Women have this insatiable need to be chosen over other women, it’s the validation that no matter how many other girls are in this world, she does something that is unique or possesses something that makes her more special than the next bitch. Any girl can brag about being sexy, about having bomb pussy, about owning her own home, or having some job that pays good, but it only makes a woman feel superior when a man cosigns her achievements. It’s not about being a trophy or bowing down to the patriarchy, it’s the fact that the rest of the world judges women by how much they are loved. A woman with an engagement ring gets more “oohs” and “ahhs” than one that walks into a beauty shop with a Chanel bag that she had to buy herself. Nothing matters if no man wants you… isn’t true, but it’s an insecurity that dwells inside of most women. You can call yourself a dime and drive around in a benz, but another woman will be quick to point out– but where’s your man? If you’re so special, why doesn’t any one decent, paid, and cute want your ass once his dick goes soft? The point is, sense of value rarely comes from what you have or who you are, but what man is there to validate you by committing himself. Commitment, real commitment not fake or forced titles, proves that you are wanted. All the pretty girls out here, and he chose you, that’s a warm feeling that all women want to experience. To be chosen second, to be settled for, to be just a piece of pussy, or a back-up plan can rattle the confidence of any woman because most see male approval as the highest achievement.

scared-of-coochieOne basic bitch told me, “We all got degrees, we can all get money, but can these hoes pull niggas as fine as the ones I pull, fuck no!” She sounds like a fool, but she’s an honest fool because many females refuse to admit that it’s male attraction that fuel them more than money. Here’s where males and females differ. Men don’t give a fuck about being special nor do they mind being settled for. The ends justify the means. You can look at Biggie Smalls and say he would never have gotten Faith if he were still doing hand to hands on the block. You can look at Arthur Miller and say that he would have never gotten Marilyn Monroe to bust it open if he didn’t have the potential to make her an even bigger star. Men shrug at the journey to pussy or the mindset of the girl they end up fucking, because in the end, no matter the reason for that success, they got what they wanted. Talk all day about “this is the type of man I need” but you still end up fucking her… why? Because women don’t know what they want, they are just searching for that feeling of love as well as the validation of being chosen by someone. No man should give a fuck about being a girl’s type, meeting her imaginary list of Must-Haves, or if she was aiming for another nigga when she walked in the room. The proof is in the results, and regardless of if she wouldn’t have chosen you first, you ended up with her. That’s called victory.

 

Jeremy-Meeks-Iphone-caseI want to talk to the fellas today because I see a lot of these new dudes picking up female traits. Everywhere I go women tell me, “Boys act worse than girls these days,” and they are right. This is a nation of simps that get in their feelings anytime a girl shows other men attention, be they rappers, athletes, or even regular dudes that posses what they don’t have. When that mugshot of felon Jeremy Meeks went viral dudes were hurt. It had nothing to do with him being a criminal; it was about women showing attention to other niggas on their timelines. We’re men, not women, why the fuck would we be threatened by another man’s looks? I didn’t grow up in the era of being jealous of niggas with blue eyes; I grew up in the era where you paid attention to the looks of women you want, not other men. Many cats are growing up without fathers, without big brothers, and they’re so soft that they don’t know how to react to lack of attention or rejection. I’m from a generation where it was cool for a girl to say “no,” because you just go after the next one until you get a yes. Real niggas don’t take it personal, they don’t sulk, they don’t slander women, and they don’t try to force the issue. These new niggas should be out getting pussy or trying to find an ambitious girl they can build with… instead, they’re on the internet photoshopping another nigga to look gay. Tell me that ain’t the epitome of being more bitch than a bitch.

Seeing women sell themselves short because they have no self-esteem irritates me, but it also irks me that these young dudes are struggling to be men because they feel as if they aren’t Chris Brown enough for the thots on internet. Jealousy is the 2nd weakest emotion behind fear, and I think it’s time that I put you young brothers back on the, “I can have any woman I want” track because how can a Spartan Queen ever find a King in a world full of pussy ass men.

