How many women and men are currently being played? By played I mean someone is exaggerating or even faking their feelings in order to get something out of you. Men get finessed all the time, mostly for money. Some guys even invite the finesse as tricking is how they’re used to getting sex or attention. When it comes to women being played, I’ve heard it all. Remember the woman that I wrote about who got played by the guy who fucked her then robbed her apartment? That’s light. Despite people claiming “I can never get played” it happens every day, and it’s not just new people it could be someone you’re in a relationship with that was running game. Here’s an email that a reader wanted discussed on my podcast but since it was so long, I thought it would be better read. Afterwards I’ll go over the TOP LESSONS everyone dating or in a relationship can learn from her mistakes and how to bounce back from being played.
“My boyfriend slept with my cousin and I really need help wrapping my head around how this went down under my roof and how to move on. Late January, my birthday weekend. My friends dragged me out to do Karaoke at this exclusive spot near K-Town. Upon arriving I locked eyes with the Doorman, a very fit and attractive man in a nicely tailored suit. I’m extremely shy so it was rare for me to return a gaze like this for longer than two seconds without turning away. GL, I eye-fucked this man so good and ended it with a slight smirk as in your book. By the time my friends and I finished partying we exited the venue and a new doorman had taken the place of the first guy. Oh well, I thought. I was buzzed enough to actually flirt but he was gone. As we were waiting for the Lyft, the original Doorman tapped me on my shoulder. He explained that he was off but wanted to wait for me to come out. I was floored, I tell you.
We exchanged numbers and for the next week we texted frequently about everything. He was an entrepreneur looking to invest in the LA club scene. Lived alone. No kids. He made sure to text me each morning and began to call me every night before he started his shift. We connected quickly and although I’m an introvert it felt as if I could tell him anything and so I did, even my insecurities. GL I’m a bigger woman who has struggled with esteem for the past five years. In high school I was a true Spartan, I was 60 pounds lighter, popular, and had all the boys falling over me. After graduation I got into a very toxic relationship and the depression led to weight gain. I’m not blaming my ex, I allowed myself to fall apart and maybe that’s the reason I hid away. I hated for people to see how the “pretty girl” had fallen from grace you know how people talk shit. I told this to Doorman, and he was so positive. He was into weight training and said he would give me a lifting program and even go to the gym with me. Doorman and I were finally able to go on a date two weeks later due to his schedule and mine not lining up. Yes, we had sex on the first date, and this is when the first red flag happened.
During the sex Doorman said some really insulting things. Like he called me a...