“I’ve been dating (fucking) this guy for the better part of two years. Yes, you read that correctly. Recently it’s come to a point where I must walk away. I know he sees this other girl. Although we are not exclusive, it irks me that he is doing the most to win her over (tricking so hard) when he has never even taken me on a sit down to eat date. NC, I was going through this man’s phone at 4 in the morning and started crying. Not because of what he wrote to this other girl or the thirsty DMs he sends daily to random bitches on Instagram. I was crying because I am a 28-year-old woman sitting on the bathroom floor of a man’s one bedroom apartment that he shares with his cousin, trying to gather evidence to leave him when I’m not even with him. Your girl is Basica Alba on steroids, and it would be funny if it were not so tragic. Last week after I told him I needed time away, he stepped his affection up. He even came to pick me up from work with flowers, a first in 20 months of knowing him. He calls me his rock, his inspiration, his best friend. I am far from stupid. He doesn’t mean it. Still, a huge chunk of me still has hope. My question to you is why is he doing this? I have friends who have also been through similar situations so it’s not all about me. Why don’t men let go so we can go off and be free and happy? In my case he has another girl he’s dating, he also has girls at work that I know like him, so why me? What makes me so special that he can’t let me go and just be with one of those other women? I want to be free of this but it’s impossible when he refuses to release his grip.”
No matter how much I touch on this topic, it always pops back up—
"If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship Why Won’t He Let Me Go?"
Let’s backtrack. Why does a man have to "let go"? Does he own you, are you not permitted to walk away? At what point do women sell their souls to these men, first date…second date…day after sex…? Is this contract written in blood or glitter ink? Is it notarized...