Height Doesn’t Really Matter

Size-does-not-matterI like when women praise tall dudes, just off the strength of being tall, it’s revenge for all the niggas that gas up girls whose only positive is a big ass. Girls don’t want to hear about some Buttaface being bae because of a donk, and dudes don’t want to hear about some 6’4” dude who can’t even hoop being put on a pedestal. Now that we’re all even, let’s be honest. Some girls thirst for tall niggas, but it’s not a deal breaker in the way social media makes it out to be. It’s a want not a need, and if I had a dime for every time a girl emailed me the line, “I usually only mess with tall guys but there’s something about him” we could go bail out their blue eyed crime lord today. I often tell women with no ass or small booties that they can’t take shit talking Black Men at face value because a pretty face will have his face wherever you tell him to put it. Fellas, stop being bitter about dumb shit as if these girls really follow the 6 foot rule. The only thing girls break quicker than their height requirement is their no carb diet. Ignore. That. Shit! If you look good, talk right, and act better, you will Kevin Hart that pussy, and that same Bird that was like, “I need Kobe tall,” changes her tune to, “Girl, tall niggas ain’t even all that, I need that dick thrown from a low center of gravity.” It’s all bullshit; people don’t know what they are truly attracted to until they are put to the test. So, instead of being mad that your woman crush is praising these Kevin Nash niggas, worry about being the best in the world at what you do. Perfect your spit game, your approach, and go get what you came for.

Women Upgrade Looks Based On Affection

Now-He-Can-Get-ItI read some OK Cupid poll that said that women find 80% of men unattractive. I can buy that because all dudes are funny looking, who besides Prince is actually default pretty? Ask a woman her facial trait demands, and then try to go find a man that meets those qualities—you can’t even name celebrities that can match most of those standards. So if that poll is true, why is the human race still reproducing in record numbers? Because women settle! Statistics don’t take into account what a girl wants versus what she will take. The appearance bar is high, but females don’t mind lowering it if a man has other attributes that make her warm inside. I know a girl who got married to this Vince Herbert looking dude, and I told her he was a real cool guy and I see why she married him. Her insecurity wouldn’t let her take the personality compliment; she felt a need to say, “I like big teddy bears, that’s always been my type.” I could have said, bitch you used to suck my homie’s dick cus you said he looked like your boo Omarion, don’t front, but I didn’t. Some women will make their current mate match up with what their type is after the fact, it’s nothing more than revisionist upgrading to make it seem as if she didn’t settle. The moment you win the affection of a woman, your wide ears, your hooknose, your misshapen head, or any funny looking feature grows on her, and you become better looking than the first time she laid eyes on you. I wrote about men experiencing the same “personality makes her prettier” transformation in Solving Single. This is not fake, it’s not being delusional, it’s human nature to see past the flaws of those you like and focus on their strong points.

twerk-selfieMost of the guys reading this have been rejected online. You try to DM a chick who doesn’t write back, you Tinder bad chicks, and never get swiped back. I’m sure that makes you feel a certain way, but you have to look beyond the internet. I said it before, and I’ll keep saying it, women are much pickier online than in public due to the sheer number of thirst buckets responding to their best picture. Out in public those same “I woke up like this” girls may still be pretty, but the majority won’t garner the same attention as their online profile. Fuck inboxing, walk up and talk to a girl, make her laugh, get her number, and take her out. That same girl online would have ignored your advances, but in real life she’s not being bombarded with dick, so you got a shot. Of course, there will always be top shelf girls who are picky and should be meticulous because they can do better than your ass, but the other 90% will entertain you even if it’s due to boredom. Once you get a foot in, you can use your swag to kick the door open. A month later, she’s the one calling you because the time you’ve spent has made you appear more appealing than she initially thought you were. Again, don’t be like those IG clowns that hate on a guy like Sheneka Adam’s boyfriend because they want what he has and think they look better than him. You can get a lady just as good looking if you worry about what you bring to the table as opposed to what another man did to get his dime.

