Your heart wasn't the first heart to be broken, but to listen to you carry on about all the ways you've been hurt you would think you invented pain.
The difference between those women that conquer heartbreak and grow stronger, and the ones who bitterly hold on to that hurt has nothing to do with DNA. Your Daddy never told you men sell girls dreams like every day is Black Friday, oh well! Her Daddy never told her either, but she figured it out, adjusted, and now eats men for breakfast! Her mental toughness isn’t an exception, but your mental weakness makes excuses as if other women are embedded with special “zero fucks given” microchips. No one skipped over you and forgot to give you strength, you CHOOSE to be soft because being strong requires actual work. For every weak bitch problem I hear, I know a Strong Woman example where a female overcame a man’s bullshit by not crumbling into a victim. A strong woman doesn’t revel in pity, she pushes on. A strong woman doesn’t make excuses for her mistakes, she makes amends. A strong woman doesn’t take her heart and run home, she stays in the game and dares a nigga to try to fool her the same way twice! A Spartan isn’t born with a strong heart, she develops it!
Men will put their dicks in a girl way before they put their trust in one, because we understand the process of getting to know a person has little to do with the physical. No one is worthy of your trust until they prove themselves worthy. Time + Effort = Proof. Paying for a meal and taking you to AMC doesn’t count as being into you. A man with his hand on your thigh, telling you, “I hate guys like your ex,” doesn’t mean he’s going to treat you differently. You look at small gestures as evidence of him falling in love because you aren't used to shit. You believe the lies coming out of his mouth because you're tired of being single, but the burden of proof that he's a good man REQUIRES time spent, effort beyond just trying to fuck you, and actions that consistently match his words.
“See this is what I mean, it’s so hard to know if I’m dating the right way or the wrong way,” is the response a lot of you indecisive women will give. You don’t want to work to vet these men, so you rant about how men need to be more honest. The average man will never be fully honest, so stop being lazy! How hard is it to go on a date, ask questions, and NOT let a him stick his dick in you because he pulled your chair out and asked about your day??? It blows my mind how girls with the most trust issues tend to be the most trusting! Make men put in consistent work over time and you won’t get hurt. "But how long," there you go again, Basica. You want that drop your guard relationship stage so bad that you aren't vetting on dates. You giggle, throw pussy, and hope for the best which is why you keep getting love bombed and tossed. I know you're better than that, so why don't you act like it?
The majority of women reading this have an explanation for every bad relationship they've been though, a side of the story that will garner sympathy and support, and make her an exception to the rules of love. Bitch, please. Your story is undoubtedly the same as thousands of women across this planet! She overcame the same backstory as you, and found true love. You are sitting there still mad, on the internet, being a victim and saying stupid shit like "Dating sucks" or "Marriage is outdated" because you aren't built like the woman who picked herself up and manifested a better romantic life. You are to blame for your life's choices! Your mindset is to blame for your life's choices! It’s time to stop pointing the finger at the man, the situation, even yourself and understand the "why" of your behavior so you can finally move the hell on. Let's begin with the first step to getting your shit together. There are two categories that men put women in the first is...