90% of women are after the same 10% of men. First Layer: Attractive, funny, and aggressively masculine in a way that screams “big dick energy,” minus the toxicity. This layer is what creates lust and sexual chemistry. Second Layer: Financially stable. Shared beliefs. Steps up without having to be told what to do. This layer is what creates that deeper “we can build a family and thrive” connection.
90% of men only have 2 of those traits at once. The rest of them are okay looking, sarcastic not funny, overly feminine, don’t make much money, or if they do make a good salary they don’t spend it on you. An even larger portion of males don’t really believe in the same religious or spiritual ideologies that you do, shit– most don’t believe in anything besides conspiracy theories. And the cherry on top is that the majority will treat you like a Queen once then stop, never remember the things you like, rarely go out of their way to do things just because, and always has to be reminded how to speak your love language.
Let’s be real. Most of you will meet boys who you have to teach to be men, whose hands you have to hold like you’re their mother, and who you pour way too much love and effort into only to realize that you’re forcing love not being love. Relationships aren’t a one way street, if you’re the only one driving towards something, then chances are you’re not headed towards a happy ending, you’re speeding towards a dead end.
The 10% male is who you need, the 90% male is who you settle for. He’s frustrating because he’s not meant for you. He’s disrespectful because he wasn’t created for you. He can’t wait to chase other women because he’s not and will never be the man for you. Clinging to whose in your life instead of choosing to be single and waiting for the right one is hard. Why?
Because no matter how much you lie and say you enjoy being by yourself you hate being lonely, you can’t control the anxiety of “I’ll never meet anyone decent,” and at your core you truly do believe that love comes to good women. Again, this mindset is why you dated or are currently dating someone who had no business being in your phone let along in your vagina.
I want you to get the 10% man, those males who have top shelf qualities, embody high values, and who will show you, not tell you that you were put on this earth to be their happy ending. Many of you still struggle with my books, you can’t put what I write into practice, so this is going to be a short but sweet blueprint on how to get what you want by using what you have– feminine energy.
Do you have a MAN who makes sure your birthday feels epic and special?
Do you have a phone filled with options or a block list of regrets?
Do you know how to make a man realize what he has… or do you sit around waiting while he treats you like a Placeholder… just some girl he’s wasting time with until something better comes along.
Spartans get lavish birthdays. Spartans always have options. Spartans can check any man and get proper treatment no matter how long they’ve been together. Are you a Spartan? Or are you just another basic Placeholder losing at love?
The Formula For Teasing:
Here’s a secret... Most women don’t know what the fuck they’re doing. Awkward, weird, and unsexy. They mimic more powerful women, they stumble around, and they hope someone loves them. To be a woman who knows how to seduce, have a conversation, and tease puts you above 80% of modern women who don’t know how to do shit but talk too much and rate makeup products…
Let’s go through two types of men and how to connect: The First is The New Guy (a man you just met if you’re single). The Second Is The Established Guy (the guy you’ve been dating or with).
Step 1:) What Do Men Want At The Core…
Power & Status controls 99% of males, which is why money is so important to “manhood.” Listen to hip-hop music; the lyrics are about what they have versus what someone else doesn’t have. Look at how luxury watches have become a status symbol to attract women. Men cry about women and the over abundance of makeup products, but they pump insane amounts of money into the economy, all to buy flashy things that “Ho Bait” women into seeing them as high value. With everything I write, it all starts with you taking the time to understand the psychology behind why men do things. With knowledge comes control. With ignorance comes anxiety. A woman who is in control will never feel anxious when dating and have her way with modern men.
No matter the generation, race, or culture, men are driven to impress other men by obtaining power and status, and knowing this is the first step in controlling how they chase you. For example: That nerdy kid from high school who becomes a regional manager of Target buys cars, tricks on women, and shows off because, in his world, that’s power and status. Nice car, a pretty wife, and a supervisory position at work. To someone making millions, that guy’s still a basic nerd because there are levels to wealth and status. But for the average person, that kind of life is “making it big.” Therefore, the DREAM isn’t about becoming the richest. It’s about the appearance of doing better than your direct peers.
Think about your typical city. There are men who are blue-collar stable, meaning they do something like plumbing, electrical, or truck driving and are able to live a good life and attract a certain breed of women. There are white-collar wealthy, meaning guys who work with their brains, not their hands, and they’re making money on a whole other level and can afford to give you a luxurious life without thinking twice. Then, of course, there are Hood rich guys who are into scamming or crime and have money that may or may not be there in a few months.
