"Hey G.L. could you please break down on your podcast or on the site today's men being so weird? For example. I finally gave this guy a chance after DMing me. First date was amazing shit the first month was amazing tbh. Next thing you know he isn't texting anymore, he's making excuses that he's super busy, and he even guilts me saying I always pick fights. I picked fights because he literally would say how much he wants to be with me then not see me. Of course he popped up with a new girl in his story. But why do men chase so hard, then act like they're bothered by that same woman! Like it can't be all about sex?"
It's not that men are weird, it's that men are cowards. Ladies, understand that it's not about sex, it's about LUST. Something about you excites him sexually, but it's not about fucking you, it's about the adrenaline rush of the CHASE.
Men chase... for weeks, months, even years. Men try to catch you... long conversations, deep emotional bonding, tricking money or gifts. Men finally catch you... now that lust fades. You're still pretty, you're still sexy, you're still funny-- but you're not his type.
A man won't tell you that he doesn't like you, he'll double down on "I'm busy" or "it's not the right time" or any other endless reason that keeps the door open. And that MINDFUCK signals to you: Well, maybe he is my soul mate, we just met at the right time.
Dear Basica-- these men aren't your soul mates, they just wanted a turn. You did dumb shit in 2021, 2022, and you're about to do more dumb shit in 2026 because you're not evolving, you're being out gamed by men who you're smarter than.
Facts You Hate To Hear: The man you want doesn’t actually want you. He can say that he loves you, explain all the reasons why he needs more time, or shift the blame to you as the reason he acts the way he does, but regardless of the details, it doesn’t change the fact that you are sinking in a boat known as “Relationship Purgatory”. The dark side of dating isn't being single and dealing with dead end conversations on dating apps, the dark side of dating is finding someone who you actually like for a change and having it go nowhere:
On Again Off Again – Two people that are technically in a relationship but are always going on break then getting back together to the point where neither knows what they are anymore.
Friends With Benefits – Two people that have agreed to use each other for sex and/or company with a loose agreement that neither wants something serious.
Stalled Dating Stage – Two people that are deep into the dating stage, but no one has brought up exclusivity, therefore both remain single, frustrating the person who wants to be in a real relationship.
Unofficial Yet Official – Two people that agree not to see anyone else and do everything that boyfriends and girlfriends do, yet keeps the option for someone new open by not committing to a label or title.
Few people in those relationships listed above are happy, they're content and satisfied in the moment when they're with that person, but no woman wants to be in some half-ass relationship where she doesn't 100% know what to label it.
You're giving Girlfriend Benefits to a man who isn't even sure about you-- you proud of that? You're giving Wife Benefits to a guy who doesn't even return your calls-- this the life you imagined? As you all know, I get an enormous amount of email each week. A constant question is, “How can I get him to be like he used to?” or “How can I tell him that I changed my mind and want a commitment?” I bet the most googled question after the guy you’re crazy over has YET to text back is: Why won’t he let me go if he doesn’t want me.
"This Could Be Us But You're Playing". Ha! In a man's mind there is no "us". If he wanted to be with you, he would make it happen. If he's "playing" then he's telling you to read between the LINES: He doesn't want to live a fairy tale with you, he just wants to keep milking the cow for free until a better version of you comes along!
Common sense isn’t so common when feelings get involved. No matter how smart you are, falling in love will make you do some basic ass things, like hold on for too long and allow a man to waste the best years of your life. Today I’m going to talk about insight into the male mind. I’ve written about the solution to this problem in my book, but sometimes it’s not about what to do, it’s about the “why”. When your heart is breaking, you don’t want someone telling you to walk away, you just want to know why this man has changed and how to fix it.
How To Make A Man Like You Again
Here's the secret to turning the tables, and showing this man that you are more than a lust rag-- it's
