When I talk about the concept of Female Power, I may as well be talking about NFL blitz packages, that’s how confusing it comes off to many women. This idea that you can get what you want in terms of love if you set your value and never back down, sounds good, but when you don’t understand what that means on a practical level, how can you utilize it? One friend told me that she sent a link to a co-worker hoping she would get the hint and Spartan Up. This co-worker fell in love with the website even more than my friend. However, the moment this woman went out and used this newfound swag to get a boyfriend, she forgot everything. This woman went from Spartan to Submissive in less than a month because she never really got it. I am a Warrior Queen that sets the rules of my relationship *POOF* a nigga takes you on one date, tells you you’re special, and you revert into I just want to make Bae happy. What happened to standards? What happened to power? The relationship crumbles just as quickly as it began because that nigga was never Bae, you were just basic.
No matter how tough you talk between relationships the REAL you is that person that shows up in an actual relationship. Men don’t like to be pressured to give out titles, so you don’t pressure. Men don’t like to be told to pay on dates, so you compromise. Men don’t like to be asked questions about their jobs, so you don’t bring it up. He hasn’t called in days, but when he does call asking to come through, you don’t even hold him accountable! Look at you walking on egg shells again, when you swore you were going to do better. In the end, you’re not a Warrior, you’re a little girl that got tough for a few months when things were hopeless, and you needed an esteem injection. Now that you’re back to consistent dick, conversation, and cuddle sessions the last thing you want to do is rock the boat, even if that boat is floating on a river of lies. You are a weekend Spartan that only wants to stand up for herself after an argument or learn how to use her Power when things reach a boiling point. That’s not being powerful, that’s being a perpetrator!
There are women that go through a temporary confidence boost and applaud the Spartan concepts, but they don’t really embrace it beyond a surface level. In the end, she lets a man mindfuck her and it’s back to BGAE to see what she did wrong. You read, but you didn’t internalize, that’s what went wrong! You think like a Spartan inside the house, but as soon as you step outside to put it to the test you let this world beat you back into bad habits. One of the main reasons why many women will never be able to Spartan Up is Fantasy Thinking. There is a little voice in their heads that sounds like a British Fairy God-Mother, and it’s telling them that everything will be fine. You just need to meet the right man, and he will appreciate your character and shower you with the level of affection that will have made all the turmoil worth it. Womp Womp! This Disney Princess mentality tells you that the good girl gets the good guy 100% of the time, and it has morphed the reality of real dating and created a generation of airheads who are easy to talk out of pussy. *bzzzzzzz* Every time an iPhone vibrates, a dumb bitch gets hustled out of pussy.
Remember The Little Mermaid, the beautiful misunderstood fish girl that saved the prince from drowning and made him fall in love. It showed the power of sacrifice, and how you should go for what you want—Wrong! The Little Mermaid is about Ariel the half-fish half-thot who sold her voice for dick. You too can find the man of your dreams, if you are willing to sacrifice everything to be with him, it’s not like your “voice” is important. This ho lived under water and was still thirsty, you live in a city with countless single men, yet you still hold on to the same ain’t shit dude, different ocean, same fish. Aladdin gave us Princess Jasmine who was strong, free spirited, and courageous. Then she let this bum ass nigga win her over by perpetrating a fraud that he’s a baller who just pretends to be bumming it on the block. This idiot Jasmine is a metaphor for every woman that has accepted a man’s lies, forgave him, and is happy to forget because men have the right to manipulate women if they have a good heart. In the end, Aladdin can let that Genie go because he just hooked a bitch with Arab money. The moral of the story? Take care of a lying ass dude and give him all your family’s money because he loves you.
A generation of young girls internalized this shit! As they grow out of cartoons they are still fed fantasy by their friends, parents, and told at every turn what to do so they won’t end up lonely. Play your position if you want a boyfriend… No play this position if you want a boyfriend… No play that position if you want a boyfriend. Women listen to all of this relationship advice, but the advice that wins out is the one that says, “You have to roll over if you want a man to put up with your shit.” Why does Beauty have to put up with the Beast? Stop doing circus tricks to get chose. If your happiness is tied to your quest to find a boyfriend, then you’ve already lost. Life isn’t about mastering how to be a good woman for “him”, Queens weren’t born to thirst after rings and relationship status, they were born to rule. This world trains women to stay on their knees, because those that learn to stand ask too many questions. It’s a bunch of weak bitch propaganda, and in the end weak minded women will continue to listen to that Fantasy voice, because unlike the voice of reality, it gives her hope that she will live happily ever after. Fuck hope, you don’t need hope if you have the Confidence and Common Sense of a Warrior Queen. You should never hunt for a boyfriend, you should hold multiple interviews until one emerges from the pack. So the question is, are you going to keep listening to what sounds good, or are you going to be a realist and Spartan Up 24-7/365?
