When a guy sees a girl he finds attractive he thinks, “She could get it”. When a girl sees a guy she finds attractive she thinks, “He could get it”. Despite these generic gender roles we get saddled with we’re all horny ass animals that sexualize each other in the comfort of our own minds. While a man will give in and aim for sex sex sex, women are much more hesitant to give into that “I just want to fuck” gene. Females have developed a survival instinct somewhere between the days of the Caveman and now to combat men who just want to hit and split. “He could get it…” is now followed by “…if he treats me right, commits to me, and shows me he’s sincere in his feelings towards me”. That mentally had to evolve from hundreds of years of being tooted and booted. Women get just as horny as men do but most women are obsessed with titles over nuts. Has a man ever put his dick back in his pants because the girl wouldn’t commit to him? NO! Having sex doesn't need to come with relationship validation. We’re still going to fuck because Ownership/Title/Status isn’t mandatory. However, a man can’t live off of sex alone; we want the total package of great sex/bomb personality that will make us become emotionally invested. Not every guy is stuck in player mode. Most go in hoping the latest girl is that total package. But somewhere between the first cupcaking phone call through the first time he sees her naked his feelings usually change and it's already been decided that this girl isn’t the total package after all.
“When I was with Vivica, I thought I was onto something/ But then the next week, nah man it was nothing'” – Curtis Jackson
The #1 question I get has to do with “Why did he change after we had sex”. I maintain that a man never truly knows how he feels about a woman until he has sex with her. Our dicks are like that Black Spiderman suite, it’s alive and whispering what we want to hear, “We think this girl may be the one, she doesn’t nag as much as our last one, Peter”...