All of these men want YOU. They’re after the best women in their city or on their IG page, and they have money that the 9-5 paycheck-to-paycheck guy doesn’t have, so they want to use their money to lure YOU in. The more women he can get, the more powerful he feels. But remember, it’s not about you as a person. It’s often about you as a tool that gives him status as “the man” in his city or to his friends.
As a woman you’re driven by the need to love and be loved, romantically and/or maternally. It’s how the female gender is raised, to want the fairytale. Men aren’t raised with that kind of brainwashing, it’s pure competition. For a man to feel true happiness and be fulfilled, he needs to gain things that position him as better than other men. Even if he will never be rich or never have the best car in the neighborhood, he’ll look for ways to make himself feel superior. Think about your own fathers or uncles. If they have a son, they take pride in their song being better in sports than other men’s sons. Why do they give a fuck? As a man, he may not have “won” in life, but he can live out his power and status by saying, “My kid is better than their kid.” It’s all ego, men have so much to prove to everyone because their insecurities are many.
So, let’s bring this back to love and dating. What can a man have that will make other men look at him with respect if it isn’t money—YOU. A pretty, loyal, and stand-up woman is worth more than gold. When other men see him with you, they will look at him with respect and look at you with lust. He has you, and that other man, no matter who he is or what he has, can’t get you. This is why jealousy is tied into the male psyche, they have to feel like no other man can take you away, not because of his love for you, but his love of his own ego.
Men chase money to attain confidence to attract the top women. Most guys are not “cool” or a lady’s man; many of the guys you’ll meet and even fall for are just wearing a mask, so he seems like a bigger man than he is. Think about the males you’ve gotten close to, who have opened up, they are fragile when they’re not around their friends. This is why perception is important to guys. Through that one special woman, he can poke his chest out and feel like a King who other men envy and other women now want, based on having a bad chick on his arm. This is why you’ll see men try to move way too fast to commit to you or get a woman pregnant before they’re married because he’s trying to hold onto that clout that comes with “Bagging a bad bitch.”
Think about cheating, given what I just explained. Psychology speaking, men don’t cheat for the feeling. Cumming in his hand while watching Pornhub is the same feeling as cumming in his girlfriend. Where the true enjoyment comes from is conquering a woman. If he’s fucking his girlfriend, and she’s moaning, talking submissive, and stroking his ego while he’s deep in that pussy, that’s the feeling that masturbating can’t provide. What’s better than dominating HIS woman? Dominating a new woman or another man’s woman. Because now he can say “Look at what I’m able to STILL get.” Men aren’t addicted to sex; they’re driven by the power they get from sex with new women, even if they aren’t as attractive; it’s about their ability to make women spread their legs.
Think of males like this: Fragile Egos who want to be looked at as Kings. If you can keep him guessing and confused, he will always be in a state of chasing and needing your approval. …chess not checkers.
STEP 2: YOUR POWER OVER MEN
How do you mindfuck and manipulate men in your personal life? What have you done in the past that made a man desperately want you… The answer is probably, “I didn’t do anything.” And that’s the point… a man saw something in you that he wanted to conquer, so he applied pressure to get you. That’s the chase. In your life, there have been men who have chased you and then tossed you back or men who have chased you and then weren’t what you wanted, so it didn’t work out. So, what was your power in these past situations?
I bet you didn’t learn a damn thing from ANY of your relationships about how to break a man down and get anything you want from him. You simply went through the motions like every other woman. Meet Him. Date Him. Fuck Him. It Ends. Nothing to show for it but bad memories or a STI. You’re not a boss chick, you’re a poser still dating with the skills of a 19 year old.
Anything you did get from an ex wasn’t because of your feminine magic. It was because he was trying to soften you up to fuck him. Some of you are in actual relationships where you barely go out, and the gifts you get are trash. He’s no longer in love with you; he’s just killing time with your convenient coochie. Bro, knows it’s easier to keep you, because unlike the new women he wants, you’re free and low maintenance. It has to hurt to see women who get spoiled like crazy, while you get the bare minimum. You hate to ask for anything and suck at reverse psychology, so you sit in your feelings, low-key jealous of other people’s relationships because you want more and don’t know how to get it.
