DEAR WOMEN: You Can’t Be NICE TO MEN
“Dear G.L. I’m a fan of your books, so I figured it was worth a shot to email you what’s been going on. I took a break from dating. I was basically done with men and working on my health, working out, starting a side business, and being a boss chick.
This is hard to say, but although I lost 30lbs and had more money in my bank account than ever, I felt depressed.
G I’m not a pick me but I do want marriage and for the past year and change I had to admit that I’m not happy knowing that no man out there wants me. I’m in my early 30s and I’ve had two relationships, one engagement, and I did everything for these men to prove that I was worthy. Now I sit here, back on your website for the first time in years and I realize I missed everything your blogs tried to teach me back in my mid-20s. I was a doormat, I did center men, and I thought it was my job to prove myself to these guys. Do you think I can ever go back to dating and do it the Spartan way?”
There will never be a world where a heterosexual woman doesn’t want a man as a companion. Your job, your money, the vacations, or the role of “rich auntie” won’t make up for the fact that wanting to be LOVED is in your DNA.
What woman doesn’t want to be the center of a man’s universe? What woman doesn’t want to make love in a luxury hotel with a man who only has eyes for her? What woman doesn’t want to die knowing that she had a man wrapped around her finger and ready to die for her. That’s romance. That’s why novels are written, and movies are made: wanting to be loved by a real man will never go out of style.
No one wants to just date for a free meal. No woman wants to just fly out to get fucked. No woman wants to deal with a man who she has to share or be strung along by a man who only sees her as Placeholder.
You can leave the dating world. You can be “exhausted” from constatnly meeting fuckboys. But if you give up… it only hurts YOU. Real men still exist, ladies. Just because some podcaster or influencer says “I’m happy single” doesn’t mean it’s a movement that you should join because you’re frustrated. Women are still finding their “one” every single weekend.
When will it be your time? That depends on your effort. Either you evolve to get your happy ending, or you go through life lying to yourself like the woman above who emailed me until depression sets in. It’s your choice! I have a free ebook that you all need to read, that will get your mind right and break down how to level up by this time next week…
Do you know how to seduce a man? Can you train him to do what you want? Do you know how to get a man to see you as his MUSE and make him put you first, all without forcing it? Or do you just know how to be the nice, BORING, sweet little girlfriend who gets used up and tossed? This bonus ebook will help you use my philosophy to break the bad habits of being “nice” and start putting yourself FIRST.
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- Introuduction: Why Good Girls Are Losing
- Why Men Who Aren’t Compatible With You Work So Hard To Waste Your Time… and the steps to expose them quick.
- Men Are Becoming Embarrassing… and how to turn the tables and give them a taste of their own medicine
- Why Strong Women Attract Weak Men… and how trying to fix people breaks you.
- Why He Became a Better Man for the Next Woman… and the revelations that will hurt your feelings.
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Before you call him your man, test if his heart is with you or someone else.
Being played may not have happened yet, but statistics say it will…
“It never fails, G.L. The moment I post a guy and share how happy I am, he turns around and makes a fool out of me,” was how one email started.
This woman had not one but three cases of “post a man and find out you’re not the only one” happen. The most recent guy was someone she swore was “the one,” so she did an entire photo dump of date nights, a vacation, and the watch he bought her.
The post wasn’t even up for two hours and other women inboxed her. A male co-worker snitched that he knew how her man really got down. Even her goddaughter got a DM with receipts showing her man trying to pull an 19-year-old the day before.
As men, we keep our friends’ secrets, but ask any guy you’re close with, and he’s going to be just as honest as I am:
7 out of 10 men are living secret lives. All driven by this endless lust for new women, that will crush you if you don’t move with strategy.
Being an internet detective won’t save you…
You can do your Google. Scan his social media pages. You can ask the same old questions you always ask on dates. None of that is going to work on men who aren’t sloppy and know how to play the game.
“I know a liar when I see one,” but that’s a problem: when a man is doing everything right during that honeymoon phase, you’re Ray Charles—you don’t see anything but the attention, treatment, and consistency.
A woman’s not “dumb” for sharing her joy and wanting to let her friends and haters know she’s happy. She’s not “wrong” for going public to let other men know that she’s made it exclusive. The mistake you’re making is that you haven’t fully kicked the tires of this relationship and vetted it like a Spartan.
The solution isn’t to hide his face like he’s a sugar daddy and you’re pussy. Every time I see a basica online with a man’s face covered up, I see raging insecurity because they’re not protecting him, they’re admitting that they know he’s for the streets. Hide him all you want, eventually, the messiness will come out, even if you don’t share a single photo of him. The only way to prevent being embarrassed is to go on the offensive against these clowns masquerading as men.
A hard launch should confirm a relationship—not create one.
Before posting a damn thing, exclusivity should have been discussed out loud. You should know where he lives, how he spends his weekends, who his friends are, and whether the important people in his life know you exist and have spent real time with you. If his male friends say, “All he talks about is you,” it’s real. Not his mom who’s playing along or his sister who has his back, but his male friends. Can you honestly look at this man and check those boxes? Or are you “taking it slow”
Sneaky men don’t want to be posted, they don’t want to be tagged, and they’ll use an example that sounds legit, like their career, online data stealing, or the fact that he’s very private.
A truly private man is private about everything. A secretive man posts his vacations, friends, then suddenly discovers “privacy” when your face enters the frame. Watch his patterns before and after he met you. If he’s suddenly “not into all that stuff,” it’s a sign.
Men understand that a public post closes doors on other women. It also complicates situationships or full-blown relationships he may have going on.
If he’s truly your man, don’t just post him to expose him. A liar will always be prepared for that kind of fallout. Instead, do these next steps to turn the tables…
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