Broke Niggas Get More Pussy than Rich Niggas

erica-osheaWe are living in the golden age of female independence. Those women that are 25-35 have come of age in a world where the nuclear family has crumbled. The father that was supposed to take care of the mother, either wasn’t around or didn’t have a pot to piss in. Those women that grew up with absentee dads knew that the only way to get the things they wanted was to work for it. Modern American women are the hardest working creatures on the planet, because they don’t expect to be taken care of by men the same way women who grew up in the 50’s did. That’s a positive thing, but being hardworking and educated doesn’t equate to being smarter than Dick. Dick may not have Bachelors from a University but he has a Masters when it comes to manipulating lonely women. I hear, “I never meet men on my financial level,” all the time because women who make good money, tend to still be attracted to men that remind them of guys from the old neighborhood. The sad thing is that those local dudes didn’t go out and conquer the world, they’re broke, living paycheck to paycheck, or underemployed. Their hustle is to hook up with a girl who doesn’t mind helping him out, and pull himself up by using her as an investor. Women complain about this after they get played, but when your type is “cute but hood” and you’re turned off by “squares with money” then you will always end up dating struggle dick. It’s not that there aren’t men out here, it’s that most women are in a comfort zone of dating the same types. There are countless women that admit that they will never have a man with money, but they are okay with that because they have the mentality that “I can earn money, all I need is his love and support.” Think about that, women have become the men in relationships in the sense of bread winning, because women don’t believe they can find a man with equal finances who will love them in today’s world. These Fixer-Upper men, need her, so he will love her, and that’s what she settles for, dependency not partnership and standards.

“Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry…” – Gloria Steinem

A lot is made of the Hoes that are out here winning, but financially independent women could pull the same type of paid men as the gold diggers pull, in a non-user way if they tried. There are more men with wealth today than in any other time in history! However, females with their own shit often feel guilty about being shallow, as if they are going to get a gold star for ignoring the guy in the Benz and choosing the guy with the Bus pass. Lowering standards sucks for women, but it puts men who are struggling on equal footing with men who have money. As a man growing up in today’s world you may feel like a loser because you aren’t making a lot of money per hour, you never finished college, or some imaginary white Free Mason is holding you back. To see Fabolous step out in the all-white Rolls Royce or listen to Drake rap about living in a house so big he has to use a walkie-talkie just to get a beverage, will make you feel like you lost at life. I’m not going to get into a “nigga do better” sermon about money, but let’s assume you don’t even have 2k in the bank and are out of work or living paycheck to paycheck. You can still have the girl of your dreams. Money should never be the reason you don’t ask for a number or why you break up with a girl you love. So many women are heartbroken because men vanish from their lives, not because they were bad girlfriends, but because the male is ashamed of his financial situation. Being a man means that you should be able to look out for those you love, but choosing that pride over a good woman won’t improve your fortunes.

Woman sitting at cocktail party with boyfriendWhat’s the reason men give for not wanting to date outside of Netflix nights or make a girl he really likes his girlfriend? Money! You don’t have enough money to date that woman you want or to get into the type of relationship she deserves. That’s a weak ass excuse. If you have $40 for a used X-Box game, then you aren’t so poor that you can’t date seriously. There are way more ladies than hoes walking this earth, and they will not hold a cheap date against you. The thing you guys need to focus on is the effort. Give a woman your time, energy, and attention and they will appreciate that much more than a $200 dinner. Stop being ashamed of your finances when you’re on your way up in life. Women will understand your situation so long as it is legit and you communicate it, instead of trying to front like you’re paid then lying to her the night of the date. You know you can’t afford that meal for two plus tip, so why even pick that restaurant? You know you won’t have money until Friday so why are you trying to make plans on Thursday, then hitting her with “oh, can we just kick it at my place instead?” That’s fraud shit! Financial insecurity goes back to over analyzing what women talk about and not paying attention to how they really live. A girl can sit and talk about how she needs five star everything and a man that drives a foreign whip no more than two years old, but I’m here to tell you that most of these sisters out here are far from shallow. Instagram “models” may seem unattainable, but they aren’t. I repeat, women tend to date the same kind of men they grew up liking, so even if you don’t have much money, she will still be open to dating you so long as you treat her with respect. Value isn’t about the dollar signs, it’s about showing her that you’re trying your best within your means to prove that she’s someone you want to know on a deeper level than just sex.

