“How am I supposed to do better and know better if no one has ever shown me what love is supposed to look like…”

Parents are supposed to be the model you study when it comes to love, but the majority of men and women I talk to experienced one of these childhoods instead:

An abusive or broken household void of love.

Divorced parents who took shots at each other.

Parents who stayed together too long and secretly hated each other.

If you’ve never seen your mother be shown love, grace, respect, and high-value treatment, how are you supposed to recognize that in your own life?

If your father left your mother, cheated on her, or abandoned you to create another family, how are you supposed to trust any man to be loyal?

If your circle of friends is filled with people who have the same fucked up stories or are constantly mistreated by men, then it’s easy to slip into the mindset of “There’s nothing out here...” But regardless of your parents’ relationship or the dating lives of your friends, you STILL want love—You STILL believe in love. So how do you break this cycle?

The problem when manifesting the love you desire isn’t the lack of solid candidates. It’s the mental disease of not knowing when to recognize “healthy love” and walk away from “unhealthy passion.” It's the self-sabotage of "I'm not good enough," or "what happens once they get to know the real me." It's the lifetime of bad habits that you brush off with "that's just how I am," instead of addressing your bullshit.

You overreact because you were raised to be defensive. You shut down because you were raised not to talk back to authority. You assume the worst because you've been taken advantage of. The average adult spends so much time trying to heal from things that aren't even their fault. Parents won't admit they failed you. Instead, they tell you they did the best they could and to stop crying.

How is a person with this kind of backstory supposed to communicate, let alone date, in a healthy way? They can't! Most adults are broken, failing forward, and falling for people who are also damaged. This is a world filled with kids from broken homes creating new homes that are even more broken because they've never been taught that love isn't a struggle. It's time to reverse course and stop pretending!

Men + Trauma = Tragedy

Male Excuse #127: I don’t know how to give you the love you need because I come from a rough upbringing. I was mistreated, so I don’t know how to treat women, how to deal with my emotions, and no one cares enough about me to be patient and fix my pain.

Shut the fuck up, with the gaslighting, bro! These are the clowns y'all like cuddling up with? Really?

No one’s life story is picture perfect, but accountability is the difference between a man who blames his past for his present versus a man who strives to be better despite his trauma. You can’t fix a person who is in love with playing the victim. Nevertheless, every week, I get a story about a woman who’s stuck on some broken man and desperately wants to love him into being better. Welcome to the world of male manipulation.

Red flags are easy to spot. Green flags should be just as easy, but so many of you take a Red Flag and paint it Green because you don’t know what to look for in a relationship. You stay on social media brainwashing yourself with a bunch of bullshit “If a man does this, he’s good. If a man does this, he’s bad” but when you’re face to face with a man those cut and dry “bad man/good man” traits are hard to see because you want what you want. Why are you attracted to the "bad boys" versus the decent guys? It's not hard-wired in you, it's because most predatory men size you up, and infiltrate your heart using this SCRIPT...

Attention. Dick. Rejection.

Attention = He chases you, wants you more than you want him, makes you feel valuable, special, and all the excited feelings that movies tell you are a sign of falling in love.

Dick = He fucks you like he just got out of prison. Sucks the soul out of your pussy. Then he wants to go again. Sex isn’t just sex; it's proof that he wants you, like really wants you, and that's all you've ever wanted was to be shown love. Unlike other men, he’s attentive to your needs and shows you with passionate strokes, deep kisses, and talks you through an orgasm you rarely get to experience until the physical becomes spiritual.

Rejection = The best tool to control a woman is to pour attention, give her epic dick, and then fall back. Mindfucking a woman AFTER she’s comfortable, happy, and satisfied, will convince her that no other man out there can give her these feelings. She will do the most, put up with anything, and most importantly, stay loyal to a fault because that woman knows it all can be taken away again if she doesn’t fall in line. That’s the power a Toxic man brings into an unsuspecting woman’s life.

Repeat after me: Attention. Dick. Rejection. That’s how certain men operate, and even if you know this trick, it’s hard to stop because in between those steps, he’s saying and doing everything you’re looking for from your Prince Charming. It’s a hustle, and today I will teach you how to spot the signs, take action, and turn the tables on this unhealthy relationship so you can Spartan up and turn it into a healthy relationship.

What A Healthy Man Looks Like Vs. What An Unhealthy Man Looks Like

Dating is supposed to be about vetting a man to see if he’s compatible with THREE things: Your personality, lifestyle, and future ambitions.

Can this man handle your attitude and calm your moods respectfully and patiently? Can this man fit into your family life, get along with your friends, and spend quality time with you, no matter his schedule? Can this man bring something to the table that instantly makes your life better—teach you things, expand your mind, add to your net worth, and prove that he’s on the same page in terms of what you want, be it marriage, children, or career aspirations?

...or is that asking too much?

"Come as you are... just be kind of cute... fuck it you can even be half-ugly, I just don't want to be alone anymore" has become the mindset of too many women who repost memes about standards yet throw pussy bassed on small talk and attention.

Laides, you get mediocre men who don't know how to love you because you're not vetting properly! If you don't know what I mean by the word "vetting" or what to ask specifically on a date or in a relationship, CLICK HERE for a free ebook that takes you through the steps. I don't have time to hold your hand through the basics. Today is about the advanced course that most of you should be ready for-- keyword SHOULD. Dating with power isn’t just about knowing what a healthy relationship looks like; it’s about pushing a man’s buttons with questions! Men should serve ONE PURPOSE: Better your life.

Do you ask questions or do you snoop?

Do you clarify or do you assume?

Do you know the kind of man that compliments YOUR PERSONALITY or are you walking around like your coochie is a universal remote: Anyone can activate that shit???

If you can’t verbalize what you’re looking for, how can you take steps to attain it? The unhealthy habits of your childhood have made you a passive airhead as opposed to a master manifestor! You don’t set goals, you sit around! You’re a bystander, not a creator, and that’s why your results are so inconsistent. You’re one step above a fucking NPC (google it, Basica)! You have the same wants as every other basic bitch online, you watch the same shows, reshare the same TikTok’s, wear the same type of clothes, thirst after the same men, and end up falling for the same male lies because you’re a fucking SHEEP not the main character.

The life you live isn’t one of manifesting, it’s one of reacting. You don’t know what you want until some other woman shows you what’s possible! Power is knowing that something is already yours before it happens. Doubt is the disease of convincing yourself you’re not good enough. The problem is you’ve lived in doubt for so long that moving in power seems impossible. Not after today…

The Ultimate Dating Test:

Find a piece of paper because I’m about to put you to work. Below is a short test that will be the most important thing in your dating life in terms of correcting how you think. Let’s begin…

Question One: H...