What is a situationship, and how do you turn it into a real relationship? A situationship is a romantic connection without clear commitment, where you act like a couple but leave out the labels, consistency, or long-term direction. Many women find themselves stuck in situationships wondering why a guy won’t commit, what the signs mean, and how to upgrade the connection into something serious.
It's not your looks. It's not because you were tricked. AND despite what a man tells you, it's not because "he's not ready for something serious." Situationships are mostly born out of a mutual decision to go with the flow... maybe you don't want anything deep after your last breakup or maybe you only wanted sex and companionship. Regardless of the "how" 90% of the women who I've talked to who ended up in a situationship regretted them.
"We're building... let's see where it goes... I have a lot of things on my plate..." Is an excuse, and if you've ever been so silly over dick that you accepted those excuses and STILL had sex, then you need to finish this entire article!
Casual sex isn't "adult and edgy," it's demeaning. Being traumatized and calling it "savage" or "dating like a man" isn't cool; it's proof that you need healing.
You are too special, too amazing, and too smart to AirBnB your pussy in the name of "we're just friends, it's nothing serious."
I've sold over a million books. I've helped countless women get married, which means that I've been doing this long enough to know that NO SELF-RESPECTING WOMAN wants to be in a situationship. They choose this path because they want to safely have companionship without the fear of being hurt again. Trust me... that person you're giving your prized possession to will always have the power to hurt you, and it's only a matter of time before they embarrass and humiliate you, label or not.
Women fought to gain so many rights in the 20th century, only to see 21st-century women turn right around and give up one of their most important rights: The ability to demand an exclusive relationship.
If a man tells you he doesn't want anything serious or acts as if he doesn't want anything serious, then you follow his lead and fit into the box he wants to put you in. He doesn't want a traditional relationship; you do, but you can't look thirsty, so you pretend to be cool with being unofficial while still giving this man all the official benefits. Huh??? Who raised you to be that idiotic?
I always hear Basicas say, "I didn't want anything serious either at first, but my feelings changed, now I do want a relationship with him."
OMG, you mean to tell me three months of spending every day talking to a person, texting, and fucking resulted in deep romantic feelings!? No, that's impossible, how can that be when you said that wasn't what you wanted??? Because Science, dumb ass!
Of course you were going to catch feelings despite what your mouth was saying, the problem is that we as men don't feel the same way about you no matter how many times we tell you we love your or how often we pipe you down. He told you that you were special or different from other girls--HA! If he meant that he would make you his girl, he hasn't for a reason! He's still dating around, don't think he's not!
A situationship is the best way for a man to get girlfriend benefits from a girl he isn't sure about. Being exclusive to a man who is still shopping around for a BETTER WOMAN makes you a Placeholder, not a Game Changer, and you need to value yourself enough to understand that you are NOT an exception to the rule who will one day change his mind!
