Why can’t I get past the first date…

Why do I keep getting ghosted…

Why do I get stuck in situationships…

Women constantly ask me these questions, but at the core of this struggle is one thing: Each one of you wants a BOYFRIEND. A committed, exclusive, monogamous relationship with someone who only has eyes for you. As corny as it sounds, you want companionship– scratch that, you NEED companionship.

“Not me, I don’t need a man for anything I’m happy doing me,” yeah okay, Ms. Feminine divine energy law of attraction ass face, you can tell yourself that lie but I’ve seen this play out thousands of times for over a decade. 99% of women I’ve met have a hole because no matter how many “ain’t shit” men they come across they still thirst for male love. Too many of you become exclusive with men who tell you that they still don’t want to commit.

Too many of you give up pussy and mouth to men who don’t even take you on dates. And far too many of you pretend that you don’t want anything serious so you don’t get hurt, only to end up being hurt ANYWAY. Stop playing games with your heart! Wanting love does not make you WEAK. If you’re ever to become a true Spartan you have to be willing to admit your truth– say that shit to the universe without fear of failure– I WANT A MAN. …now allow me to show you how to manifest that, step by step.

How to Break Old Habits

“I’m eating right, my skin is healthy, my money is up, and I just met the man of my dreams. Manifestation works!” …a month later, you get fucked over, ghosted, and are back to eating your feelings and spending all your money. Manifestation doesn’t work the way you think it does. Anyone can get random results. Anyone can stumble into what looks like heaven only to find out it’s hell.

In order to change your world, to attract with your mind, that mind has to be strong and consistent! Ask the universe for love, and it will send you someone who will test you before it will send a person who will bless you.

Why doesn’t it ever work out? Because you asked for something you weren’t ready to handle, you asked for a test you weren’t able to pass, and your higher self protected you from your lower intentions. Your world knows NEVER to give you a damn thing until you are mentally ready, and let’s be honest: You are not ready for most of the things on your vision board.

I am a Warrior Queen that sets the rules of my relationship *POOF * it happens… a man takes you on one date, tells you you’re special, and you revert into that’s bae. What happened to standards? What happened to power? What happened to making that man chase? The relationship crumbles just as quickly as it began because that dude was never Bae, you were just basic. He exposed you. Now the question is how are you going to fix what’s broken so you pass these kinds of tests?

You choose violence on the internet, but choose cowardice when it comes to these men because you’re an undercover Pick Me. Power attracts power. Weakness attracts predators. Look at your life and tell me which one you’ve attracted.

The reason you’re getting ghosted or getting suckered into these situationships where you wait for the man to tell you what he wants is because you’re fake strong and filled with false confidence. You talk a good game, but no matter how many inspirational YouTube videos you watch, how many empowerment quotes you spit out, or how many cosmetic upgrades you get, in the end you’re still a weak little girl with low self esteem.

No matter how tough you talk between relationships, the REAL you is that person who shows up in an actual relationship. Men don’t like to be pressured to give out titles, so you don’t pressure. Men don’t like to pay on dates, so you compromise. Men don’t like to be asked questions about their jobs, so you don’t bring it up. He hasn’t called in days, but when he does call asking to come through, you don’t even hold him accountable!

Look at you walking on egg shells again, when you swore you were going to do better. The habits of your love life have shown that you’re all talk, and rarely stand your ground. Sure you can bully the simps or act tough when it comes to guys you find unattractive, but every time your TYPE pops into your life, you repeat the same mistakes and take the same loses…

In the end, you’re not a Spartan, you’re a little girl that got tough for a few months when things were hopeless, and you needed an esteem injection. Now that you’re back to consistent dick, conversation, and cuddle sessions the last thing you want to do is rock the boat, even if that boat is floating on a river of lies. You are a weekend Spartan that only wants to stand up for herself after an argument or learn how to use her Power when things reach a boiling point. That’s not being powerful, that’s being a perpetrator!

You think like a Spartan inside the house, but as soon as you step outside to put it to the test you let this world beat you back into bad habits. The Universe keeps giving you these men of low value and poor character for because you’re confused as to what you truly want out of life. You say you need a certain type of man, YET chase another type. Stop sabotaging the process by contradicting yourself each time you start dating, then wonder why you have poor results.

How to Free Your Mind

One of the main reasons why many women will never be able to Spartan Up is Bullshit Fantasy Thinking. There is a little voice in their heads that sounds like a British Fairy God-Mother, and it’s telling them that everything will be fine. You just need to meet the right man, and he will appreciate your character and shower you with the level of affection that will have made all the turmoil worth it. Womp Womp!