You fail because you think men are the prize and refuse to rock the boat. You’re trying to “nice girl” your way into a happy ending and it’s not going to happen! Stop thinking of men with, “OMG, he’s so amazing; I hope he likes me.” Anxiety. Dafuq is wrong with you? I know it’s hard because there are men who look a certain way, smile a certain way, and stare at you with the type of eye contact that drenches your panties. BUT you have to act like you’ve had top-shelf dick thrown at you before.
“G.L., he’s wealthy and young, and so many other women are after him,” you hear that? That’s you telling me that you’re not good enough to keep his attention, so you’re looking to do extra tricks to keep his eyes on you. It doesn’t work like that, Basica!
Go back to Step 1. Men want power and status. To be a woman who isn’t impressed by what he has, how he looks, or how he charms on a date does what to the male ego?
It leads him to panic. He wants power over you. He wants to conquer you. That’s why he’s on a date with you. It’s not because of some Disney Princess soul mate bullshit. That man matches with you on an app or slid in your DM or chased you down in order to date and FUCK you. There is nothing romantic about his core thirst. His actions to get your legs to spread is the romance you fall for. He’s love bombing you so he gets to fuck you faster, and he has to ACT like he isn’t after “just sex,” and you’re so naïve or so high your own ego that you believe he truly does just want you for you.
Stop dating by accident and listen to the game I’m giving you right now. In order to drive a man crazy, you have to be the trophy he can’t get. Be yourself, minus the little girl anxiety, and have fun with him. Then, when he tries to take it deeper than a kiss, pull back.
STEP 3: BEING A TEASE
You know how to flirt, maybe not well, but you know how to be sassy, make little jokes, and smile at men on dates in a way that exudes playful energy. Teasing is the next level, and it comes after you’ve already sunk your teeth in.
Go to my Date Like A Spartan Book then re-read right before the 2nd date portion. Got it? Okay, once you’re beyond that first date vetting, you should be in the right space to sexually tease him going forward.
Teasing is simply taking a man to the edge and then pulling back. Work him up verbally, talk shit, let him talk his shit, kiss, then when he thinks he’s going to conquer you, pull back. On dates, this is as simple as leaving before it gets too late and not putting yourself in private situations with men who could try to bully you when you back away. Knowing when to stop him from trying to touch you under your clothes. And having the lady balls to say, “I’m not ready yet,” is key. From my experience, “It’s not the time” is hard to verbalize because so many females don’t like to tell men they like “no.” I’ll tell you this right now, if you can’t tell a man, “No,” even after making out with him, then you’re going to lose at life and end up settling for less, being a single mom, or wasting your time as a man’s Placeholder. “No” is your friend and is key to teasing.
For example, men who have gone on a date with you get comfortable in terms of being more sexual in how they talk. This is testing the waters to make sure you’re not some kind of born-again virgin prude. He needs to see that you’re thinking of him in a sexual way and not just trying to get dinner tricked on you.
At this point of teasing, you’re basically matching his sexual energy but setting boundaries. The goal is to show him you like him, then show him that you’re not that easy. You’ll talk nasty, but you won’t have phone sex. You’ll kiss, but no tongue. You’ll let him touch you, but with your clothes on. This is teasing. When he laments, “Damn, I want you,” you hit him with, “I know you do, baby,” and that shit destroys a man’s ego. No matter if he’s wealthy or working check to check, all men will react the same—damn, I’m not good enough for her.
When the teased can’t take it, he breaks down or he tries to fight fire with fire. To not be good enough to fuck you or to get you to do anything sexual sends that man back to the drawing board. “How can I get her to hop on my dick.” With that fear now in his heart, he reacts by giving into your power a little, but is also trying to run his own brand of Dick Tactics that look like this:
–Buy you things. Men with money will try to buy your submission.
–Send pictures of his dick. If he has a big dick, he’s going to try and entice your inner freak by showing you what you’re missing out on.
–Have long, deep talks. The way to a woman’s heart is through her mind, so he may talk about how special and different you are or even admit his secrets to gain trust.
–Act distant. Rejecting you could trigger you to give in to him, so he may stop texting as much, not plan a date, and wait for you to come crawling back to him.
Men use several more tactics on women, but for this example, let’s just stick with those. Think about who you are as a woman. Are you able to be bought with money? Not like you’re a prostitute, but in terms of treatment? Guys rarely spoil you, so love bombing you with all this nice shit could break you and make you stop teasing.
Are you the kind of woman who is horny as fuck all the time and try not to let anyone know? A guy talking nasty or sending pictures or videos of himself could make you break. I’ve gotten way too many “I had too many drinks and ended up sucking his dick” stories, so be honest with yourself; you’re an undercover freak with no willpower around certain men.
