope = you date hoping a man picks you because you’re thirsty to be seen as special, and a male’s love validates that you’re not ugly, boring, or basic.
A Life of Spartan Queen Power = you date using psychology, understand the secrets of men, and the triggers that automatically signal that you’re not a Pick Me but a Must Have.
90% of you reading this don’t know how to date in power, you’re just hoping the next guy you fuck actually wants you for real this time and didn’t just want a turn like the rest of them. Why are you such a hopeless romantic? Where does this lack of self-esteem come from?
You're a perfectionist who keeps falling for imperfect people because, secretly, you don't think you deserve the best. This lie that you're not good enough is manifesting a life you don't want to live, and it's time to start affirming the truth: You are worthy of so much more.
Your nervous system is overloaded with all these conflicting rules on how to date and who to date, but you're forgetting the most important part: another person can't make you happy. The survival mode desperation of "someone please love me" is distracting you from what you lack the most: self-love. Don't fix your lips to say that you love yourself when your actions reveal the opposite. Every insecure person wears a mask. It's time to take yours off. You haven't been the woman you could be. That doesn't mean you can't become her now.
Imprinting On A Man >>> Impressing A Man
My job is to help you understand that it's better to value consistency over perfection. The only way to become a true Spartan is to work on YOURSELF daily. Why do you make the basic mistakes when it comes to men? Because you're moving too fast and not utilizing a man's mind against him. Today I'm going to break down a few of the biggest unsaid secrets when it comes to men and dating and transform you from a woman who tries hard to a woman who doesn’t even have to put in much effort to get what she wants.
Do you know what it means to imprint yourself on a man? The secret that women have known for centuries is that you don’t have to make a man like you; it’s about doing certain things that both bother him and blow him away. It’s damn near witchcraft, which is why certain men fear women with this power. Those women who can imprint themselves on a man, are typically those who can break his heart, and a man would rather play in the face of a weak bitch who is powerless than get hurt... and trust me every man has cried over a woman because certain women are that damn powerful. You need to be THAT kind of woman.
Despite being raised in the women's empowerment era, you’re not empowered AT ALL. You still see men as the prize, and the proof is in all things you do to appease men that don’t even belong to you: Buying him things. Fucking him raw. Never saying “no” because you’re so terrified of him not liking you anymore. You’re not empowered and every "men ain't shit" statement you make is CAP, because in real life you constantly do things to prove that you’re a slave to dick and thirsty for male love.
Half of you can’t even get to a second date, while the other half can’t get a commitment despite giving up all these girlfriend benefits. What’s the disconnect? You stay in the dating stage for way too long. Text way too much. Get fucked. Fall in love. Obsess over that man, but you still don’t know the formula to make him look at you as something to keep versus something to keep him occupied.
Ladies, there’s nothing wrong with you! But there is something wrong with how you operate! I’m trying to drill in your head that the secret to getting what you want from these men is to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing. Stop going with his flow and make him follow your wave.
-He doesn't want to go out on dates or do anything you want to do.
-He doesn't want a relationship and is good as is.
-He wants to pick you up and put you down when he feels like it.
If another woman was being disrespected like this, you would call her a dumb bitch. But when you get disrespected like this, you make excuses for that man. That's what I mean by going with the flow. As men, we don't like women who tap dance for our approval; we like the power you're giving us, but we don't respect women who let us do what we want when we want nor will we ever fall in love with weak energy. You're the type of girl other men didn't want, and we can smell that, no competitive male wants a reject woman.
Have you ever talked to a woman who cursed a man out? That man she cursed out doesn't block her; he comes running back for more because men like to be challenged. The way you challenge a man femininely is to keep your bar high in terms of what you want and don't budge until you get it. No matter how handsome, how wealthy, or how charismatic he is, realize that you tower over them. Knowing that you are the trophy is the core of my Spartan teaching. Stop running away from these lessons and freestyling. Did you not read Chapter 10 of Solving Single??? Listen to it again and get it RIGHT this time. Again, it's not you as a woman, it's your inability to stop thinking with your weak bitch past mindset, and start operating like a Spartan!
Men Think You’re Stupid… stop proving them right
The biggest hustle a man uses is to treat you like a girlfriend but never make it official. “I’m not ready. It’s not you, it’s me,” these are things a man tells his placeholder so he doesn’t feel guilty when he cuts you off in favor of someone new. A Placeholder is a woman whom a man sees short time value in. She’s cool enough to date, sleep with, and even love… FOR NOW. But a Placeholder isn’t the kind of woman he sees himself with forever.
A man openly tells you that he doesn’t want anything serious. You pretend not to want anything serious too— then he tells you how different you are, how much he likes spending time with you, and a bunch of hollow bullshit that makes you start to fall in love... Nothing has changed; despite what he says, he still doesn’t take you seriously. His words and actions are confusing your brain because you think it’s love, when in fact you’re STILL a bench warmer, not someone I want on my team for real.
He didn’t hold you hostage. He never promised you anything. He just let you assume that the relationship was going somewhere. As an adult, you chose to follow along, so when he ghosts, he will not lose a bit of sleep. There is no “bad karma” for a man because in his mind, you chase him, he didn't force you to waste your time... and he's right.
So why would that same man keep you as a placeholder, then turn around and make the next woman his official girlfriend within weeks? It wasn’t something you did. It wasn’t an argument. It wasn’t his fucking horoscope. That man knew after the first few dates with you what box he was going to put you in. No matter what he said, how much he chased you, or how vulnerable he was, every man labels a woman early on based on how she comes off. As a woman, you will never escape that Placeholder label unless you know the secret of what a man looks for in a wifey type and how to clearly imprint his brain.
What’s the secret between a girlfriend vibe and a wife vibe?
Can you make a man go from being “unsure” about you to being “sure” about you? Of course you can. Just as a Basketball coach can be ready to cut a player only to make him their starter, all it takes is a few good games to go from being on the outs to being the star of that team.
It’s time to discover the secret to this kind of effortless power. I’m not talking pussy, I’m not talking being submissive, I’m talking the real character traits that makes a man step back and realize that YOU ARE THE ONE. On today’s episode, we’re going to break down the 3 Steps to become the ultimate wife type quickly.
Plus, I answer your questions on how to date multiple men and not get a reputation in your city— my thoughts on the DDG generation of men. Victim Shaming. Realistic date questions. And a lot more on this all-new episode of G.L. Lambert Explains It All…
