Valentine’s Day, it exposes how a man truly feels about you. Yes, it’s a made-up corporate holiday, but it’s the first test to see if a new relationship is deeper than sex or final proof that an old relationship has grown stale. Let me break down how we men think. If I fuck with you, no matter if it’s been 3 weeks, 3 months, or 3 years, I’m going to use this as an opportunity to show that in a materialistic or overly romantic way. Period!
If a man doesn’t fuck with you, then he’s going to make excuses, get fake busy, stage an argument, or act like it’s not something he celebrates. Lmao, bro is acting like Vday is against his religious belief because he doesn’t think your pussy is worth a box of chocolate! The sad thing is, women will give up Coochie and mouth, get nothing on Feb 14th, and still make excuses for that man. Pick Me’s refuse to admit the obvious: these men are sampling your Placeholder ass. Proof by their lack of effort on the one day when it’s cool to showcase love and affection in a cheesy and dramatic fashion.
So what type of woman are you? Are you a Pick Meisha, happy with being fucked for free? Are you a Spartan who loves it because your man (or roster of men) shows out for you? Or are you single and hate the idea of Vday because it reminds you of what you’re currently lacking? No matter what boat you find yourself in, single or taken, I'm here to tell you to let go of the bitter and remember what's most important-- your worth!
What’s your Situation? Placeholder or Game Changer?
”What do you get a man for Valentine’s Day?” Women ask this on social media because women are thoughtful; they express love if they feel love. If you’re dating a guy why would you ever accept that a man who claims he likes or loves you doesn’t even think about you enough to get creative? "Wouldn't it be nice if I did XYZ for bae..." should go through a man's mind, there is no excuse that "men just don't think that way." Yes the fuck we do... for the ones we cherish! If Feb 15th comes along and you haven’t gotten shit, then he's telling you the obvious: your value is limited because you're just holding the place of someone he actually wants to love on that deep level.
What if you are getting affection and thoughtfulness, but it's in a roundabout way? If you have a friend who wants to take you out a few days before Vday or has something for you the weekend after then is it because he’s busy... or is it because you’re the side bitch?
I want you to take a Basica Test right now. Ask yourself if you were a man who truly liked a woman outside of just sex, comfort, or something to do when bored, how you would treat her? Ask yourself if you were a man who was cheating on the side or had other girls on your roster, how you would move in order to keep your secret? "He doesn't have time to cheat." Yes, he does, Basica! "We're not officially together, so I don't even care what he does." Yes, you do, Basica, that's why you're checking his social to see if he's active and texting him repeatedly to see if he's responsive on Vday. If you feel something is wrong... or something is off, it's because it is. The worst thing to be is a side that doesn't know it's a side.
Women are more intelligent than men. So look at the holes in his story or what’s being said by his actions… if you aren’t getting a 100% effort, he’s spelling it out for you, you’re a placeholder!
”So I should break up or cut someone off because of a Holiday?” No! You should use this holiday to observe how someone sees you. Furthermore, it's a chance to be honest about where you are currently.
On birthdays, people reflect on life: Am I successful? Am I living out my dreams? Or am I behind and struggling to match the vision I had for myself of "I'm going to be on top by a certain age"
On Valentine's Day, people, mostly women, reflect on love: Why haven't I met someone who sees me as special? ...or Why am I dealing with a person who can't give me the things other women are getting?
Basic women, ratchet women, hard women, soft women, the mirror is held up to your love-life every February and it's time to pay attention to what it's showing you.
If You’re Single & Basic
What if you don't go outside these days but you still want someone to know that you're still loved? The most annoying person on V-Day are single mothers that use their children for attention.
My favorite type of V-Day woman is the Holiday Ratchet. She doesn't care if the club is basic; she's going. She's not taking her kid out on a mommy/daughter date, already has a babysitter for those little cockblockers.