Relationship Mistakes

"Hey, G. Hopefully you can answer this on your podcast or write me back directly, either way is fine, but I desperately need guidance. About three months into our relationship, I paid $800 to make my boyfriend take a polygraph test. He had no problem with it and said, whatever it took because he wanted to make me feel safe. He passed the test. All was good.
A month later, he sent me a series of texts saying I'm jealous, paranoid, and that I have bipolar tendencies. Leaving out the things he's done that have made me feel jealous and insecure.
My mother took up for him and said that I'm too old to still be running around treating people like they're going to hurt me before they even hurt me. She literally told me I made this bed and that's why I'm going to die alone. She's a horrible person. G, I'm 32 years old, and my mother knew that shit would hurt my feelings, as my sister is 26 and married.
Can you please help out, because I feel that, yes, I have trust issues. Yes, I can get jealous but only when provoked, but I feel that a man who sees my value will work with me to heal these things, not attack me. Am I wrong?"

The person meant for you, can be missed. You can fuck up, and blow it by acting crazy, being too afraid to open up, or even by second-guessing their intentions to the point where you push them into the arms of someone else. I'm not going to sugarcoat the way the world works. If you're mentally not ready for a relationship, no matter how compatible that other person is, it's not going to work.
If I know my value as a man, and I meet a woman who is great during that initial lust stage, then we start to bring out the worst in each other for the next three months, it's a dub. Why would I waste my time knowing that there are other women out there who are more compatible?
Life is about options. When you know what you bring to the table, then you know that ANYONE is replaceable; therefore, you don't deal with crazy, you don't deal with sneaky, and you don'...