Recycling = Going backwards to date exes because you can’t find anyone new…
Reconnecting = Exploring a romantic relationship with someone you were intrigued by but never gave a chance to…
I know a lot of women who recycle dick. Meaning the moment that new dude they met on Hinge ghosts them, they open the door for that ex-boyfriend to slide back in and make them feel wanted. Rejection hurts, and Basicas think the best way to get over someone is to get under someone they’re comfortable with. This is why exes always hover around. They don’t miss you. They’re waiting for you to be desperate enough to actually reply to a text. Recycling your ex rarely leads to a new relationship, it leads to comfort sex that gives you the illusion of being wanted, but that soon crashes down when you realize that while you’ve changed, they haven’t.
“G.L., is it okay to go back and date my ex,” you know damn well he’s your ex for a reason. The easy option when it comes to dating is usually the worse, but when you’re sick of the apps, tired of getting to know new people, and too exhausted to put yourself out there, the past always looks better. Fuck that. This is Sparta. You don’t go backward; you steamroll forward. However, there is a difference between giving someone who fumbled your heart a second chance and giving someone you overlooked a shot to prove themselves worthy. There are men right now who you are cordial with but never dated for whatever reason. Why don’t reach out to them or put yourself on their radar? Because you’re afraid to cross that line. Timing is everything, and just because you didn’t date that person when you first were introduced to them doesn’t mean you can’t do so now.
I know two women who recently married guys they’ve known for years. Not guys they dated, cried over, forgave, and got back with, but casual acquaintances. That guy who you went to school with was cool, but both of you had partners at the time... he’s fair game now. That co-worker who left your job but followed you on Facebook… he’s fair game now. That guy who you met when you were on a break from dating but kept in touch with because he knew how to fix cars… he’s fair game now. Even the friend of your ex who you knew had a crush on you becomes fair game now that he and your ex don’t speak… every man is for your taking! Life shows you that those that slowly get to know organically can turn out to be the best matches. Look at your phone contacts or look at the people on social media, there are eligible men who you ALREADY KNOW and could date, but you aren’t thinking outside the box.
What if they have a girlfriend or aren’t interested?
Are you going to be the scared ass little girl that sticks with what she knows and wastes time, or are you going to be a fucking Spartan that utilizes the options already in her life? For all you Basicas that are just going to go throw pussy your Ex and keep crying, “But there’s nothing out here,” walk away right now. You’re not ready for this knowledge or built for this power. For the rest of you who want to create more streams of romantic options and truly build a roster, let’s start.
Step One: Turning Your Pussy Into A Magnet
More men want you than you realize, but you’re holding yourself bac...