This Disney Princess mentality tells you that the good girl gets the good guy 100% of the time, and it has morphed the reality of real dating and created a generation of airheads who are easy to fuck. *bzzzzzzz* Every time an iPhone vibrates, a basic bitch gets hustled out of pussy. Lies don’t sound like lies when a man looks the right way. Bullshit smells like roses when a man flashes a little money. And a dead end looks like a happy ending when a man can sell a love starved woman on potential.

Remember The Little Mermaid, the beautiful misunderstood fish girl that saved the prince from drowning and made him fall in love. It showed the power of sacrifice, and how you should go for what you want—Wrong! The Little Mermaid is about Ariel the half-fish half-thot who sold her voice for dick. You too can find the man of your dreams, if you are willing to sacrifice everything to be with him, it’s not like your “voice” is important. This ho lived under water and was still thirsty, you live in a city with countless single men, yet you still hold on to the same ain’t shit dude, different ocean, same fish. Aladdin gave us Princess Jasmine who was strong, free spirited, and courageous. Then she let this bum ass street rat win her over by perpetrating a fraud that he’s a baller who just pretends to be bumming it. This idiot Jasmine is a metaphor for every woman that has accepted a man’s lies, forgave him, and is happy to forget because men have the right to manipulate women if they have a good heart. In the end, Aladdin can let that Genie go because he just hooked a bitch who is about to inherit a fortune. The moral of the story? Take care of a lying ass dude and give him all your family’s money because he loves you.

A generation of young girls internalized this shit! As they grow out of cartoons they are still fed fantasy by their friends, parents, and told at every turn what to do so they won’t end up lonely. Play your position if you want a boyfriend… No play this position if you want a boyfriend… No play that position if you want a boyfriend. Women listen to all of this submissive relationship advice that says, “You have to roll over if you want a man to put up with your shit.” Why does Beauty have to put up with the Beast? You all have been brainwashed to tap dance for these men! Now that you’re older you haven’t rejected this mindset, you’re still doing circus tricks to get chose. PICK ME! I WILL SPOIL YOU! I WILL SUBMIT! I WANT TO BE A PRINCESS LIKE I WAS PROMISED. It’s time to break free from the bullshit!

If your happiness is tied to your quest to find a boyfriend, then you’ve already lost. Life isn’t about mastering how to be a good woman for “him”, Queens weren’t born to thirst after rings and relationship status, they were born to rule. This world trains women to stay on their knees, because those that learn to stand ask too many questions. It’s a bunch of weak bitch propaganda, and in the end weak minded women will continue to listen to that Bullshit fantasy voice, because unlike the voice of reality aka the voice of Spartans, it gives her hope that she will live happily ever after. Fuck hope, you don’t need hope if you have the Confidence and Common Sense of a Warrior Queen. You should never hunt for a boyfriend, you should hold multiple interviews until one emerges from the pack. So the question is, are you going to keep listening to what sounds good, or are you going to be a realist and Spartan Up 24-7/365?

How to Manifest a Man

There’s a trick to the law of attraction that isn’t normally shared with people. The first step in this process is to understand the battle going on in your mind. You are negatively charged and positively charged. Powerful minds, those that can manifest without it being considered a coincidence or luck, are in balance. It’s impossible to be positive all the time. It’s insane to think that you can nice your way thought life like a monk. You have to understand the duality of the player you call self and understand how to become in tune when playing this game you call life. Your past has tainted you, parents, friends, media, and now social media.

That chaos is why you overthink, second guess, and doubt your power. You are a goddess. You can have anything you want, but to even think that right now makes you feel weird doesn’t it? You’re afraid you’re not being humble, that you’re being sacrilegious, and that Karma or God will punish you for thinking of yourself so highly. That “Disney mentality” is there to remind you to be a good girl, to wait your turn, and play nice. But that’s not working so you’re frustrated. You try to manifest a better life and a better relationship, but each year you get fool’s gold or disappointment. Again, this is because you’re not in balance.

I could fill a book with the training it takes to master this, but I’ll keep it as simple as this: Be aware of your thoughts. When dating you’ll have a little voice that gives you the Disney approach, that will lead you to make the same mistakes. I want you to counter that Disney approach with the Spartan voice, my voice, that will guide you thought this process. I want you to bookmark this article and come back to it often to get back in balance. When you’re in the real world and trying to date, you’ll forget what I’ve written you’ll get out of balance. You have to stop doing that. You have to rewire your brain, undo the brainwashing, and then and only then will you be able to hijack your mind and manifest things faster and faster over time.

