When you want something so bad, BUT it doesn't work out... When you fall in love with a person, but they fall out of love with you... When you feel on top of the world, only to see the world drop on top of you... It isn't just heartbreak; it's torture. All you can think of is "why me," and all you want to talk about is "what do you think went wrong." Your friends try to be supportive, but they're sick of you talking about the same situation over and over again. Your own brain is sick of replaying the events in your own head. But you can't let go of that hurt no matter how much you want to.
Everything will be okay. Just take time to heal. That's all bullshit because how do you heal? How do you take an L and still smile? How can you ever open your heart up to love someone else knowing that you just poured EVERYTHING into someone only to be told, "You're not actually my type, I want someone else."
The lie you want to hear: You are good enough.
The truth you need to hear: You aren't good enough and need to become better.
Love is the only subject where people sugarcoat the truth so you won't sink into a depression. If this shit were math and you kept saying 10+10=32 a teacher would say "bitch are you stupid?" But when it comes to romance, you all go out here and do all the steps wrong, then want someone to hug you and say, "It's not your fault that the math isn't mathing." It is your fucking fault! Once you can admit you don't know what you're doing out here, then you can seek tutoring. You need to do this thing called "love" right. Heavy on the "admit" part.
All you're bringing to the table is anxiety and pussy, and clearly the way you throw coochie isn't good enough to make up for your mood swings given the stories I'm seeing. It's time to stop going in circles!
Do you know how to vett a man with your words to make him tell you shit that he doesn't want to reveal? ...no, you don't ask shit, you just want to be picked.
If a guy flirts with you, can you fire back in a way that shocks and glues him to you? ...no, you freeze like a deer in headlights because you're too awkward and insecure to seduce like a grown woman.
When you're early in a relationship, do you know how to pull back, not spend too much time, and keep the honeymoon stage burning? ...no, you jump when a man wants to see you, always pick ups up when he calls, and are deathly afraid of playing the role of "booked and busy, so you better lock me down ASAP!"
Women who exude confidence don't have your problems. Women who don't put dick on a pedestal don't have your problems. Women who recognize that they can take any man they want don't have your problem. What do you have inside of you? Fear, indecision, and anxiety. Your nervous system is a mess, your personality is timid, and your pussy game is in the mud because you don't know the first thing about power.
The problem is you let men see your flaws to the point where they no longer see you as special. A Queen doesn't crash out in front of peasants. You don't cheapen your brand by allowing others to get a reaction out of you. Your aura should radiate to the point where they don't even think you're human. A woman in control can't be controlled!
How do you ascend to this level of godhood? It doesn't take years or even months. On today's podcast, I'm going to break it all down.
Plus, we discuss the clear signs of a man trying to play you, the power of foreplay, whether rich married men make for good boyfriends, and the craziest celebrity date story in this show's history.