Are you a woman that’s a sucker for a broken man with a sad story who you want to fix? The long talks, during which you both open up about your traumas and future plans, are where the majority of you fall in love with these men. Your willpower falls like dominoes the moment a man confesses that you’re someone he could see himself marrying.
Are you a woman who has abandonment issues and hates to be ignored? The old reverse psychology trick of cutting you off until you act right is the reason I get many emails late at night. When a man you thought you had under control stops communicating, you panic. Some of you run to me for help, others of you run to him, give him what he wants, and still end up with nothing.
Teasing is the ability to keep a man interested by acting like you’re one week away from giving him everything he wants but then knowing when to pull back with an excuse of your own. When you break a man down into a little boy who is thirsty and desperate, you get the world for as long as you can maintain your appeal as a trophy. This is easy until your own mental issues get in the way. Every man you meet will try to outsmart you with those tricks I just listed, and you have to be mentally tough enough not to break down until you get what you want from this relationship.
STEP 4: ENDGAME
How long can you tease a man? For as long as you want. There are women right now who are “best friends” with other women’s boyfriends or husbands. That “best friend” isn’t platonic; she’s just teased him to the point where he had to move on… BUT if she wants something, she can call him and get it because even though he has a woman, his lust still belongs to her. You all know this, that’s why you get mad when your man pops up with female friends who are pretty.
How long should you tease a man Until you figure out what role he should serve in your life? That depends on if this a potential boyfriend, a trick, or a Sponsor?
Is he boyfriend material or just a trick? If this is someone who you only want to get gifts or money from, then use the tease method I listed above until he stops spending. Walk away, then come back once he starts missing you to get him to trick a little more. Own his mind by being the “trophy he hasn’t had.” Remember, tricks aren’t sponsors. They can only give so much, so get what you can and move on.
Don’t EVER try to make a trick your actual boyfriend because A) He’ll get comfortable and stop tricking. B) He’s thirsty, and he will eventually see a new girl he wants and trick the money he was spending on you on her. Then you’ll really feel like a goofy. Get in, get out, all while never fucking him. That’s how you deal with these low-level tricks, if he’s a Sponsor type, then you work it like this:
Long-term arrangements will come with sex eventually. But you gradually introduce it, never fuck to get things or the promise of things. A man will tell you how he’s going to give you an allowance in a month, run through you, and now you’re left with nothing because you played yourself like a prostitute. If you’ve read Ho Tactics, then you know I don’t condone pay-for-play. You must be smarter than the common whore.
Slow but steady wins the sponsorship tease: He buys you a gift over a certain amount. Now he can suck on your pussy all the ways he’s been texting you about. He puts a car in your name. Now, you’ll give him a little head. He gives you a credit card or puts a condo in your name. Now you can fuck him. It’s a rewards-based system when dealing with true wealthy sponsors. And if they’re older, you may not have to do much because the chase is how they get off now that their dick isn’t working that well.
If this is a man you see as a future boyfriend, maybe even husband, then you tease him until he reveals everything. How many of you regret fucking men who turned out to be trash a month later? You moved too fast. By teasing this man, getting him worked up, forcing him to talk, to date you, and to really bond before he even sucks on a titty, you see the good, then the bad, and then the ugly because he’s upset that you’re not moving at his pace.
Once that anger dies down that he can’t fuck you, you’ll see by the way he continues to date you if he truly likes you or if he was hunting for your pussy. “I’ve teased him for four months, I’ve seen him at his worst and had to check him, I’ve seen him be there for me, and even though we’re not having sex, he’s been consistent.” That’s a man you allow to make your boyfriend and then allow him to sleep with you because he passed the deep vetting test. If you’re not moving like this sexually, then correct it and watch how your romantic mistakes become non-existent.
A Deeper Obsession Than Sex
Teasing works during the initial dating stage. But for those of you already in a relationship what does power look like and how do you get it back once you lost it?
In order to maintain power over men during the relationship stage, you need to be a fucking Spartan. A Spartan doesn’t just try the things I’m writing about; she understands them at her core because she’s not wearing a mask; she is a bad bitch who doesn’t care about teasing a man or risking him running away. A Spartan recognizes that you have to train a man to be what you want, not wait for him to rise to her level.