How to Approach a Man

Disney Approach: Men like to be men and do the chasing. Therefore you can’t be too forward or that will either turn him off or make him think you’re a slut. There is never a need to approach a man first because you are infringing on his manhood and insulting him. Women who aren’t hoes or masculine wait for an interested men to walk up to them and show interest. By going out of his way to talk to you, it proves that he is serious and that you are what he’s after, and not just settling for a woman who forced her number into his phone. This type of woman may not meet Prince Charming every time out, but he will eventually come. Since he pulled you, there will be no confusion as to if he is genuinely into you for you, this is how you know that it is real. You must always project feminine energy. If you want to find true love, dress in a way that will catch his eye, tone down your attitude, be submissive and he will fall for you.

Spartan Approach: Men do not give a fuck about gender roles anymore, and neither should you. The days of John Wayne smoking a cigar while you trot your ass in the kitchen and make him a steak was a wonderful era for weak bitches because it gave them a designated place to be—in the kitchen. Domestication is dead. Your role isn’t defined by men, it’s determined by you. Therefore, if you feel like the guy with the beard two seats down from you is cute, you should approach him. Oh no, what will he think? If you’re pretty he’ll think, “Wow, she’s on my dick, I bet I can fuck her by the end of the week.” If you’re ugly he’ll think, “Man, why didn’t her friend come over instead? I’ll take her number and fuck her if I’m bored.” That’s not the way a woman wants to come off to a man, that’s horrible! No, Mulan, that’s reality.

Yes, men will think you just want to fuck, and the truth is you do want to fuck, but only if the circumstances are right. You aren’t easy, so him thinking you’re easy does you no harm. Exchange numbers, let him blow up your phone trying to get you to come over that week, don’t be offended, simply put him in his place by showing him what kind of woman you really are—one that needs to be taken out, not brought in.

You came for him, because you don’t have time to be waiting around all night, not because you were desperate. Desperation would be accepting numbers from 5’s and 6’s because you don’t have the big purr energy to grab that 9 or 10. Now that you made the move, he still has to put in work, if he doesn’t like the thought of that—there’s a function on all phones called “delete.” A guy not approaching you first is not a reflection of his manhood or your ability to get chose. Which do you want to be, too good to speak first or too good to settle for bum dudes that approach you first??? If you see a job opening, you apply for it, you don’t wait to be recruited. Get the stick out of your ass, and get what you want instead of accepting what’s handed to you because you fear the approach. “But my Aunt says men should come up to you,” then you should tell your aunt to buy you a cat, because that’s who you’re going to end up living with so long as you play by those outdated rules. The ends justify the means.

How to Communicate With a Man

Disney Approach: An interested man will call you within two days of getting your number. Do not text or call him first, as that will make you seem thirsty and loose. When he does call you first, be sure to sell yourself as different from the rest. Men love to hear about how you are the best at school or work, and all of your grand plans to conquer the world. Make sure to repeat stories about how you don’t hang with too many females and that the ones you are cool with look up to you because you’re wise. It’s okay if you don’t ask him personal questions, men are private, so take this opportunity to talk about yourself in depth so he clearly understands that he hit the jackpot. If he doesn’t call you back after your 2-4 hour conversation where you spilled out every detail of your life, do not text him first the next day. When he finally returns your call or text and asks to see you, don’t be too difficult, channel your divine feminine and allow him to see you on his terms, that will make him feel strong– and men need a woman that makes him feel strong. It’s always important to let a man lead while you follow.

Spartan Approach: When you want to talk to a man, you hit him up whenever you feel like it. Girls wait, Women initiate. Send a text with something interesting to ask, not just to check in. The only thing a man hates more than dry pussy is dry texting, so show some personality, not just the ability to write “WYD”. Act your age and engage, that’s how you separate yourself from the other six women he’s texting at the same time. If you’re progressive enough to put on your big girl panties and call, make the first conversations about him, not you. You learn about a man by listening to him talk, not listening to yourself ramble on. Nobody gives a fuck about your last two relationship or why men always disappoint you. You come off like damaged goods if all you can talk about is who doesn’t like you and why they are wrong. I repeat nobody gives a fuck. Keep the conversation interesting and stop talking about you you you. Avoid typical conversation about where you live and what you hate or love about it, the colors that look best on your nails, or how you’re the “one friend everyone comes to for advice.” He truly doesn’t give a fuck, and it makes you seem boring and basic.

