On Today's Podcast, I'm going to break down beauty from the male perspective.
-Why doesn't he shoot his shot if he's interested?
-Why did he lose interest so fast?
-Why do men go for your friends and not you?
-Will surgery fix my love life?
I don't care what body shape you do or don't have. What your face looks like before or after makeup is applied. There will always be guys who objectify you as: FUCKABLE, WIFEABLE, or I'LL PASS.
The worst mistake you could make is assuming that you're bringing something to the table physically, that's a cheat code to love. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder, but there are levels to attraction: Surface lust Vs. Deep Soulties. As you can see from this email:
"Hey G.L. I'm a huge fan of your books and wanted to write in to your show because I had a basica moment that has shredded my self-esteem after I worked so hard to heal. I recently met a muscian in my city, in plays in a very popular orchestra and owns three recording studios as well. Very successful man and he's only 34. After being hooked up on a blind date we hit it off. Went on two and a half dates (one date was to a jazz club then the next date was dinner that turned into me visiting his house and staying over). Yes we had sex.
Not only did we have sex once, we did it multiple times for the rest of the day into the evening. He even moved his plans because we were having so much fun. I've never had a man fuck me like, hold me like that, and make me feel this warm inside.
You're the master of this stuff so you already know what happened lol. Yup G.L. I didn't hear anything. Not that next day or the day after. I finally texted him with a video of a singer we both like. He ignored. I then sent flowers to his studio, thanking him for the date and wishing him luck on his next show. He ignored. Everything that you wrote about in your book, I did the opposite because I just wanted to fix whatever I thought was broken.
All of this went from 0-100. I caught him looking at my Instagram story. So I called him out and told him it was amazing how he had time to watch me but not talk to me. I cursed him out. I called him predatory. I really let him have it. Guess what? He finally texted me.
I won't get into minute by minutes but he basically told me we weren't compatible with no real reason but I was a "great girl". I felt so dumb, but my stupidity didn't stop there. G.L. I told this man that I could prove that I had a lot in common, we just needed more time. I cringed the moment I sent it because I knew how it sounded once it left my head. He just wished me luck in life. I was crushed.
Fast forward to two days ago. My friend who hooked me up on this blind date told me that he was shocked that we went out at all because he commented to him that he didn't think I was cute at all. Excuse you?
G.L. I'm not going to lie to you, I think I'm very pretty in the face. I'm a medium brown girl. My boobs are small, but I did get a bbl in 2021, and I've maintained it with exercise. I tell you all of this to say that I have a nice body and cute face. I would say I'm at least an 8. But this man downing my looks hurt, and my best friend (the guy who hooked me up on a blind date) did mention that maybe he just liked the fact that I had a phat ass. Men approach me, but they're usually not the kind any woman should take seriously. The men like this musician, professionals, well dressed, grown man energy, never look my way. Am I doing something wrong?"
Ladies, a man liking the way your ass looks in jeans or the way your cleavage spills out online doesn't have shit to do with the price of tea in China. Males lust over any and everything on a base sexual level. Do you know how many times I've heard "She's ugly but I'd fuck" since I was in middle school? From ages 15-55 the majority of men still have this juvenile mindset when it comes to looks because they see a certain type of woman as being easier to win over and sleep with. The male ego wants easy, controllable, fast pussy. The game is figuring out which women to target... the ones they perceive to have insecurities.
There are guys who are fit, wealthy, or know they're more handsome than typical men, and they don't go for their trophy type, they go for the type they THINK they're better than: They hunt for flaws facially, they hunt for flaws in the way you talk, they hunt for flaws in your life story, anything that tells them that you're not the kind of woman who gets picked by elite men! "She's going to see me as the catch, and then I can fuck that within the week," is the GAME.
In your mind you can think you're an 8 or a 10 but what do ment think???
-She's a bigger girl, I can fuck that easily.
-She had surgery because she's not secure, I can fuck that easily.
-She just told me on the date how she's never truly been loved, I can fuck that easily.
These men aren't dating you; they're testing you to see if you're just like the other weak bitch he fucked easily last month. Wanting to put his dick in you is not the same thing as wanting to put a title on you. Being sloppy and having raw sex can get any woman a kid, but that sex won't make a man actually fall in love with her. The name of the game is to understand how to play it and win EVERY TIME. Attraction is a complex subject, but I'll tell you what I've learned over the years about men to help you beat these men at their own game in this MUST LISTEN episode.
You don't need surgery, you don't need celebrity makeup brands, and you don't need social media filters. Turning a man on and keeping him turned on to the point where you become his definition of beauty only takes three specific things, let's get into the show...
