At First: Undivided attention. Dates. Small Gifts. Flowers. Constant communication.
Then: You’re an afterthought. No more going out, just house dates. No gifts. No flowers. Inconsistent communication. …then it’s over. He’s done with you with no real reason.
This year, I’ve heard way too many stories that started with princess treatment… then ended up with the woman chasing after a man. You went from getting roses and lunch money to creating fake pages to stalk a man who won’t even give you a title?
You Basicas are really acting crazy over a “friend”, not a husband, not a fiancée, and not an official boyfriend… A “friend”? Bitch, what part of the spectrum are you on?
Why are you running over a man’s house for an after-work house date where he gives you lazy dick and then falls asleep? Why are you letting him swing by your place for a lazy booty call where he fucks, towels off, and then leaves an hour later like you’re a prostitute?
You talk big online, but settle in secret. You don't want a "provider," sis. You want to take care of a man, baby him, spoil him, so he sees you as worthy of his love and loyalty.
You hold down men, and in return, those men gain the confidence to go chase after other women who don't do half of what you do. You're a sugar mama, an easy fuck, and a doormat all rolled into one. Beloved, you don't know how to show your value without giving up pussy or going into your purse. You're a magnet for predatory males because the way you think and treat these guys is ass-backwards!
Men don't want "good women"; they want strong women worthy of respect. You're nice, you're selfless, and you don't ask questions. That's what makes you a perfect Placeholder. Fuck him, feed him, tell everyone you found your husband... and then crumble when he pops up with an unemployed baddie on IG.
Weak Women Never Win
"G.L., what can I do to fix this?" NOTHING until you evolve into a stronger woman.
Why are you arguing back and forth about what he’s not doing? Why are you only talking to ONE man at a time? Why are you overinvested emotionally in any man you can't claim as your own?
Why are you trying basic bitch mind tricks like: Silent treatment. Posting on social to make him jealous. Or making threats like “What you won’t do another man will,” knowing damn well you’re too stuck to entertain other men seriously.
For someone who claims she doesn’t need a man… You spend an awful lot of brainpower on thinking about them. What’s he doing? Why is he acting like that? Is it another girl? You are pressed! You are starving to be loved and think that you can date from a place of power.
Weak minds never win, soft hearts get broken, and if you keep being naive when it comes to dating, you're going to keep getting used.
Why do you allow guys to fuck the common sense out of you? The good times make you forget everything you should have learned from my books. The bad times make you race back to those books, or your friends, or ChatGPT for help because, every single year, you go dumb over dick and forget how to be a Spartan.
Read this email sent into today's podcast. Think about how easy the red flags are to spot from the outside looking in... The problem is, when a man looks good, has money, and is saying ALL THE RIGHT THINGS, women fold like laundry and do the most for love.
I helped that woman privately to reverse the tables, and that man called her back right away, because men aren't hard to outthink. Each year, I give nuggets of wisdom on this website, but you don't actually read the articles or listen to the podcasts with the true intent to use these things. You still go out into the dating world, try to do it YOUR WAY, and all you get is a hard dick and hurt feelings.
There's a difference between wanting love, wanting an equal, and wanting to feel seen, and the need to be picked by a man because you're lonely and desperate for validation. Positive manifestation doesn't come from giving to get; it comes from respecting yourself and projecting power. You've yet to do that...
You don’t need advice. You need discipline.
When you’re single, you have boundaries. You have self-respect. You have vision boards of what you need and a list of red flags that you won’t accept. When you’re single, your mind is clear, so you can talk a big game, give your friends good advice, and walk around with confidence…
BUT, when you meet a guy, your mind clouds, you’re anxious, unsure of what’s going to happen, but hopeful that this will FINALLY work out. Men can spot an insecure woman a mile away. He plays in your face, and that self-respect evaporates, those red flags go missing, and he has you wide open acting like just another Basica.
“I’m choosing me this year,” no, you won’t.
“I’m going to stop drinking, eat better, and get healthy,” no, you won’t.
“I’m only dealing with men who bring something to my table,” no, you won’t.
You’re going to stumble and fall on a dick of someone who is wrong for you—again. You’re going to start drinking, eat your feelings, do stalker shit, devolve into a ratchet, and end up crying all over some man who doesn’t deserve your tears—again.
The solution to your problems...
Stop over-liking these men who aren’t even your boyfriends. I don’t care what he’s saying or what he’s doing to inspire this Disney Princess reaction, but 90% of the time, it’s an act that everyone can see through, besides you. Show me a woman desperate for love, and I’ll show you an easy target for a predatory man to love bomb, sleep with, and ghost.
On today’s show, I’m going to break down the best advice of the year that you need to start using today!