Pussy grows on trees while good conversation has to be refined like oil. Be Iraq, bitch. Your conversation should be so good that it makes him want to invade you and set up a permanent government! If he doesn’t respond back to your text. Fuck him. If he doesn’t return your call. Fuck him. If he only responds to ask if you want to come and see him. Fuck him. If a man acts flakey during any time the first week that you meet him. Say it with me, “Fuck him.” You have options; they are called every other man on the face of the earth.

In terms of questions and vetting, never be afraid to get in a man’s business, you do not owe him privacy! He’s trying to smash, don’t you think you should know more about him than his favorite NBA team and his feelings on Drake? Think about it, Pocahontas, he wants to insert his dick inside you, there isn’t an act more intimate, so why are you afraid to ask him about his life? I’m not talking about who he talks to and if he wants something serious, those are dumb ass questions. Where does he work, what does he do, what are his short-term goals, not his fantasy “I got this App idea” bullshit goal, but his six month plan. A refusal to get in his business is the same as allowing him to lie to you. “Girl, we talked all night” is for teenagers; don’t be blinded by the chitchat, who is this man? Make him open up never settle for what he wants to talk about.

How to Get Dates from a Man

Disney Approach: If a man wants to take you out for a good time, he will offer up his services when he is ready. There is no need to ask first, this makes you seem like a gold-digger. Men today take their time when courting, and he may need several days to clear his schedule for you, so be patient and continue to talk to him until he comes around with an invite. When he asks if he can see you, always be available. It is in bad form to talk to a man all week, then not be available when he wants to see you. You do not want to seem like you are a cock tease, so even if you have plans, cancel them so you can go on a date with him, this proves you are into him and moves you closer to being his woman.

Some men do not have much money, this is fine, and you can pay your own way or split things down the middle if this makes him feel comfortable. Always keep extra cash on you in case his card is declined or the meal is more than he has, this is the quality of a good selfless woman. Show a man that you’re compromising, and he will show you love. If your fellow does not want to go through the hustle and bustle of dinner, a movie, or any outside event, be open to house dates. This could be an opportunity to show him that you can cook, and divorced women always say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If he wants to bring you back to his place, don’t resist out of fear, show him that you don’t need a flashy date, just quality time on the edge of his bed watching Disney+, while he rubs your thigh. You don’t need finance for romance, be understanding and you will be rewarded.

Spartan Approach: What the fuck is the point of calling you every day if he isn’t trying to take you out? You’re not looking for a text buddy, you’re looking for a grown ass man that will treat you like a grown ass woman. Within a week of meeting you he should find an activity that he thinks you will enjoy, and ask you on a date. If you’re busy, then tell him to reschedule. If you need an extra day to get your hair done, then tell him to reschedule. If you just don’t feel like being bothered then tell him to reschedule. You don’t move at his pace, you move at yours because you’re the fucking Queen of this world and a man must see your time as valuable enough to make dating work around your schedule. If he doesn’t call to reschedule because his feelings are hurt, then delete Prince Playtex from your phone, you have no time for sensitive men.

When a man asks you out on a date, don’t just accept because you want to see him. Make sure his suggestion is up to your standards. If you have to go up to the counter to order your food and then sit down, that’s not a date. If you have to pay for your own ticket and popcorn, that’s not a date. If you have to go pick him up, and then drop him back off, that’s not a date. If he asks you to hook him up with gas money, that’s not a date. If he takes you to a dive bar and makes you stand around and yell conversation in his ear, that’s not a date. If it involves drinking coffee, that’s not a date! Make him realize that this is Your Pussy that he’s dealing with, not her pussy, not his exes’ pussy, not his homegirl’s pussy, not his co-worker’s pussy, Your Pussy! Your Pussy gets taken on real dates. “I’m just trying to chill and vibe” is not how Queens get courted! How can you look yourself in the mirror knowing you busted it open for takeout and Netflix? Know your worth! Vocalize your worth! If he offers BS counter with quality. You don’t beat around the bush, you don’t beg, you don’t suggest, you show him how a woman like you is courted or his number leaves your phone.

How to Use Pussy Power

Disney Approach: These other women talk a good game, but you are one of the few women blessed with a magical vagina. No man can resist you after sex, so be careful to wait 90 days until he proves he is ready to handle all that goodness. …well, 90 days may be too long since you haven’t had any dick besides that of an ex-boyfriend, so if things get tense and you give in, don’t worry. Having sex with you will make him want you more. You are not like other women, your ex said you had better pussy than his current girlfriend, so that has to be the truth. Sex will glue this new man to you and it will lead you to the promise land of an actual relationship.