The counter arguments may be that you don’t have money to date a bunch of women and risk being played for the little you have. As a broke dude, you don’t have to be selective, because even if shorty is a hoe, what’s the most she can get from you, an appetizer from Cheesecake Factory? Stop being so paranoid and stop thinking women are going to look down on you! Those foundation face weave wranglers y’all dudes thirst after as unattainable are merely community pussy that talk a good game in hopes some simp will trick on them. If you can open your mouth and speak clear English, then you have just as good a shot at landing her as any other man walking this earth, no matter what team he plays for or how light his eyes are. I’m not going to lie, I would rather a woman date at the highest level, but I’m a realist and I know that a person’s character isn’t defined by their bank account or car model. Be confident in yourself, no matter what your Wells Fargo reads. Money comes and goes, but your personality is what’s going to keep that woman in love. The next time you’re out, don’t be afraid to talk to the prettiest girl in the room because you live with your mother or you’re in-between jobs. Don’t let your temporary financial situation ruin a shot at real love. Women are understanding, Hoes are underhanded, so the fact that she’s willing to give you a shot knowing your financial situation proves that she’s an honest woman worth sacrificing your last $20 to show a good time. Stop running from Queens because you don’t have the money of a King. If anything those hardworking women can help you, not take care of your broke ass, but help you get where you need to be.

Stop Being Afraid of Pussy

Afraid-of-girlsLet’s review: Women are not as shallow as the internet bragging makes them out to be. You don’t need to be tall. You don’t need to be Trey Songz. You don’t even need to be thousandnair! So, what is your excuse for being jealous of the next man? What’s your excuse for getting mad when a girl RT’s someone she thinks is handsome? You’re a man, not a little girl, we don’t get bitter we get bitches! Being born a boy doesn’t come with instilled confidence, and just like the women that read this site, men too need a reminder of their greatness. That reminder will never come while your face is screwed up and your head is filled with negative thoughts. Stop listening to what the ratchets claim they want in a boo, stop being intimidated by the career women that make double what you make, and stop looking at hoes in tight clothes as if they are above your charm. Fuck being bold behind the keyboard, prove you can be witty outside the IG comment section. Fuck going to the strip clubs and paying to rub ass, prove you can pull that same size ass in the mall. Enough of this coonery where you tweet about the girls you wouldn’t have sex with, get off your ass and go pull the girls you would have sex with or you’re a clown! No matter if you are looking for one night or trying to find a wife, you have to go hard at these women. New niggas sit around and watch girls walk by, then talk to their homies about what they would do. I’m challenging you all to stop talking like chicks and start taking action like men! Tap a random girl on the shoulder this week and spark a conversation. Walk up to that chick at work that you catch staring at you on the low and get that number. There’s more to romance than sitting at home with five thirst apps open on your phone begging for nudes.

Drake and Rihanna at the Clippers game in LAI know a lot of you guys won’t admit this, but you’re afraid of pussy. Not the physical task of thrusting inside a vagina, but the anxiety of talking to a girl that may not like you or falling for one that may game you. These fools say they’re emotionally unavailable, and women buy that shit, some Basicas even get turned on. We both know that you’re not emotionally unavailable, you’re just trying to play off the fact that you’re afraid girls won’t like the real you the longer they get to know you! Men aren’t allowed to talk about being nervous; we have to pretend we don’t get butterflies because we have to behave hard. Men can’t confess that they’re worried about liking a girl too much; we have to pretend as if we only want sex so we won’t get our feelings hurt if she doesn’t want more from us. “I’m not scared of them, I just don’t want to be called thirsty.” Go swallow bleach, you idiot. That’s like saying, I don’t want to go interview with Donald Trump for a position making seven figures a year because I don’t want to be called money hungry. They are women, you’re supposed to want them! All of this emotional fronting is see thru, and the reason why we live in a nation of simps  is that today’s men are fake hard. True hardness comes from confidence, the ability to put it all on the line and go after what you want then not give a fuck if you face a few setbacks. So what if she only wanted the dick, so what if she stops liking you after the thrid date– you’ll get over it! The risk is always worth the reward, my nig! There is no better feeling than waking up next to the girl of your dreams and knowing she chose you. At that moment of victory it won’t matter where you fell on her Must-Have list, if she thinks you’re as fine as her man crush, or if she has ulterior motives, you proved that you can get what you want by being yourself, and from that day forward you will always know that the only true limits in life and love are those you place on yourself.

Read Next: Why Can’t Women Handle Dick?

Comments are closed.