Melanie Fiona wrote the ultimate dumb bitch anthem, "4am". Unlike the horrible video that castrates the lyrics in order to offer up a twist "bitches are just crazy, non man hating" ending, the actual song is phenomenal. A late night confession that dares to be honest when laying out the contradiction that runs through the head of a woman who has disrespect thrown in her face by a man she's in love with. Its 4am, she's not stupid, maybe she's paranoid, but it's warranted because this isn't the first time he's done this. She knows she shouldn't put up with it, but despite intelligently assessing that she's in a fucked up situation what action does she take? None! This dummy doesn't even bother to leave the bed. She simply continues to cry and complain. In our 21st century world of complacent "I can't leave him cus I love him" women, this isn't just a song, it's a battle cry. She's not going to do shit but bark because if she bites him, that may be the end of their relationship. She will accept any fabricated story he pulls out of his ass, because she desperately wants to believe that he is the perfect man and that all the time she's put in wasn't a waste.
When women are in bad relationships, people love to say, "You can do better", as if those four words are going to inspire her lovesick ass to rise up. While it's nice to motivate, you can't teach anyone self worth. The fear of losing a man, even one that doesn't respect her, makes idiots out of smart women. Let's be honest, she can't do better. Every weekend there is at least one woman up at 4am waiting for her man to come home smelling like stripper booty juice so she can curse him out and have make up sex, this is her life because she allows it to be. Those who haven't experienced this don't understand why any woman would put up with the drama. Stop giving these people credit for knowing their value. You can lead a girl with low self-worth to a good man but you can't make her date him. The moment you turn your back...