Spartan Approach: Pulling a rabbit out of a hat is magic, pulling down your panties is a trick any bitch can do. Pussy power isn’t about giving up pussy, it’s about setting the value of your pussy so high that men will have to wonder why you think you deserve special treatment. And the thing about men, they are obsessed with finding out what’s so special about a girl! It doesn’t matter when you have sex, but it takes time to promote the legend of your vagina. By the time he finally has sex with you, it’ll be more than a nut, you will have infiltrated his mind. Cave in to dick pressure too soon and see where that gets you.

After the new pussy feeling wears off, you’re left back where you started, single and placing blame. Your ex or the past randoms you recycle in order not to raise your sleep number, all say you have a bomb box, but why don’t they want you? All the sex you’ve had, and it never made anyone you actually wanted stick around. Every girl thinks they have good pussy, but few know how to prove it with results. I hear a lot of talking, but where’s the physical proof Sunshine?

Sex is a weapon, only if you know how to tease and build it up. Make a man infatuated by making him chase, making him spend on date, and seducing him between dates like the next time may be the RIGHT time. Only when he’s invested Time, Energy, and Money while courting you, should you even consider giving it up. You’re too old to be just catching a body for a quick nut. Make him work for it, then throw it on him in the all the nasty ways you’re capable of so he feels rewarded for that effort. Then, be sure not to fall into “sex as a date”. He still has to keep up the pressure, he still has to put in the time, he doesn’t get to just come over for sex, other activities have to remain. This is so simple, but the Disney mindset will sneak in, and you’ll take your foot off the gas and let this guy get boyfriend benefits without the title. Fuck that. Even after you get sex out of the way, your pussy doesn’t come out unless he’s continuing to do his job in terms of treating you like a Queen.

How to Command Respect

& Get Chose

Bullshit Approach: Keep doing what you are doing. You may have to go through ups and downs, but real men reward loyalty, and all women have to go through hell to make it to heaven. No matter, what the good lord puts you through in terms of this man’s temperament, stand by his side, and remember this too shall pass! There is no need to be paranoid or pressure him to move at your pace in terms of a serious relationship. Men do things on their own schedule and the fact that he talks to you daily and comes over to chill means that you are special.

You don’t need a definite answer as to what you are officially, be grateful that you have found a man that wants to spend time with you even if it is in the house. There are dozens of women that would die to have a “friend” like yours, don’t complicate things by pushing him to be more or demanding a label, that is a sure fire way to push him into the arms of another woman. A man will distance himself if you speak your mind or make demands. Play your position, and eventually he will get so comfortable that you end up getting everything you want in the end. There is no need to stress, everything will work out if you continue to be understanding and love him with all your heart.

Spartan Approach: It’s time to stop listening to your inner Disney Princess and stop reinforcing fantasy thoughts that tell you, everything will be okay if roll over, sacrifice, and submit for a man! It won’t be okay, and your dating history has showed that no matter if you are compromising or defensive, you still get fucked over. It’s not about being “this level of nice” or “this level of hard” it’s not about gimmicks at all! You are God in the flesh. You don’t need to overthink what you want, you have to trust in your power. When you jump on a dating app thinking that you won’t find anyone, then you won’t. When you go out with your friends thinking that every guy in the building will be ugly, they will be. When you get so lonely and tell the universe that you just want someone to do couple shit with, you will get “someone” but not the right one. You have to gain a better control over your mind, stop letting fear keep you off balance and causing you to manifest bullshit.

That inconsistent man you keep holding onto, you manifested him from a weak place. Those guys who date you but just want to fuck, nothing more, you manifested them from a weak place. Your current relationship or lack thereof is a result of weak thinking, desperate thirst, and brainwashing. Look at your life, who are you? Shades of what other people have told you to be battling against who you really are, and that has created this anxiety filled mess of a life that keeps holding you back!

Remember who you are, get what you REALLY want, it’s that simple. Tonight I want you to meditate on what kind of man you want. Hold onto the qualities. Visualize what that life is like. Then live in your Spartan power without a time clock on when love is supposed to happen. Go on the dating apps confident. Go out to grab a drink, knowing that the universe is getting ready to send you what you want. Be open to receiving, instead of worrying so much! When you meet someone decent, don’t jump for joy, don’t make them bae, test them! See if it’s an old manifestation or someone who is truly worthy by doing the things I wrote above with the Spartan approach to dating. Most importantly, know that what you want is already yours. Not on some fake self-help bullshit, but on some “I run this world” Spartan wisdom that you’ve gotten if you read my books. The only thing standing in your way is keeping this Spartan mindset when you log off this website. Can you stay empowered long enough to manifest what you want without slipping backwards… are you ready to do that work?