Why You’re The Homegirl, Not The Girlfriend

Love and Basketball set a lot of women up for failure. As awe-inspiring as it was to see best friends become soul mates it also planted this passive ass idea of “I won’t express my feelings, I’ll just friend him into wanting to be with me”. Its one thing to be lifelong friends and then you start to have feelings when you mature, that’s natural. But it’s totally unacceptable for a GROWN woman to know she has a crush on a guy, suppress it, and try to pass her feelings off as sisterly because she doesn’t have the courage to say, “I like you, and not in the help pick out my nail polish type of way“. A lot of women tend to be shy when expressing their feelings to a guy they’re feeling and the best way to avoid being rejected is to appeal to his platonic side. It’s so much easier for a shy girl to exchange numbers under the pretense of “let’s talk about schoolwork or gossip about my friend I think you like” rather than tell him she wants his number because she thinks he looks good. By coming off as a buddy she doesn't have to worry about him saying he has a girlfriend or flat out telling her he’s not looking for a relationship, it’s a no pressure situation that allows that girl to Trojan Horse her way into his life.
 
Work Husbands... School Friends... Pretend Cousins... Play Brothers... women make friends with a lot of men and give them these labels that sound innocent. But anytime you spend a lot of time talking and bonding with the opposite sex, there is a high potenti...