If he only calls you when he wants something—bitch leave. If he would rather hang with his boys than with you—bitch leave. If he has a key to your apartment and has never offered to pay your cable bill—bitch leave. If he has more kids than you have fingers—bitch leave. If his ex-girlfriend knows where you live, work, and the color of your bathroom rug—bitch leave. If he thinks you're fucking every guy you know—bitch leave. If he's clubbing like he's single—bitch leave. If he hits you—bitch leave. If he burns you—bitch leave. If he hasn't had a real job since you've known him—bitch leave. If he hasn't taken you on a real date since you started fucking—bitch leave. If you have to hack into his Facebook account to ease your mind—bitch leave.
That’s all bullshit. You can't go by a check off list in real life. Red flags are never red, warning signs don't come blinking with sirens, if it were that easy to point out a bad man dating wouldn't be so hard. You can have a thousand examples of things that men do that would make you leave him, but until you're in that situation with your heart on the line, you can't say for sure that you would actually leave. Reasoning. Context. History. These are the things that keep people holding on to bad relationships. Every big bad woman likes to huff and puff about how she would never be with a man after he cheats on her, but when push comes to shove and the L word's involved, she changes that tune and makes an excuse for him. You can't predict what your heart will put up with. At the same time, you have to fully understand what kind of person you're dealing with. There comes a breaking point in most relationships when two incompatible people should split, but they don't, they continue because they're comfortable with that each other, afraid to find someone new, or plain old delusional. Everyone around you can see that your relationship is weaker than a Lloyd/Miguel beef but you think he's the best boyfriend ever. In a few months y...