In Sparta the feelings of men don’t fucking matter, you’re hunting for an equal, not trying to turn a boy into a man, so you tease, test, and deny until he shows his true colors. Most of you reading this are not Spartans. You have little sparks, you may have a Spartan week, but you don’t maintain this energy. You enter into these relationships and forget who the fuck you are, but that’s okay, because I’ll always be here to give you this reminder: She comes before he!
For those of you in a relationship right now or for those of you who will enter one soon, there are a few key things to remember while playing the commitment game:
Male Power = Options & Timetable.
Male Options: Men choose and women agree. 95% of women wait until a man says, “We’re together” or “Will you marry me.” Which means you are always at a man’s disposal in terms of being together. No matter how aggressive you are, you should not ask a man to be your boyfriend or propose to him. Men need to Boss Up and do certain things—and the main thing is to make you his woman verbally. Therefore, you can’t get into a relationship unless a man chooses you. Some of you try to bullshit this stage by ACTING like you’re his girl before it’s discussed, and you end up fucking yourself over by giving girlfriend benefits to a man who will never make you anything more than a fuck buddy.
Male Timetable: Men aren’t in a rush to have children or marry. I’ve never heard any of my friends complain about “My birthday’s coming up, I need to find someone and settle down,” but I hear it all the time from women in their 30s. You want to be young and pretty in that wedding dress. You want a pregnancy with minimal age-related complications—that doesn’t factor in for men. Therefore, they have the power to waste 2, 4, even 6 years of your life, telling you what they want from you but never giving it to you.
Each year that you date without anything serious or each year that you waste with someone who doesn’t want to commit fully is torture because the clock is ticking, and your chances of being chosen by someone decent begin to slip away with age. It’s better to marry late than marry wrong! However, emotions get in the way of your common sense, and you end up giving your heart to the wrong person or rushing to have a child with a man who will disappoint you and your baby. That’s male power. They force women to make romantic choices out of fear, not out of logic… Not in Sparta.
Becoming Undeniable.
“I feel like men are more romantic than women. When we get married, we marry one girl. Cause we’re resistant the whole way until we meet one girl and we think I’d be an idiot if I didn’t marry this girl she’s so great. But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option…‘Oh, he’s got a good job.’ I mean they spend their whole life looking for Prince Charming and then they marry the guy who’s got a good job and is gonna stick around.” – Blue Valentine
At a male’s core is a quest for power and status. Yes, a man will love a woman, live with her, and even have a child, but he won’t truly love her fully because a part of him whispers, “You can do better; she’s not the best we can have.” That may sound fucked up, but I’ll always be honest.
Males will leave you the moment they feel that they can do better. Not in terms of looks but compatibility and attitude. Meanwhile, the average woman will stay and attempt to make all kinds of toxic shit work in the name of love. Fuck that. Your goal in life is to be a woman that a man will NEVER want to leave because every other woman pales in comparison.
The Spartan Recipe
Limited Edition: A Spartan knows that she is irreplaceable and moves accordingly. She isn’t afraid to deny sex; she isn’t afraid to ask for high-level dates or even gifts that prove he’s invested. A Spartan establishes early on that she doesn’t need this man, she won’t chase this man, and she can cut him off. This type of behavior trains a man to treat her differently and lays the foundation of respect.
Show Your Confidence: A Spartan knows that if a man is turned off by her dominant behavior, there will be another to take his place. She is never going to chase after a man, blow his phone up, stalk his social media, or react like women with low self-esteem do. She doesn’t have to act masculine to tap into her power because feminine power is based on seduction, not demands. Instead of being clingy, pushy, jealous, or domineering, a Spartan speaks plainly. She says what she wants, mentions what she doesn’t, and doesn’t give into passive-aggressive games that boil into arguments. A man who sees a woman who isn’t afraid to say what she means, minus the pettiness, has truly found a Unicorn.
Invincible To Mind Games: A Spartan realizes that men swallow red pills throughout their lives, meaning that they think they are smarter than women and will attempt to mindfuck them with various “alpha male” games. A Spartan doesn’t fall for push and pull; she doesn’t get sucked into fake arguments or hot and cold behavior. She “no sells” his behavior and reverses the psychology to mind fuck him right back.
Where He Wants To Be: A Spartan does not hold onto a man who would rather roam. Her job is not to keep him in the house, force date nights, or chase a man in any way. There is no such thing as “Too Busy” in Sparta. If a man isn’t making time, then he’s a waste of your time and will be removed and replaced no matter what potential he showed. A Spartan thrives on knowing that “The Right Man” doesn’t come with “Wrong” energy.
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