You're together, but not together. You say you're single, but you don't seriously entertain anyone but them. They drop I Love You, but won't claim you. To top it off, you have some kind of unwritten rule that you'll only have sex with one another. Who would ever sign up for this half-ass part-time bullshit? A lot of women, apparently. He's in his bag, you're in your bag, and there's no time for love, so it is what it is... until it gets a lot deeper and you drown in feelings that you never meant to catch.

Why do so many men waste your time? Why do they see you as a placeholder? Why do you pretend that you don't want more from him when you do? Are you afraid to ask for what you really want and be denied? Is your fear of rejection why you front like you don't want him? You are too old to be afraid to get what you want. You are too great to settle for "go with the flow" relationships. Beloved, you're not building for a future; he's not falling in love, and even though he treats you special sometimes, you are wasting the best years of your life by allowing him to put you on hold. "I don't care, G.L. I'm bored, and it's something to do." Ha! Stop lying to yourself. Today, we're going to break down how to get out of this kind of purgatory, placeholder relationship, and make that man see you as his Game Changer!

Why Men Want Exclusivity Without Commitment

• Maintains the freedom to upgrade you if someone better appears
• Control over you minus competition from other men
• Girlfriend benefits without the pressure to give you his all
• He sees something in you that scares him: Trauma, Attitude, Ove-Emotional...
• A cover-up for friends or family when they ask why he's single
• The ability to sleep with other women and not feel guilty because technically you're not his girl.

It's hard not to catch feelings if you're texting a guy daily, seeing him weekly, and he's saying all the right things. You don't want to stay on the dating apps; you think you've found THE ONE. You don't want to take a new number or respond to some random's DM, again, you think you found THE ONE.

This is how men win, and women lose. 

You're afraid to start over.

You hate dating and the "getting to know you " phase.

You just want to like someone who likes you back and you cuddle, laugh, fuck, and only have eyes for each other... 

Men KNOW that women want simple love. So they feed that image. Play that part. Give you the "sneak preivew" only to pull back with... "Let's not complicate things" or "Let's keep building".

Because you now like him, and he's saying that he does want something in the future. You buy in, shut down shop, and wait... exclusive to him... 

Meanwhile, he's DM'ing other women, still has the dating app on his phone, drunk dialing exes when you get on his nerves, and living life like a single man still looking for his soul mate.

He hustled you into a fake relationship, and you're stuck. No matter what I write about being a Spartan and not moving like a basic bitch, you don't care because the heart wants what it wants. "I don't have time to date multiple men, G.L.," cries the woman with time on her hands to stalk her half-boyfriend... Let's be honest: Rotational dating is a waste of energy, because you would rather see how this guy works out.

This is how dating multiple men fails in real life, as 75% of the women who email with me on a monthly basis never do this step correctly. Instead, they fall fast and hard for a dude who says "you're my girl, not my girlfriend," hoping you remain faithful to a non-title while he can remain community dick.

Don't you want to do better than a purgatory relationship?

Don't you want more than a "friend"?

Don't you want to be the one a man can't live without instead of someone he refers to as "not that serious" when trying to slide inside other women?

Falling in love is an eruption, a magical escalation as you two grow together, not a series of "You cool enough to fuck, but not really be with," dates! Right now, someone is crying over a man who's not their man. They're waiting for a text back, going through horrible anxiety, and confused as fuck as to why a person they are not officially with, has so much power.

If you're currently in your feelings, you need to pay close attention as I go through:

Women Who Are Waiting For Men To Upgrade Them Romantically

Women Who Fall In Love With Wealthy or Popular Guys

Women Who Are Deep Into Dating But Still Aren't Being Claimed

How Men Separate Strong Women From Gullable Bitches

"I guess he found a girlfriend, he posted her the other day," is a message I received from a reader whom I repeatedly told to walk away from this guy, who said he loved her but refused to claim her on any level. Within a month of them not talking, here this man was putting a new girl on his Instagram page.

Why?

Because it only took him weeks to see that the new woman was his Game Changer and the old one was always a placeholder. You're not going to make it to his IG page, let alone his last name, if he's already decided your value is limited.

Why do men do things like this in the first place? Because you