How to Approach a Man
Fantasy: Men like to be men and do the chasing. Therefore you can’t be too forward or that will either turn him off or make him think you’re a slut. There is never a need to approach a man first because you are infringing on his manhood and insulting him. Women who aren’t hoeish wait for an interested men to walk up to them and show interest. By going out of his way to talk to you, it proves that he is serious and that you are what he’s after, and not just settling for a woman who forced her number into his phone. This type of woman may not meet Prince Charming every time out, but he will eventually come. Since he pulled you, there will be no confusion as to if he is genuinely into you for you, this is how you know that it is real. If you want to find true love, dress in a way that will catch his eye, and he will come to you.
Reality: Men do not give a fuck about gender roles anymore, and neither should you. The days of John Wayne smoking a cigar while you trot your ass in the kitchen and make him a steak was a wonderful era for weak bitches because it gave them a designated place to be—in the kitchen. Domestication is dead. Your role isn’t defined by men, it’s determined by you. Therefore, if you feel like the guy with the beard two seats down from you is cute, you should approach him. Oh no, what will he think? If you’re pretty he’ll think, “Wow, she’s on my dick, I bet I can fuck her by the end of the week.” If you’re ugly he’ll think, “Man, why didn’t her friend come over instead? I’ll take her number and fuck her if I’m bored.” That’s not the way a woman wants to come off to a man, that’s horrible! No, Mulan, that’s reality. Yes, men will think you just want to fuck, and the truth is you do want to fuck, but only if the circumstances are right. You aren’t easy, so him thinking you’re easy does you no harm. Exchange numbers, let him blow up your phone trying to get you to come over that week, don’t be offended, simply put him in his place by showing him what kind of woman you really are—one that needs to be taken out, not brought in.
You came for him, because you don’t have time to be waiting around all night, not because you were desperate. Desperation would be accepting numbers from 5’s and 6’s because you don’t have the clit to grab that 9 or 10. Now that you made the move, he still has to put in work, if he doesn’t like the thought of that—there’s a function on all phones called “delete.” A guy not approaching you first is not a reflection of his manhood or your ability to get chose. Which do you want to be, too good to speak first or too good to settle for bum dudes that approach you first. If you see a job opening, you apply for it, you don’t wait to be recruited. Get the stick out of your ass, and get what you want instead of accepting what’s handed to you because you fear the approach. “But my Aunt says men should come up to you,” then you should tell your aunt to buy you a cat, because that’s who you’re going to end up living with so long as you play by those rules. The ends justify the means.
How to Communicate With a Man
Fantasy: An interested man will call you within two days of getting your number. Do not text or call him first, as that will make you seem thirsty and loose. When he does call you first, be sure to sell yourself as different from the rest. Men love to hear about how you are the best at school or work, and all of your grand plans to conquer the world. Make sure to repeat stories about how you don’t hang with too many females and that the ones you are cool with look up to you because you’re wise. It’s okay if you don’t ask him personal questions, men are private, so take this opportunity to talk about yourself in depth so he clearly understands that he hit the jackpot. If he doesn’t call you back after your 2-4 hour conversation where you spilled out every detail of your life, do not text him first the next day… unless you really start to miss him. If you really miss this man and can’t take the pain of not talking to this virtual stranger who you just met, then stalk his social media page. Once you establish that he is still alive and is being active on said social media site, then it is okay to text first to let him know that you saw his last Facebook update and it was funny. Don’t worry, this is not at all creepy, it just shows him that you care. In order to get this man to like you and not feel threatened, you have to get into the habit of not asking too many questions such as, what he does all day or where he works. Assume that this man is doing good things and you are the only woman he talks to, this will keep your mind filled with happy thoughts. Your job is not to annoy him, eventually he will respect this quality and open up.
Reality: When you want to talk to a man, you hit him up whenever you feel like it. Girls wait, Women initiate. Send a text with something interesting to ask, not just to check in. The only thing a man hates more than dry pussy is dry texting, so show some personality, not just the ability to write “WYD”. Act your age and engage, that’s how you separate yourself from the other six women he’s texting at the same time. If you’re progressive enough to put on your big girl panties and call, make the first conversations about him, not you. You learn about a man by listening to him talk, not listening to yourself ramble on. Nobody gives a fuck about your last two relationship or why men always disappoint you. You come off like damaged goods if all you can talk about is who doesn’t like you and why they are wrong. I repeat nobody gives a fuck. Keep the conversation interesting and stop talking about you you you. Avoid typical conversation about where you live and what you hate or love about it, the colors that look best on your nails, or how you’re the “one friend everyone comes to for advice.” He truly doesn’t give a fuck, and it makes you seem boring and basic.
