I hear it every single week:

“He’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, but we’re starting to have problems…”

“I went back to my ex, now he’s doing the same things he promised not to do…”

“G.L., give me a game plan on how to stop the next guy from wasting my time?”

Ignoring or forgiving a man’s red flags is a choice… BUT when a man convinces you that you’re the reason he acts the way he acts, or says you can’t do better than him, that's manipulation.

A weak man will control you and call it love. Put you down, so he can pick you back up like he’s the hero, not the villain. Use any attempt to walk away as proof that you never cared in the first place. None of that is romantic. It’s cancerous!

It’s clear why so many women have given up on dating altogether because the PTSD from past relationships has imprinted you with the fact that few men are who they appear to be when you first met.

WHY DO YOU EVEN LIKE HIM?

…because he’s nice when he wants to be. I feel protected. We have a lot in common.

LIES. You like him because he’s charmed you, fucked you, and gave you so much attention that you’re hooked. You don’t see his behavior for what it is. You like the drama, you like the struggle, and you think this is a game where all you have to do is hold on and he’ll “act right” again.

Spoiler alert… this man will never do right by you or grow into the man you need. The proof is in how he’s consistently treated you, not in the potential you feel he has to change and do better.

You don't do anything. You don't go anywhere. You don't talk about anything substantial. The same old jokes, the same old gossip, the same old laying around... that's not a love story, that's sad.

The Woman You Don’t Want To Be

There are women who make excuses for everything a man does because their worth is tied to male approval. Wives excuse their lying husbands. Mothers excuse their loser sons. Girlfriends excuse their abusive boyfriends. Even girls in situationships will be ride-or-die for a guy they can’t even claim ownership of... It’s a mental illness.

“If I cut off everyone who made a mistake, I’ll always be alone,” cries Tina Typical.

Everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes aren’t the problem, the lack of accountability is. Anyone who turns a situation they did back around on you isn’t reacting out of anger; they’re manipulating out of practice. This is who they are! They’ve done it before, and you’re the latest victim.

“Sorry” means nothing when it rolls off the tongue of someone who keeps embarrassing you, disrespecting you, and proving you’ll never be a priority.

“Maybe this is how love is.” No, basica! Love isn’t a high followed by a low. It isn’t constant arguing. It doesn’t involve crying over someone who refuses to do better. Stop misdiagnosing pain with love because you’re comfortable with that person.

Why do women share dick? Because they truly believe a man is confused or made a mistake, and he’ll pick her over the other women he’s chasing. He won’t!

That man is going to keep cheating, keep living a double life, keep yelling at you as if you’re crazy for noticing that he’s up to something. He’s not evil; he just thinks you’re dumb, and you prove it every time you let these men come back.

Why does saying, “I miss you” mean he gets to come over and fuck you with the same dirty dick that was in some other girl last weekend? Because you’re weak. He recognizes that you’re so open and dick-whipped that you will put up with things other women don’t.

Man Child 101: He believes that you love him. He knows you will hold him down unconditionally. But he keeps pushing you away because he knows he doesn’t deserve your loyalty. “Why is it so hard for men not to fuck up a good thing?” That’s the thing: you’re a good thing that he doesn’t want. You’re not what he imagined; you were just a chase that he caught and had no idea waht to do with next.

There are men who are so damaged from childhood that they will never be happy in any relationship. He’ll tell you, “Don’t give up on me,” then sabotage it by next month because he hates that you love him. He resents you for not walking away even though he’s the one who begged you to stay!

What kind of woman argues back and forth with a man that already disrespected her?

What kind of woman forgives a man who gives her an STD or has a baby on her?

What kind of woman continues to give a man money, loans, or co-signs for things so he can go out and spend that money on another woman?

What woman would rather stay in hell than walk and find someone else or be happier alone?

Answer: Too many of you.

The Woman Who You Need To Be…

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