Would you date yourself? Would you marry yourself? The egotistical answer is "I'm amazing, who wouldn't want me..." but when's the last time you did a deep dive into your personality? Your attitude is moody, your hobbies aren't that exciting, and your communication skills are trash. The reality is most people don't know themselves, you live in your skin, but you don't see your own bullshit.
Work. Scroll on your phone. Laugh at a few videos. Eat. Shit. Sleep. Repeat... wow you're so exciting.
What's your appeal outside of your vagina? Men who aren't losers don't care about your job or money. So what's left? Guys only pretend you're interesting so they can have sex with you, but once they get it, they're not staying because their entire pursuit was cap. They gassed you up like you were special, then treated you like an afterthought. It's not that you can't find someone; it's that the ones who find you don't want you after they sample the goods, yet you still refuse to look in the mirror at what's wrong... it's YOU.
Are you funny, or do you just talk? Are you deep? I'm not talking about what your grades were or your degree... can you hold a meaningful conversation? When you go on these dates and sit across from a man, what do you say that makes him see you as a "wife" and not just a piece of pussy? Nothing. You giggle, you talk about shallow topics, and you allow sexual tension and flirting to win out because you don't have any wit or any fun stories outside of gossip, and there's nothing you have to say that stands out.
You're not a must have. You're just another girl in a sea full of women that a man wants to put his dick in just because. Even when you stumble into these short relationships, you don't wow anyone. You do the same boring things with the same boring men, then once they're done using you up, they move on to the next woman while you say dumb shit like, "Men are so confusing," men aren't confusing they're predictable. No one wants to be stuck with a woman who has the personality of oatmeal, so the moment he can do better, he will go off and do better and leave you hanging. Your pussy may be wet, but your personality is dry!
Recognize that men will never be honest when they're looking to get a turn. They want to hit, so they tell you what you want to hear, and even though you're smart enough to know he's lying, your thirst for love turns you dick dumb, and you allow a man who has no business in your phone, between your legs.
"G.L. why did he change up? Was it something I said? Was it something I did"
Sis, he didn't change up, you just didn't know him. You assumed, you hoped, you wished upon a fucking star, but you didn't know that man, and that's the kind of simple shit that will always get you hurt. Your big ass ego gives you a big ass head, and you think that you're too good to be played... until you get played. You don't check anyone's box besides "I would fuck" because you date from a place of insecurity, not from a throne. You're a goddess who gets treated like a peasant and it's time to work on that!
On today's podcast we're going to break down how to break the habit of being yourself with some tough love on how to hit reset. Plus we discuss how to Spartan Up and break bad habits even if you didn't read my books until later in life. And, of course, we answer all of your dating questions, ranging from attachment styles to how to keep someone's attention once the lust starts to die out.
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