Pussy grows on trees while good conversation has to be refined like oil. Be Iraq, bitch. Your conversation should be so good that it makes him want to invade you and set up a permanent government! If he doesn’t respond back to your text. Fuck him. If he doesn’t return your call. Fuck him. If he only responds to ask if you want to come and see him. Fuck him. If a man acts flakey during any time the first week that you meet him. Say it with me, “Fuck him.” You have options; they are called every other man on the face of the earth. Never be afraid to get in a man’s business, you do not owe him privacy! He’s trying to smash, don’t you think you should know more about him than his favorite NBA team and his feelings on Drake? Think about it, Pocahontas, he wants to insert his dick inside you, there isn’t an act more intimate, so why are you afraid to ask him about his life? I’m not talking about who he talks to and if he wants something serious, those are dumb ass questions. Where does he work, what does he do, what are his short-term goals, not his fantasy “I got this App idea” bullshit goal, but his six month plan. A refusal to get in his business is the same as allowing him to lie to you. “Girl, we be tripping on the phone all night” is for teenagers; don’t be blinded by the chitchat.
How to Get Dates from a Man
Fantasy: If a man wants to take you out for a good time, he will offer up his services when he is ready. There is no need to ask first, this makes you seem like a gold-digger. Men today take their time when courting, and he may need several days to clear his schedule for you, so be patient and continue to talk to him until he comes around with an invite. When he asks if he can see you, always be available. It is in bad form to talk to a man all week, then not be available when he wants to see you. You do not want to seem like you are a cock tease, so even if you have plans, cancel them so you can go on a date with him, this proves you are into him and moves you closer to being his woman. Some men do not have much money, this is fine, and you can pay your own way or split things down the middle if this makes him feel comfortable. Always keep extra cash on you in case his card is declined or the meal is more than he has, this is the quality of a good selfless woman. Show a man that you’re compromising, and he will show you love. If your fellow does not want to go through the hustle and bustle of dinner, a movie, or any outside event, be open to house dates. This could be an opportunity to show him that you cook good, and divorced women always say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If he wants to bring you back to his place, don’t resist out of fear, show him that you don’t need a flashy date, just quality time on the edge of his bed watching Orange Is the New Black, while he rubs your thigh. You don’t need finance for romance, be understanding and you will be rewarded.
Reality: What the fuck is the point of calling you every day if he isn’t trying to take you out? You’re not looking for a text buddy, you’re looking for a grown ass man that will treat you like a grown ass woman. Within a week of meeting you he should find an activity that he thinks you will enjoy, and ask you on a date. If you’re busy, then tell him to reschedule. If you need an extra day to get your hair done, then tell him to reschedule. If you just don’t feel like being bothered then tell him to reschedule. You don’t move at his pace, you move at yours because you’re the fucking Queen of this world and a man must see your time as valuable enough to make dating work around your schedule. If he doesn’t call to reschedule because his feelings are hurt, then delete Prince Playtex from your phone, you have no time for sensitive men.
When he does ask you out properly make sure his suggestion is up to your standards. If you have to go up to the counter to order your food and then sit down, that’s not a date. If you have to pay for your own ticket and popcorn, that’s not a date. If you have to go pick him up, and then drop him back off, that’s not a date. If he asks you to hook him up with gas money, that’s not a date. If he takes you to a dive bar and makes you stand around and yell conversation in his ear, that’s not a date. Make him realize that this is Your Pussy that he’s dealing with, not her pussy, not his exes’ pussy, not his homegirl’s pussy, not his co-worker’s pussy, not Facebook pussy, not Twitter pussy, Your Pussy! Your Pussy gets taken on real dates. If he isn’t asking you out, plan your own date, and tell, don’t ask, tell him where he’s taking you and on what day. If he wants you to cook for him, tell him you don’t work for Food Network. If he wants you to come over to his crib and watch movies, tell him you have your own Netflix account. You don’t beat around the bush, you don’t beg, you don’t suggest, you show him how a woman like you is courted.
