Getting dates are easy these days. If you have an internet connection and a cute picture you can log onto any dating app, swipe, and have some guy willing to take you out by the weekend. BUT... attracting quality dates and avoiding fuck boys is a little bit more complex. The relationship or deep dating stage is where most of you are going to struggle. The vibes are amazing those first few dates. The mask is on tight, and even the most jaded and guarded woman thinks, "Wow, I've finally found a good one..." or so the fuck you thought...
Weeks of love bombing and deep conversations, surprise, you're open. Calling him "your person" and throwing pussy like it's an Olympic sport, you cut everyone else off because you only want him... Gotcha bitch! Once a man has you open, that fake Mr. Perfect mask comes off, and his true personality is on display. There are so many men with childhood damage, emotional baggage, and raging insecurities that make them your worst nightmare AFTER you've already fallen in love. You don't fall for men often, but when you do why is it always one that's broken... how do you fix it and reset that relationship?
"G.L. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and we don't go on dates,
we never discuss marriage anymore, and we barely have sex.
What am I doing wrong and how can I turn the tables in my relationship."
You want who you want, but who you want doesn't want you on that same level and it shows! Love is supposed to be easy. Love is supposed to make you feel happy and special. What you have isn't love, it's comfort. Your relationship is too hot and cold, too complicated, and too messy to ever be categorized as true love.
You're in love with the "idea" of who your boyfriend once was, the guy who finally showered you with love and loyalty and made you feel complete... But that potential didn't live up to the hype. You fell in love with "potential" and now you have to live with the reality of who you picked: A man who doesn't communicate what he's going through. A man doesn't go above and beyond romantically to make you feel like you're the only girl in the world. A man who doesn't even want to have sex with you like he once did because your coochie is expired.
Men chase, catch you, and then treat you like a 3rd option in your own relationship because it was NOTHING but lust. Lust does not sustain a relationship. Pretty becomes normal when you see it every damn day. Your pussy drove him crazy before he had it, but now he's yawning because the woman attached to that vagina isn't who he actually wants. It's not a physical issue, it's mental. These dudes will sit around watching TikTok Thots dance on mute, dick hard as a rock, yet can barely get it up for you... but that's bae? This guy is who you cry over?
Here you are with this man who doesn't 100% love you, who doesn't really want to fuck your expired vagina, and who would rather hang out with friends, work, or even play the video game than be around your ass... and you want to make it work because...? You don't date multiple men, you pick one, vibe, and fall head over heels, and won't give up on him because you're too afraid to go find better.
You can't do better, you haven't done better, so settle for who you have and make it work like just another typical bitch in another weak ass relationship where you pretend that you're happy but you know damn well YOUR MAN is just waiting for someone else to come along so he can get the type of woman he always wanted. Again, this is who you cry over?
You're in love with love, a hopeless romantic and all that fairytale mindset has gotten you is a role playing a stepping stone in your own story. Men are the main characters of your world, and you've chosen to exist in their shadows. Compromise, sacrifice, move across the country, even cut off friends for men who don't even want you... you're not even a supporting character in your own world, you're barely a guest star.
You have ZERO other options because you either didn't read Date Like A Spartan or you didn't put the plan into effect. Instead of following my books step by step you DATED LIKE A BASICA and now you want to understand him, make it work, and even still see marriage in the picture. Anything is better than starting over on the dating apps even a mediocre relationship with a man who says he loves you but doesn't show it.
Bringing out The Good Man In A Failing Relationship
Let's pretend that the guy you're dating or in a relationship with does have more than potential, you two just aren't on the same page. Is there a way to fix what you have and be happy again? YES. There are countless couples who work through issues, complete therapy together, and learn how to communicate their issues in a healthy way. I know you don't have time nor maybe the money or patience for couples therapy, so I'm going to give you two avenues today:
For those of you in a relationship I'm going to show you how to reset things with your boyfriend.
For those of you who are single and in the dating stage I'm going to break down how to get a commitment in a healthy way so you never have this problem going forward.
Step 1: Making Your Man Love You Again
We as males aren't always honest. One of the biggest things we hide is our...
