To approach or not to approach… Message her or keep lurking? It’s a question that goes through the mind of every single and “sorta” single man. Every couple has a story about how they met, who approached who, who swiped on who, who slid into who’s DM it’s literally a Cinderella story that proves to single women, no matter how “over” dating you say you are, that you’re only one approach away from meeting the man you will spend the rest of your life with. Hope exists because women just like you have this “how we found each other” story that’s usually hella random but also beautiful and romantic.
There’s no such thing as luck when it comes to love and relationships. So, what’s the difference between a woman who rarely gets approached by quality men and women who are dating multiple quality men?
The answer: Approachability.
The Four Labels Men Use:
Low Hanging Fruit: Women who look like they require little effort to win over, don’t have other options, and like you too much before they even get to know you. “Oh, this is going to be easy work,” he thinks as he swoops in on you, able to smell your desperation behind your mean mug. Next, he’ll break your lonely ass down and then get whatever it is he wants—sex or money or credit or a place to live or an ego stroke or maybe just power.
The thing about Low Hanging Fruit is that they will swear it’s “deeper” that a man has all these feelings, and because of this delusion, these desperate women will always be loyal Placeholders and let you get away with murder because they can’t do better.
Trauma Pussy: Educated, well spoken, good job, but after you have a first date you can tell that something is “off” about her. These women are wearing masks, holding back their hurt, trying to pretend that they’re “normal”. But all it takes is the wrong line of conversation that triggers her insecurities, and you’ll see that she’s damaged: Still stuck on an ex, never recovered from a bad relationship, or littered with deep trust issues. Guys will literally say, “Shorty’s crazy, but she can be a bop,” meaning you’re unstable, so all he’s going to do is fuck you and keep his distance.
These are the girls that scream “men ain’t shit” but crave male attention. Block a man’s number, only to unblock it randomly because you want to be chased. Say you want him to treat you better, then moments later, you’re in his bed. Every time you try to stand on business, you fall on a dick, because after all the pain men have put you through, you’re still weak for them. You want to be seen as special, yet here you are, making the same mistakes at love as a teenager. No one’s fumbling you. They’re passing you because you’re too broken to ever take seriously.
Why are you a magnet for toxic men? Because you vibrate at the same frequency, Basica! You like to be dominated by masculine energy, disciplined, slutted out, put in your place. Why? Because you don’t think you’re good enough and want a man to fuck the hurt out of you— a kink that they don’t even acknowledge until you’re being choked and called out your name. You pretend to be tough and independent but are secretly looking for a man to save you from drowning in a pool of self-loathing and loneliness. Hot and cold emotions, easy to manipulate, but you make a horrible girlfriend, which is why men fuck, ghost, come back six months later and repeat. You have Rest-Stop Coochie. You’re not a final destination. Good for a few weeks, but you don’t have the emotional maturity nor the mental health to ever be a true girlfriend.
Hos: Sexy, flirty, and will tease a man to the point where he thinks he has the green light to get in that pussy quicker than Yandy looking through Mendeecees’ Dms. The catch is, you can see her, you can touch her, but you can’t get a taste until next time…
When a Ho says, “Next time, Daddy,” it doesn’t mean next Friday; it means after you treat her nice… how nice depends on the level of Ho. She needs to receive before she reciprocates. Maybe she’ll ask, maybe she’ll hint, maybe she’ll let you figure it out.
If the earth is spinning, men are chasing Hos. Guys are obsessed because these women tap into a sexual energy that makes them thirsty enough to trick, spoil, or even sponsor. Men love hos but they also hate hos because they know that she has control. Hos can walk away once they get what they want. A guy can’t gaslight a Ho because she doesn’t care about him enough to feel guilty. He can’t expose a Ho because it exposes him as a simp. Dude wants to wife her but can’t because his own trust issues will never allow him to sleep at night knowing what her pussy is capable of. She’s the ultimate catch-22.
Wifey: The holy grail of women. Every man has his version of the ideal wifey type that fits his personality and matches his vibes. She goes left where other women go right. She surprises where other women are typical. She knows how to support without being a sucker. She knows how to lead as well as listen. She’s the peace that men crave.
SPARTANS CAN'T BE LABELED!
On today’s podcast, we’re going to break down an entire chapter on approachability! I’m going to make sure you’re always coming off like WIFEY. Even if you have trauma you’re working through, a ho side, or have been guilty of being low hanging fruit it’s all about the psychology of being approachable in a way that screams: She’s The Fucking One!