How to Use Pussy Power
Fantasy: These other women talk a good game, but you are one of the few women blessed with a magical vagina. No man can resist you after sex, so be careful to wait 90 days until he proves he is ready to handle all that goodness. …well, 90 days may be too long since you haven’t had any dick besides that of an ex-boyfriend, so if things get tense and you give in, don’t worry. Having sex with you will make him want you more. You are not like other women, your ex said you had better pussy than his current girlfriend, so that has to be the truth. You have a secret weapon, and it will lead you to the promise land.
Reality: Pulling a rabbit out of a hat is magic, pulling down your panties is a trick any bitch can do. Pussy power isn’t about giving up pussy, it’s about setting the value of your pussy so high that men will have to wonder why you think you deserve special treatment. And the thing about men, they are obsessed with finding out what’s so special about a girl! It doesn’t matter when you have sex, but it takes time to promote the legend of your vagina. By the time he finally has sex with you, it’ll be more than a nut, you will have infiltrated his mind. Cave in to dick pressure too soon and see where that gets you. After the new pussy feeling wears off, you’re left back where you started, single and placing blame. Your ex or the past randoms you recycle in order not to raise your sleep number, all say you have good box, but why don’t they want you… Oh, they’re bums anyway, um, then what does that make you if 90% of the men that have slept with you are losers? Every girl thinks they have good pussy, but few know how to prove it with results. I hear a lot of talking, but where’s the physical proof Sunshine?
How to Command Respect
& Get Chose
Fantasy: Keep doing what you are doing. You may have to go through ups and downs, but real men reward loyalty, and all women have to go through hell to make it to heaven. No matter, what the good lord puts you through in terms of this man’s temperament, stand by his side, and remember this too shall pass! There is no need to be paranoid or pressure him to move at your pace in terms of a serious relationship. Men do things on their own schedule and the fact that he talks to you daily and comes over to chill means that you are special. You don’t need a definite answer as to what you are officially, be grateful that you have found a man that wants to spend time with you even if it is in the house. There are dozens of women that would die to have a friend like yours, don’t complicate things by pushing him to be more, that is a sure fire way to cause friction. A man will distance himself if you speak your mind or make demands. Play your position, and eventually he will get so comfortable that you end up getting everything you want in the end. There is no need to stress, everything will work out if you have faith in what your relationship can become if you continue to be understanding and love him with all your heart.
Reality: It’s time to stop listening to your inner Angela Lansbury and stop reinforcing fantasy thoughts that tell you, everything will be okay if roll over, sacrifice, and submit for a man! It won’t be okay, and your dating history has showed that no matter if you are compromising or defensive, you still get fucked over. It’s not about being “this level of nice” or “this level of hard” it’s not about gimmicks at all! If you want a man to respect you, you have to earn it! If you want to know the definite steps to unlock the male mind and regain real power then you need to read Ho Tactics, available TODAY.
When I wrote this new book, I wanted to make it as simple as A-B-C in terms of how to use your Power. A lot of women that read Solving Single understood how to Spartan Up the moment they hit the last chapter, others were like, “Um, can you break it down more, because it’s not as easy as it seems when I go outside.” For this book, I BROKE IT DOWN step by step so that anyone can follow. For those of you that don’t like the word “Ho” and feel uneasy at the thought of mindfucking a man, boo-hoo. Grow up and think outside the box, for a change. If you’re scared go to church, if you’re ready to evolve read this book! Yes, it is the dark side of Spartan teaching, but it is still 100% woman power and has nothing to do with being submissive, weak, needing a man, or losing your independence. I’m way too much of a feminist to write a book about the Kat Stacks level of Ho. I use Ho as the example, not because they are a female standard to be emulated, but because they spit game that all women should be able to spit. Men pass around books about the Art of Mackin, and call themselves Players. Females can be Players too and do it much more efficiently, but as soon as they do that, they are called Hos, Double Standard Alert. This book is about intelligence, not throwing pussy at men, and for that reason alone, it is something that every woman MUST Read.
If you’ve said the words, “Girl, I’m broke until next paycheck” then you seriously need to invest in this book before you invest in hair, makeup, or a gym membership because knowledge trumps all that exterior bullshit. I believe it was the Renaissance poet 2 Chainz that said, “If you have a pussy you should never have to pay your own rent” Every woman is sitting on an ATM, and the crazy thing is, you don’t even have to give up the goodies to make it generate for you. At the same time, this book is not just for those that want money or materialistic things, it’s about those that want confidence and the ability to tap into the kind of power will help you manifest your own destiny! Stop living in fantasy land, Cinderella, and take control of your life. This book isn’t going to corrupt you, but it will free you, and a woman free of mental shackles is the most dangerous weapon ever created.
Change your thinking, change your results…